8 reasons: romantic words are important
ways romantic words can influence your home
Being romantic plus using romantic words has been one of the
relationship issues that is being very contentious from both
religious fanatics and people of the secular world.
Romance however has being embraced by the secular world more
than the people of church circle.
Most Christians are of the opinion that being romantic is
synonymous to being worldly which means that being romantic
or using romantic words is not biblical. Can that be true?
Romance is one of the basic ingredients that spurs or lubricates a
love relationship well and is expected of every partner in such
As a principle it is necessary to learn and adapt to romantic
lifestyles for emotional stability in love relationships.
People in Other forms of relationship need not get romantic to
keep it stable.
The truth is, romance is a spice that has kept a lot of marriages
from breaking. Any marriage that is not romantic is at the verge
of breaking or better still is 80% fail and divorce is eminent
unless an immediate action is taken on time on the positive
Once your partner starts behaving as your roommate just know
that something is wrong, that something that was there has
disappeared. Try finding out what that is and you both get it fix
Even if it demands going out for a romantic dinner at new
THINGS THAT DESTROY A MARRIAGE
Many homes and marriages today are destroyed not because the
partners were not made for each other or that their background is
But many are destroyed and ruined today because of the negative
changes that evolved in the process of adjusting to the effect of
their new chapter in life called marriage.
These are as followed:
- Sudden Changes in Lifestyle
- Dressing and appearance
- Circle of friends
- Avoiding responsibilities
- Lack of mutual Respect
- Self Comparison with others
- Lack of frequent communication
Sudden Changes in Lifestyle: When the changes in your
lifestyle such as the way you live, talk, your sense of courtesy
and reasoning is nothing to write home about, you freak him/her
out any time you open your mouth to speak.
When you’re no more careful of your choice of words towards
your spouse, which are mostly provocative. You react and
capitalize on every single mistake that occurs in the house, from
your spouse, kids, or maids etc. And most time s/he may choose
to keep mute or dress up and step out for a walk.
Please note by this action you are indirectly driving your partner
out of your home, and your life.
Dressing and Appearance: You are married, so what else is it
you want more than a responsible life which is mostly reflective in
your choice of dressing? No you already have a man/woman so
don’t let your external dress code be provocative, inviting and
explosive rather dress smart and sharp, while paying attention to
the styles that matches your body physique and colors that
matches your complexion.
For the ladies, its not once you are married, you join the Married
Women Dressing Committee (MWDC) to start dressing to cover
from your head to your feet, while he is still young and fresh.
Do you want to hear the truth?
“He is seeing you as an elderly woman, not a young lady he
married and that’s the truth.” dress in a way that he will start
composing his own romantic words mend looking at you, without
looking through a love text message app to compose
You are losing value and you need to work on it fast before he
starts looking outside.
your dressing has a lot to do with the romance in your married. so learn to dress to romance your husband.
advantage is that, it will help him to look back home because his wife can dress.
Circle of Friends: it is not good to be a married woman/man and
still keep people who knows nothing about building a home as
your friends and expect to have a happy home. That’s an irony
What advise can they offer when you are troubled in your
relationship with your spouse?
They will not tell you to go back to your spouse and sort things
out rather they will be more comfortable having you sit out with
them even if its 11pm.
So I ask” is that the kind of friends married people or soon to be
couple should keep?
Please keep friends that are responsibly married to their spouse.
Avoiding Responsibilities: You cooked for him anytime you
visited him/ you bought gifts and card, phone alerts every now
and then during your courtship but after wedding, you got a
house help, you became madam/Sir,
you no longer cook his meal, wash his clothes/ no more special
gifts and alerts for your spouse. The bed room you and your
spouse sleeps on is done by the house help.
Everything done in the house is done by the house maid including
taking care of your spouse stomach etc.
should I advise you?
One day, the house help will also take care of your spouse’s
needs in the bed.
So make yourself available for your spouse’s need at home. Don’t
work around with the title Married man/woman without doing
your duty as a married person at home.
Women like anything alerts be it credit or airtime alerts, so
continue doing what you started and even do more
Lack of Respect: One thing you need to know is that women
needs all the attention that they can get and men need all the
respect they can get in their relationships
When you and your spouse starts acting the opposite. If he says
yes, you say No, you don’t do anything s/he says nor listen to
him/her for once, you are simply washing off the savour in your
Please there is a great need for mutual respect, if your
relationship must work.
Like commonly said “action speaks louder than words” ladies
should allow their husbands to be the head of the home and their
opinion respected despite their financial status. Respect should be
seen the more in your actions towards each other.
Comparison: If you want a happy and romantic home, never
compare your spouse nor your home with your neighbor’s or your
friend’s spouse/home openly nor secretly.
N/B another person’s home will always remain another person’s
home and your home is your home. Try and set your home well
both with prayers and make it work.
Men hates comparison while some ladies may tolerate it some
may not as their male counterparts.
Are we communicating?
Lack of Communication: Do you know that once you and your
spouse stops expressing your thought/feelings to one another
maybe through romantic words, play etc
that’s how your home starts getting scattered?
When you two knows nothing about each other, that’s how you
become a stranger to each other in your home.
Communication and prayer Is the key every home should not
misplace no matter the situation.
To have a good relationship with your spouse, you need
communication in order to get to know and understand each
No home nor relationship survives without communication,
especially long distance relationship.
There must always be a means of communication that connects
you two together.
Work on yourself, don’t bring in a third party into every small
issue that occur in your home.
N/B There is no home that doesn’t have nor face challenges.
How you handle it is what really matters.
THINGS EVERY MARRIAGE NEEDS apart from romantic words are:
ABSENCE OF THIRD PARTY
ABSENCE OF UNFRIENDLY FRIENDS
ABSENCE OF COMPARISON
GOOD DRESSING SENSE
ABSENCE OF TOO MUCH FRIENDS
NO RESTRICTION OF SECRETS FROM EACH OTHER
BACKUP BOTH IN PUBLIC OR YOUR SPOUSE
THINGS TO AVOID
CLUBING EXCEPT WITH YOUR SPOUSE
IRRITATING LIFE STYLE
REDUCE YOUR DRINKING HABIT
TRYING TO ALWAYS HAVE THE FINAL SAY
DISCRIMINATION BE IT PUBLICLY OR PRIVATELY
so learn to use romantic words with your spouse and spice up the romance in your home.