6 SIGNS YOU WERE NEVER IN LOVE
Someone once asked me Joy, is it possible to be in a relationship with someone whom you were never in love with?
My answer is yes.
Note: being in love and dating is two different things.
It is possible, for you to date someone without being in love with
the person. Things happen that we have no choice but to accept whatever life throws at us, the same thing happens in a relationship.
It is not all happy homes we see today that started with love but the love later gradually developed.
Love is never an assurance of a happy ending, it is just a starting point. So without understanding, love doesn’t stand a chance.
- Below here are the signs you were never in love:
- EVERYTHING DISPLEASES YOU
- YOU FEEL SINGLE
In under one week or two, you already start imagining your life with him. (illusion)
You feel like moving in with him, you start thinking of the future
but two months later, you get tired.
- Everything displeases you:
Once everything he/she does displeases you or irritates you, you get angry easily then you
are dating but not in love.
You don’t feel comfortable around him/her you feel like you are
being control or cage.
You are so tied around him counting what comes out from your
mouth so as not to reveal your secrets to him.
From feeling uncomfortable, you now decide to start keeping
distance from your partner.
Most times, you prefer going out with your friends to going out
with your partner, you end up
looking for excuses to avoid going out with him/her.
Since everything displeases you and you can’t walk out to avoid people blaming you, you now
wait decided to wait for a chance for something to happen so as to use that as a reason of
walking out of the relationship.
- You feel single:
You are in a relationship with someone who loves you so much, almost to worship the ground
you walk on.
He is ever faithful but yet, you just don’t see yourself falling for you the same way he does.
Your heart doesn’t beat fast when you see him or chat with him.
You still see yourself feeling lonely, your heart is empty.
most times when your heart wants to play with your brain it brings a flash of a guy you once
admire a lot and you see yourself smiling.
That’s because you are not in love with the person you are with.
CAN YOU STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT LOVE??
Well, yea you can start in a relationship without love but it usually doesn’t end well, because if at the end of it, what you were there for or expecting is no more available, you will be pushed within you to leave the relationship.
Examples of such things are:
- Physical Appearance
- Family influence.
- Political Career
- Show off etc etc.
So it is better you build your relationship with someone you love and he or she loves you back if not the same, more than what you offer.
Love is about sacrifice and sacrifice is about giving and taking. (GIGO). If you are not sure of someone, don’t plan a future together with the person. How do you know a person???
Establish friendships, then you will get to know them.
WHAT ARE THE SIGNS THAT YOU ARE IN LOVE
Well, love is a natural thing, it happens especially when you are less expected. Love is beautiful and real but it takes wisdom, understanding, and patience to know love when you see one.
- You think about them more often than usual.
- You don’t stay angry at them, for a long time even when you want to.
- You want to see them happy, which means that their happiness also means a lot to you.
- You can defend them in public, not minding how stupid you may end up looking.
- You laugh at every silly joke they make even when it’s not that funny, you try to make it look like it’s fun, To avoid them feeling bad or down.
- You have peace of mind.
- You react every time they cross your mind with a smile.
- Nervous at times when you are around them.
- You feel excited and brand new within and outside.
- You become friendly to people, including people you haven’t spoken with before.
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