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11 Tools that can spice up intimacy in your relationship

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Why intimacy dies in marriages

Intimacy matters in a relationship building…

It is obvious that most times, you will see a two- three years marriages scattering every year because of one thing or the other and in this kind of situation no one knows who is at fault and with that it results in wife pointing a finger at the husband and the husband pointing at the wife and they end up blaming one another as if blames can settle a case in a home.

You will also see another home being together for fourth plus something years, some fifty etc still as fresh as when they newly got married.

Now what’s the difference between that, does it mean that the other home is not as rich as this one that’s why their marriage is scattering?

No, is not…

N/B First of all, you got to remember why you got married to the person in the first place, what attracted you to the person etc.

1) Most marriages scattered because of lack of intimacy:

Showering Together: when you and your spouse were in courtship, you were not ashamed to

take your bath with him in fact, you enjoyed it because you felt like you and your man were

couples already.

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Cooking Together: anytime she is in the kitchen you enjoyed hanging around the kitchen even

when match was about to start, you still went there not as if you can cook but just to disturb

her and in the process, she will carry spoon and start chasing you around the kitchen, pursuing

you to leave the kitchen and you two will be laughing and having fun.

Laundry: you do laundry together most time if she is busy with other things or she is not w
ell,

you helped her with the laundry including washing her undies. You told her I love you and

don’t worry babe rest today I will do the chores. And she smiled at you and said you are the

best I love you more.

Dinner: Even when there was food in the house, you two still decides to eat your dinner outside

not because the food in the house was not well prepared but because you two just wanted to

spend the night together.

Dressing: Before you married him, you used to wear trousers, make your hair, dress decent and

look attractive. Many guys fell on your feet just to get your attention and some just to be your

friends.

Your social media was full with admirer and about 1000+ friend requests still piling up waiting for

respond and you felt like a celebrity. He became so jealous that he thinks that if he wastes time from

putting a ring on that finger, he will lose you and he couldn’t bear seeing you in the arms of another man

even without opening up to you.

But what later happen after marriage??

After marriage you started carrying the mind set of what am I looking for again? After all, am not looking

for a husband. with that mindset,

you changed, you no longer wear trousers, making your hair is a problem to you, dress smartly no way.

Instead you start becoming close friend with your wrapper, morning, afternoon and night.

When they see your wrapper, they can see you because one cannot leave the other because of the

bonding. Did he get married to his granny or a young lady?

You no longer shower together because you think that he will take an advantage of you in the shower.

But let me ask, during courtship didn’t he still take advantage of you?? Now you are marriage to the

same man you don’t think that there is a need to continue giving him the advantage.

while she is busy in the kitchen, you are either busy watching match or pressing your phone in

the living room, you no longer enter the kitchen to keep her company, you no longer play

around the house like kids anymore because of maturity

Note: there is no maturity in marriage.

As long as you want to maintain the intimacy you once

established through these tools, you have to pour even more fuel to it.

One thing about marriages is that during this period, is the time

you two have in straightening your marriage in terms of intimacy.

Stopping will only bring damages to your home making your home unhealthy.

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More tools that you need in keeping your home healthy

PRAYER

PATIENCE

UNDERSTANDING

COMMUNICATION

CHECKING ON EACH OTHER maybe through text, videos/voice calls.

AVOIDING BAD COMPANY

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6 life partner qualities everyone should have

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

6 most essential Life partner qualities you need

Your choice of life partner qualities matters a lot..

It is obvious that women were born with four sight and that’s a

good start but apart from this four sight, what have you done to

improve yourself? What is it you want in life and what are your

plans towards that?

What we do and how we do it determines were we are and where we are going.

A friend once posted her boyfriend photo almost everywhere on

social media but few weeks later, she

took down those photos and updated a status saying;

“To hell with those who think I cannot do without them”

When I inbox her to know what brought about such status, she

told me that she had a fight with her

boyfriend which result in breaking up. That is not the kind of man

that she wants in her life.

I now asked her what is your kind of life partner qualities you are looking?

She said; Do you want to marry or date a Filipino? then start here

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After she told me all this, I now discover that if we expect this

from men, it means they even expect more than this from us.

You know why?

It is because we were the ones born with four sight.

Which means we have responsibilities too, apart from raising children.

A man need a woman who respects him. No man will like to

marry a woman who doesn’t know what it means to respect someone.

And mind you, you can never respect a man if you don’t respect your parent.

The character of a child can be trace to his/her root.

A child who is the same age with her parents will also carry that

life style outside no matter how long she pretends, she will one day unveil.

Even a man needs a woman who will love him not because of what he is capable of during

for her at the particular moment but a woman who will love him unconditional without

second thought which is doubt.

Love has the power to twist someone’s mind even without him knowing.

Which means that even a womanizer has a soft spot which just needs that right lady to get to it.

Even men deserve gifts from their ladies. The same way we expect from them. that’s why having a life partner qualities is important.

Example: you asked him for some cash to go shopping and he gave it to you without

complaints you now went to the mail, you end up spending to the last dime of the cash he gave you. You return home smiling because you got the latest stuff in town, you start show cases it to him and he sits looking at you.

Telling you am glad you are happy and you smile and say thank God I have you. I love you.

And you think that’s it?

Do you think of what he could have said if only you got maybe a tie, key holder, a shirt,

stockings etc from the same money he gave you as a gift to him while you were busy shopping for yourself? It looks simple but it has its own rewards.

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Men like women who make use of their four sight. You told him about your dreams, what and where you want to be in the next three years. But have you ever care to know about his own dreams if he has any at all or not?

What is his stand and his plans towards this dream of his?

Have you tried being a source of encouragement to him or do you look down on his own dreams while your own is the only important one.

If you have not, then that is self-centered. Men don’t like self-centered women

Learn to show him that you care a lot about where he is going.

A man who loves his family will never accept a woman who doesn’t respect especially his Mother because if you don’t respect and love even your own family, you can never be a good mother no matter how hard you try.

A woman who can save: is it not a bad thing to spend but it is good when you know that there is time for everything.

you can’t expect your man to have a saving when you are busy spending.

He has friends which he can likewise sit out with for drinks but instead, he is busy trying to put things together while you, in the other hand you are not helping, my dear, he will soon get tired of you. You know why? It is because you are feeding him with the impression that if he gets poor, you will break up with him.

Most ladies love to put down on their diary the quality of men they want and most times they stay like forever without getting such men they wanted.

Is it because such men don’t exist? No, it is because they don’t have the qualities they are looking for in a man. You can’t give what you don’t have.

Let the you, speak for you, work on yourself and not your diary, let the life partner qualities you are looking for be first of all be seen in you.

N/B you can only attract what and who looks like you. 30 Relationship advice for men and 20 relationship advice for women

6 positive signs she is into you

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Understanding the Signs she is into you

signs she is into you: It is true that most men do not understand nor notice when a lady is indirectly making a move on them.

No matter how the hand writing is written boldly on the wall, they still don’t get it. with a question mark without understanding the signs she is into you

N/B It is not only men that always develop a chemistry for a lady first.

Most times, ladies do. For a lady not to ask you out, ask for your contact, your name etc first doesn’t

mean that ladies don’t have feelings except a man woo them before the chemistry starts developing.

At times it is because she doesn’t want to be seen as a slut, because in some part of the world, if a lady

ask a guy out or let me say initiate the love affair’s discussion, she will be seen as a cheap prostitute and

with that kind of mentality from most guys, ladies in that part of the world can not initiate nor open up

directly to a man she loves. But instead, she will be sitting and waiting for the day he will make a move

on her and most times, such waiting is in vain.

In this aspect, you can’t blame any of the party because is not their fault because the two parties are in

Love.

But when the man has no knowledge of how the other party feels too, he feels reluctant and without

courage, he can’t initiate the move in which the other party is waiting patiently for.

In this article, you will get to know some common signs you should look out for.. signs she is into you,

ATTENTION: It is not easy to have a lady’s full attention. When I say full attention, I mean

undivided attention if she is not into you especially when you two are sitting out.

Note: a lady who is just your friend will always react either by smiling, arranging herself etc

when another man from the other table is admiring her from his seat. At times without you

noticing, she will look for a little act to perform just to send a signal to the other man that there

is no attachment between you two than just friends.

CHEERFUL: she is always happy being around you, she laughs at every silly jokes that proceed

from your mouth be it entertaining or not as long as it is from you. At work, if you are sad or

dull, she will be available trying all she could just to make you smile she doesn’t mind doing silly

things just for a smile on your face.

STARRING: this is the most common part of being into someone that you must always observe

but that doesn’t mean that everyone that stares at you is into you lols.

Let me explain this. There is how someone stares at you and by you starring back at him/her the

reaction on the person’s face changes. It may be a smiling reaction, an angry reaction, a shy reaction,

eyeing reaction etc.

Now this is my point.

“look out for those reactions” and know how and when to arrange your game and step up.

N/B but if is an angry reaction, my brother that’s not love whispering oh that is danger which means

disappear. Take my advice and thank me later. lols

most times, the heart and the eye speaks the same language especially when it comes to reactions.

So learn how to read someone’s face to help you identified a fake smile and the real smile because

both have something attached to it.

PHONE CALLS: most ladies prefer texting to calling. But if she starts calling you like every day

morning, afternoon and night not for anything important or business but just to check on you,

my brother, you don’t still need a physician or a counselor to examine you then finding out that

those are signs she is into you full time.

And if you call her, she picks it up immediately. Don’t blame her nor call such desperation.

It is the power of love and she can’t help it because all she needs is those three words from you.

I LOVE YOU. Which if you don’t look out, it may be too late when you now decide to say it.

DOMESTIC: She comes around just to help you with some chores around the house, cook for

You, your laundries and at times sits to have some fun, jokes with you.

Note: she doesn’t come around to help you because she is jobless nor is she a chef but she

comes around so that you could see her and notice her.

All she needs Is your attention.

DISCUSSION: Once a lady uses a man as the sub heading of their discussion, know that it is

either she is in love with you which you are safe OR she dislikes you which is unsafe.

She discusses about you with her friends anytime the winds of love blow and for you to know if

you are safe, check the reaction of her friends around you. If it is positive know that she speaks

good about you to them more often but if their reactions are annoying, know that she speaks

nothing good about you anymore. And no reaction at all means that the love is dying. And if you

don’t safe it on time by showing her that you are into her too then am afraid if you will be able

to get her full attention any more.

And if after all these signs she is into you that she is showing, and you still don’t realize in and on time that she is in

love with you, my brother before you will later realize it, it may be too late. And that maybe

when she is already in the arms of another man.

There is a saying that goes this way:

“You may never know what you have until you lose it” but I will say:

“you may never know how much you love and needs a person until you see her in the arms of another man” delay is dangerous.

Do you still have the question mark, “Are these signs she is into you” make a move today.

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6 SIGNS YOU WERE NEVER IN LOVE

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Someone once asked me Joy, is it possible to be in a relationship with someone whom you were never in love with?

My answer is yes.

Note: being in love and dating is two different things.

It is possible, for you to date someone without being in love with

the person. Things happen that we have no choice but to accept whatever life throws at us, the same thing happens in a relationship.

It is not all happy homes we see today that started with love but the love later gradually developed.

Love is never an assurance of a happy ending, it is just a starting point. So without understanding, love doesn’t stand a chance.

Below here are the signs you were never in love:
DESPERATION
EVERYTHING DISPLEASES YOU
UNCOMFORTABLE
DISTANCE
ANXIETY
YOU FEEL SINGLE

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DESPERATION:

In under one week or two, you already start imagining your life with him. (illusion)

You feel like moving in with him, you start thinking of the future

with him.

but two months later, you get tired.

Everything displeases you:

Once everything he/she does displeases you or irritates you, you get angry easily then you

are dating but not in love.

UNCOMFORTABLE:

You don’t feel comfortable around him/her you feel like you are

being control or cage.

You are so tied around him counting what comes out from your

mouth so as not to reveal your secrets to him.

Distance:

From feeling uncomfortable, you now decide to start keeping

distance from your partner.

Most times, you prefer going out with your friends to going out

with your partner, you end up

looking for excuses to avoid going out with him/her.

anxiety:

Since everything displeases you and you can’t walk out to avoid people blaming you, you now

wait decided to wait for a chance for something to happen so as to use that as a reason of

walking out of the relationship.

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You feel single:

You are in a relationship with someone who loves you so much, almost to worship the ground

you walk on.

He is ever faithful but yet, you just don’t see yourself falling for you the same way he does.

Your heart doesn’t beat fast when you see him or chat with him.

You still see yourself feeling lonely, your heart is empty.

most times when your heart wants to play with your brain it brings a flash of a guy you once

admire a lot and you see yourself smiling.

That’s because you are not in love with the person you are with.

CAN YOU STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT LOVE??

Well, yea you can start in a relationship without love but it usually doesn’t end well, because if at the end of it, what you were there for or expecting is no more available, you will be pushed within you to leave the relationship.

Examples of such things are:

Money
Physical Appearance
Family influence.
Political Career
Promises
Show off etc etc.

So it is better you build your relationship with someone you love and he or she loves you back if not the same, more than what you offer.

Love is about sacrifice and sacrifice is about giving and taking. (GIGO). If you are not sure of someone, don’t plan a future together with the person. How do you know a person???

Establish friendships, then you will get to know them.

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WHAT ARE THE SIGNS THAT YOU ARE IN LOVE

Well, love is a natural thing, it happens especially when you are less expected. Love is beautiful and real but it takes wisdom, understanding, and patience to know love when you see one.

You think about them more often than usual.
You don’t stay angry at them, for a long time even when you want to.
You want to see them happy, which means that their happiness also means a lot to you.
You can defend them in public, not minding how stupid you may end up looking.
You laugh at every silly joke they make even when it’s not that funny, you try to make it look like it’s fun, To avoid them feeling bad or down.
You have peace of mind.
You react every time they cross your mind with a smile.
Nervous at times when you are around them.
You feel excited and brand new within and outside.
You become friendly to people, including people you haven’t spoken with before.