My wife never knew I could do this –but her reaction was amazing.

May 6, 2024February 23, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

My wife never knew I could do this –but her reaction was amazing.

I was thinking of how to surprise my wife today since it’s our last day at work and we have to go on a vacation.

So, in the morning of that day, I woke up bouncing off walls, and my wife had just finished preparing my favorite food which is our breakfast.

We ate the food fully and I didn’t stop complimenting my wife for her cooking skills.

At 7:30 am, we retired to our working places at greased lightning because there wasn’t much traffic on the road.

I dropped my wife at her place of work before going to mine.

While I was in the office, I was on my earpiece with Michael Jackson’s speechless booming in my ears.

I was on cloud nine because I couldn’t wait to spend this holiday with my adorable wife.

Shortly, an unknown number called me, insinuating that I should leave my wife for him and that this is the final warning.
And when I wanted to ask questions, He hung up.

I was in a black mood.
Luckily, The time to vacate from work reached and I left the office to my abode directly.

I threw my wife’s belongings outside the gate.
I couldn’t hear from my wife’s side.
“Come and take your properties to your father’s house, they are outside ” I disclosed the news to her on phone.
“what did I do?” She kept asking as I hung up.

She came back soon and saw her pieces of baggage outside.
She started knocking endlessly at the gate
I left the sitting room, went to the gate, and opened it.

“Go and freshen up baby,” I said “we traveling to where we shall spend this holiday”

“Ah! Honey!, you won’t kill me” she said and heated my chest.

I chuckled.
No one called me, it was just what I fabricated

I signaled my gateman whom I ordered to look after those pieces of baggage to come out from where he hid, He came out.

And my wife freshened up then We drove out.
And the light faded.

4 Interesting Reason Why You Need to Build Friendship before Relationship

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

FRIENDSHIP AND RELATIONSHIP

Friendship and relationship are two different things. The things that are not working during mutual attachment can not work during a relationship. that is why it is necessary to start any relationship with anyone with friendship then taking it to the next level.

Most times when I tell friends and family that I value friendship most times more than intimate, there is a question I usually receive that is;

Does friendship matter before the relationship? Can’t I get into a relationship first before becoming the person’s friend?

Well, you can still start a relationship before friendship. the fact is that most of them do end in tears because you will go and see the kind of lifestyle you never expected and that occurs because you knew nothing about him and his ways of life.

But note this, a man or a lady who isn’t qualified to be your friend can’t be your wife or your husband. The enemy you know is better than the friend you don’t know.

Friendship has a lot and a huge role to play in your relationship.

Now let’s see the advantages

CLOSE FRIENDSHIP VS RELATIONSHIP

WHY YOU NEED TO BUILD FRIENDSHIP BEFORE RELATIONSHIP

• Friendship brings freedom: there are something’s you can’t do with your lover or in the presence of someone you call your lover, but you can say it or do it in front of your best friend.

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• Secrets Shared: You can’t hide everything from your friend, but you can hide almost if not everything from your lover.

• You will get to know the real person. The atmosphere for fakeness is less than in a relationship.

• You will know his likes. One of the things that are just necessary for a relationship is “compatibility” No matter what you do nor try if you and your partner are not compatible, then there is no forever hope for the relationship nor marriage.

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THEREFORE WHAT ARE THE THINGS YOU CAN BE COMPATIBLE WITH

Daily activities; If he is a 23hours working kind of man and one hour for you and the family, if you are the opposite, which means you don’t like such busy guys, but you prefer a man that spends most of his time doing things with his family then you are not compatible.

2. The way he/she treats family: it is very easy for one to fake to be very caring and loving during a relationship, but hard to fake during friendship and marriage. that’s why you will easily hear people saying “he was not like this when I married him”, “If I knew you were this wicked, I couldn’t have married you, woman” etc.

Now in things like this, if you want to find out, you will discover that most of them just started from a date to a relationship, then marriage.

More than half (1/2%) percent of women, that are in a relationship today, can do the undo just to keep their man, and no matter how you fake the relationship/marriage, it won’t last.

Note: “When you use fakeness to keep a relationship, you will use fakeness to maintain it”. Apst. Jordan Akada.

IS FROM FRIENDSHIP INTO RELATIONSHIP IMPORTANT

Yes, from friendship into relationship is very important as it is going to help you and your partner to grow together in love, understanding, and unity.

It will also help you both to understand that being a grown up does not mean that you are above fun in the home like example pillow fighting,playing of cards, games etc.

many of these can only occur if there is friendship between you two in the relationship.

DO THE BEST RELATIONSHIPS START AS FRIENDSHIPS

From my research, I will say yes to this, and what is your own view? Love is not always constant, it can always fate away, and if no understanding, the relationship dies. Now understanding Can only occur if friendship was already on the ground.

Friendship keeps your relationship/marriage lively. Lively in this aspect means fun and entertaining. So if you want to have a good and happy relationship, start with friends so that you can deal with and sort out what is necessary before you step into the relationship.

WHO IS MORE IMPORTANT FRIENDS OR LOVER

Lovers can always come and go but friendship stands a taste of time.

HOW TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP STRONGER

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Share things.
Share quality time doing what you two like best.
Go on a date at least once every month. It helps to bring back memories.
Cook together.
Be who you are.
Listen
Ask for a suggestion from your partner.
Give room for conversation.
Learn to forgive for no one is above mistakes.
Work as a team.
Be honest etc.
Have funs

friendship and relationship is very important in marriage.

Now i ask, friendship and relationship, which one do you prefer to exist first?

6 REASONS YOU SHOULD MARRY YOUR BEST FRIEND

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

MARRY YOUR BEST FRIEND

Having a peaceful and understanding marriage Is what everyone ever prays for but most times it likes those wishes are far from what they later got in their marriage. Does that mean that marriage is not a good thing? No, marriage is a good thing, the certainty is that it was originally ordained by God to mankind.

Many people encounter bad marriage with that they end up in divorce as if divorcing is the final solution or option they got.
You can still save your marriage by making your spouse your best friend.
What do I mean here, what I mean is that all it takes to save your marriage is for you to marry your best friend.

WHO IS YOUR BEST FRIEND:

1. IS YOUR SCHOOL MATE: Being your school mate in this aspect doesn’t mean you both must attend the same Nursery, high school, or college together.
In this aspect, it simply means someone you can learn things with, someone who knows that no one is perfect that life itself is a learning process, whereby he/she is ready to learn alongside you.
In the process of doing that, you two keep on growing together in knowledge.

2. YOUR BEST FRIEND IS YOUR PLAYMATE: There is no happy home without fun. I don’t mean fun only when you need something from your spouse, I mean leisure even when you are not demanding sex or money.

Ladies in the site, how will you feel if while cooking or making some cookies in the kitchen and your husband steps in pretending to be kissing you but end up running away from the kitchen with one of your cookies???
Men in the site, how will you feel if your wife steps into the living room while sitting with the guys and leave you with an unexpected kiss? Is lovely,, right?

Now, watch out for such marriages because that’s a happy home and that only occurs because they understand each other, they know what each other are capable of, the likes and dislikes. They know their limit. This occurs when you marry your best friend.

3. IS YOUR TWINS: Did I say marry your sister or your brother?? No ooooo lol twin here means to marry someone who looks like you, thinks like you, someone you are compatible with.
It may be in your way of life, character-wise, etc. Someone who wants what you want, someone who is not the opposite of your very self but instead he/she is your carbon copy.

4. IS YOUR SECRET KEEPER: Having someone you can share your secrets with and not getting scared that you will hear it from a third party aside from the two of you, is a good thing and you can only share that with your best friend, not your lover.

5. IS ALWAYS HONEST WITH YOU: If you do things and everyone claps hands for you always and no one questions you or rebuke you when you are wrong then it means you are with the wrong people, which will not help you to grow.

Your best friend is someone who will treat your fuck up and still take you back no matter what crazy thing you did.

6. YOUR OUTING MATE: If you have someone around you yet you don’t feel comfortable or energetic, it simply means that you are with the wrong person, so you need to figure it out before it’s too late.

Whosoever you are with should be like a duplicate of you. This means you both needs to think alike sometimes.

7. HE IS YOUR PRAYER PARTNER: That’s nothing that interest one in marriage when it comes to spiritual matters like marrying a man or woman who prays the same prayer point with you instead of praying the opposite.

I can go on and on telling you who your best friend is or who your best friends are but I will not do that, I will stop here for now and therefore walk you through more things about best friend.

Qualities Of A Best Friend

1. Honesty
2. Understanding
3. Supportive
4. Accommodating

After listing a few of these, now the question is why should you marry your best friend?
1. Your best friend will always be honest with you
2. He/she will not be learning how to understand you because it was already established.
3. Communication will not be hard to establish either.

4. After communication and understanding, you need a fun and lively home, that’s where accommodation comes into play.
If you are a fun kind of person, you will also have a best friend that is living like you, and that will help in making your marriage fun.

5. He or she knows your likes and dislikes.
6. He/she knows your flaws but still hangs around like a best friend to support you even when there is reason to give up but no, I can’t leave my best friend because he needs me now more than ever.

Note this, that’s the best quality of a good best friend. So don’t joke with this kind of people.

WHY FRIENDSHIP SHOULD COME BEFORE RELATIONSHIP