1 REASON WHY THE WORD LET’S BE FRIENDS IS IMPORTANT

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

AN INSIGHT ABOUT THE WORD LET’S BE FRIENDS

Many of us don’t like hearing the word let’s be friends because it irritates us we prefer it to be a Yes or a No.

“Let’s called a spade a spade” but one thing we do forget is that friendship is the most important reason we want to get into a relationship with a particular person at a particular time and that’s why it plays an important role

Before we talk more, what is friendship to us.

“FRIENDSHIP” has so many meanings, it means attachment, good-fellowship, familiarity, harmony, alliance, fondness etc etc.

We will further say “Friendship is the process whereby different individuals or animals comes together to associate.

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Note that, in this kind of situation, Happiness and peace of mind is very far away.

Many people feel bad when they hear the word can we just be friends? let’s be friends etc. And with that,they give up on trying, if you ask them why? they will tell you that there is no need of being friends with someone they are in love with. But that’s very wrong. you liked her?

what about her? Does she like you but she doesn’t want to jump into the a relationship immediately, then she now decided to use this friendship period to get to know you a little bit. Love is a gradual process, it can get to anyone at any time most times, when you least expected.

A little story:

I have a friend, each time we decide to either hang out or see a movie, she will invite other of her friends alone.

Now one of this her friends who was in a serious relationship according to her, each time she comes around, her fiance will be calling every five to ten minutes to check on her. And each time that occur we will be making fun of them singing love songs for them, but instead of her to be smiling after the calls, she will start lamenting most time.

One day, I decided to ask her why her mood always changed each time the guy calls her. What she said marvels me

She said” why will a guy be calling me every five to ten minutes anytime I tell him I was going out with friends, is that not in security?

I now ask her what was wrong with that, perhaps is it not what ladies want, she say to me, ladies, not me, cause to me, I don’t like too much phone calls, I prefer text messages.

He calls too much and it makes him looks desperate and with that, I feel uncomfortable.

Immediately I heard that statement, I now decided to interview her.

My questions were as follows;

Do you love him? She said yes she does.
How long have you known him? She said three months.
And how long have you guys dated? She said three months
You dated him that same month you knew him? She said well, it was like a week or two later.

After the whole thing, I now discover that they didn’t create friendship first before they started their relationship. Which means they started their relationship in trial and error.

The man likes phone calls and checking on his fiancee but in the other hand, the fiancee is not okay with it. She is busy complaining all the time because she prefers text messages to phone calls. Now, that’s individual differences.

We may not know the dos and the don’ts of a person unless we are closer to them through friendship.

when friendship is created first, we will get to know who we are dealing with, the persons likes and dislike. Despite the fact that you won’t know everything at that moment but gradually, you will know.” It is better to marry your friend than your lover” your friend knows your ups and downs.

And still stays around, there are things you can’t tell a lover why?Because he or she may run away.

therefore, don’t feel bad if a lady or a guy tells you let’s be friends… what you should worry about is after this, will there be a possibility of something developing between you two or will it just end with let’s be friends.

Well i will say that’s up to you, the things you do and the way you handle things will determine if she will stay or not.

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4 Interesting Reason Why You Need to Build Friendship before Relationship

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

FRIENDSHIP AND RELATIONSHIP

Friendship and relationship are two different things. The things that are not working during mutual attachment can not work during a relationship. that is why it is necessary to start any relationship with anyone with friendship then taking it to the next level.

Most times when I tell friends and family that I value friendship most times more than intimate, there is a question I usually receive that is;

Does friendship matter before the relationship? Can’t I get into a relationship first before becoming the person’s friend?

Well, you can still start a relationship before friendship. the fact is that most of them do end in tears because you will go and see the kind of lifestyle you never expected and that occurs because you knew nothing about him and his ways of life.

But note this, a man or a lady who isn’t qualified to be your friend can’t be your wife or your husband. The enemy you know is better than the friend you don’t know.

Friendship has a lot and a huge role to play in your relationship.

Now let’s see the advantages

CLOSE FRIENDSHIP VS RELATIONSHIP

WHY YOU NEED TO BUILD FRIENDSHIP BEFORE RELATIONSHIP

• Friendship brings freedom: there are something’s you can’t do with your lover or in the presence of someone you call your lover, but you can say it or do it in front of your best friend.

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• Secrets Shared: You can’t hide everything from your friend, but you can hide almost if not everything from your lover.

• You will get to know the real person. The atmosphere for fakeness is less than in a relationship.

• You will know his likes. One of the things that are just necessary for a relationship is “compatibility” No matter what you do nor try if you and your partner are not compatible, then there is no forever hope for the relationship nor marriage.

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THEREFORE WHAT ARE THE THINGS YOU CAN BE COMPATIBLE WITH

Daily activities; If he is a 23hours working kind of man and one hour for you and the family, if you are the opposite, which means you don’t like such busy guys, but you prefer a man that spends most of his time doing things with his family then you are not compatible.

2. The way he/she treats family: it is very easy for one to fake to be very caring and loving during a relationship, but hard to fake during friendship and marriage. that’s why you will easily hear people saying “he was not like this when I married him”, “If I knew you were this wicked, I couldn’t have married you, woman” etc.

Now in things like this, if you want to find out, you will discover that most of them just started from a date to a relationship, then marriage.

More than half (1/2%) percent of women, that are in a relationship today, can do the undo just to keep their man, and no matter how you fake the relationship/marriage, it won’t last.

Note: “When you use fakeness to keep a relationship, you will use fakeness to maintain it”. Apst. Jordan Akada.

IS FROM FRIENDSHIP INTO RELATIONSHIP IMPORTANT

Yes, from friendship into relationship is very important as it is going to help you and your partner to grow together in love, understanding, and unity.

It will also help you both to understand that being a grown up does not mean that you are above fun in the home like example pillow fighting,playing of cards, games etc.

many of these can only occur if there is friendship between you two in the relationship.

DO THE BEST RELATIONSHIPS START AS FRIENDSHIPS

From my research, I will say yes to this, and what is your own view? Love is not always constant, it can always fate away, and if no understanding, the relationship dies. Now understanding Can only occur if friendship was already on the ground.

Friendship keeps your relationship/marriage lively. Lively in this aspect means fun and entertaining. So if you want to have a good and happy relationship, start with friends so that you can deal with and sort out what is necessary before you step into the relationship.

WHO IS MORE IMPORTANT FRIENDS OR LOVER

Lovers can always come and go but friendship stands a taste of time.

HOW TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP STRONGER

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Share things.
Share quality time doing what you two like best.
Go on a date at least once every month. It helps to bring back memories.
Cook together.
Be who you are.
Listen
Ask for a suggestion from your partner.
Give room for conversation.
Learn to forgive for no one is above mistakes.
Work as a team.
Be honest etc.
Have funs

friendship and relationship is very important in marriage.

Now i ask, friendship and relationship, which one do you prefer to exist first?

6 REASONS YOU SHOULD MARRY YOUR BEST FRIEND

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

MARRY YOUR BEST FRIEND

Having a peaceful and understanding marriage Is what everyone ever prays for but most times it likes those wishes are far from what they later got in their marriage. Does that mean that marriage is not a good thing? No, marriage is a good thing, the certainty is that it was originally ordained by God to mankind.

Many people encounter bad marriage with that they end up in divorce as if divorcing is the final solution or option they got.
You can still save your marriage by making your spouse your best friend.
What do I mean here, what I mean is that all it takes to save your marriage is for you to marry your best friend.

WHO IS YOUR BEST FRIEND:

1. IS YOUR SCHOOL MATE: Being your school mate in this aspect doesn’t mean you both must attend the same Nursery, high school, or college together.
In this aspect, it simply means someone you can learn things with, someone who knows that no one is perfect that life itself is a learning process, whereby he/she is ready to learn alongside you.
In the process of doing that, you two keep on growing together in knowledge.

2. YOUR BEST FRIEND IS YOUR PLAYMATE: There is no happy home without fun. I don’t mean fun only when you need something from your spouse, I mean leisure even when you are not demanding sex or money.

Ladies in the site, how will you feel if while cooking or making some cookies in the kitchen and your husband steps in pretending to be kissing you but end up running away from the kitchen with one of your cookies???
Men in the site, how will you feel if your wife steps into the living room while sitting with the guys and leave you with an unexpected kiss? Is lovely,, right?

Now, watch out for such marriages because that’s a happy home and that only occurs because they understand each other, they know what each other are capable of, the likes and dislikes. They know their limit. This occurs when you marry your best friend.

3. IS YOUR TWINS: Did I say marry your sister or your brother?? No ooooo lol twin here means to marry someone who looks like you, thinks like you, someone you are compatible with.
It may be in your way of life, character-wise, etc. Someone who wants what you want, someone who is not the opposite of your very self but instead he/she is your carbon copy.

4. IS YOUR SECRET KEEPER: Having someone you can share your secrets with and not getting scared that you will hear it from a third party aside from the two of you, is a good thing and you can only share that with your best friend, not your lover.

5. IS ALWAYS HONEST WITH YOU: If you do things and everyone claps hands for you always and no one questions you or rebuke you when you are wrong then it means you are with the wrong people, which will not help you to grow.

Your best friend is someone who will treat your fuck up and still take you back no matter what crazy thing you did.

6. YOUR OUTING MATE: If you have someone around you yet you don’t feel comfortable or energetic, it simply means that you are with the wrong person, so you need to figure it out before it’s too late.

Whosoever you are with should be like a duplicate of you. This means you both needs to think alike sometimes.

7. HE IS YOUR PRAYER PARTNER: That’s nothing that interest one in marriage when it comes to spiritual matters like marrying a man or woman who prays the same prayer point with you instead of praying the opposite.

I can go on and on telling you who your best friend is or who your best friends are but I will not do that, I will stop here for now and therefore walk you through more things about best friend.

Qualities Of A Best Friend

1. Honesty
2. Understanding
3. Supportive
4. Accommodating

After listing a few of these, now the question is why should you marry your best friend?
1. Your best friend will always be honest with you
2. He/she will not be learning how to understand you because it was already established.
3. Communication will not be hard to establish either.

4. After communication and understanding, you need a fun and lively home, that’s where accommodation comes into play.
If you are a fun kind of person, you will also have a best friend that is living like you, and that will help in making your marriage fun.

5. He or she knows your likes and dislikes.
6. He/she knows your flaws but still hangs around like a best friend to support you even when there is reason to give up but no, I can’t leave my best friend because he needs me now more than ever.

Note this, that’s the best quality of a good best friend. So don’t joke with this kind of people.

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