Toxic Daughter In-Law Signs
Toxic Daughter In-Law Signs
Dealing with a toxic daughter-in-law can be a difficult task. If you are the one who is being targeted by her, then it is important to know how to deal with her. A toxic daughter-in-law is a type of person who will stop at nothing to make the lives of her in-laws miserable. She may be very manipulative, passive-aggressive, and even downright cruel. The signs of a toxic daughter-in-law can be difficult to spot because she is often charming and witty. However, once you are aware of her behavior patterns it becomes easier to detect when she is being toxic.
It is also important to know that, a daughter-in-law who is not toxic may still have disagreements with her in-laws but will not do anything to purposely hurt them or make their lives more difficult. A healthy relationship between a daughter-in-law and her in-laws should be based on mutual respect and understanding of each other’s differences.
Many signs show that she is toxic and it is important to know the signs to protect yourself from her.
Toxic Daughter-In-Law Signs
This list of toxic signs will help you identify if your daughter-in-law is toxic.
Toxic daughters-in-law are often very difficult to deal with. They can be manipulative, controlling, and self-centered. The following are some of the signs that your daughter-in-law might be toxic:
1) She is always trying to make herself look better than you or your children: A daughter who comes into your family with the mindset of competing with you or your children is toxic. Family is not by blood but by the bond in which we share, if your daughter-in-law just comes into the family and under 1 or 2 months, she starts giving you or your children a shower, just draft a plan because you will need it.
2) She never lets you have a say in anything: This has to do with a controlling spirit. She wants to rule the family, control everything including how your son related to you which is toxic.
But also know that at this particular point, it is not every daughter in-law that does this that is toxic. Yes, some do this they feel insecure, inferior, or intimidated thinking that if they don’t act fast, the man’s family will control her in the end and may even end up chasing her away from her married.
So with this in mind, they should do whatever it takes to ensure that the man’s family is not given that chance to rise against her marriage.
This can also cause by experience, what they hear or what they see, etc. For example; a lady who comes from a home where they are no peace between the mother and the father or with the father’s family will have a backup plan when she finally gets married.
To avoid passing through the same thing that the mother went through, she will decide to take this step with that, the family will be answerable to her and not her answerable to the mother-in-law or anyone else, especially from the husband’s family.
3) She doesn’t show any gratitude for what you do for her or does for the family: This still has to do with competition. Fighting for recognition and making your efforts look like nothing is what a toxic daughter-in-law wants.
This is not because they can’t see what you have done, but it is because to them, they feel like you are doing it to make her look inferior to you or your children. So what is the need of acknowledging it if that will give you as a mother in-law room to ridicule her in her marriage?
4) She always wants to be the center of attention: a daughter who thinks that she is not good enough when compared to the family that she is coming into, she will always do anything that can make her the center of attention. The way she goes about it is all depending on her plans.
You may be trying to compare this by saying “but I have seen daughter in-laws that have all it takes to be called a pretty lady but she still behaves like a toxic daughter”. The first thing I will ask is, from whose observation did you draw your conclusion?
If you are having that in mind, let me tell us this, the way you feel or what you see might not always be the same way another person sees it. This kind of daughter in-law has low self-esteem making them not believe in themselves, or their ability.
It makes them think that the only way people can care about them or the only way they can gain face in their husband’s home or front of their in-laws is by seeking attention.
5 She puts down your family for no reason: She will try to put down your family in any way possible. This could be done by making fun of them or saying something bad about them without any evidence. This also includes trying to make you feel like you are not good enough for your family or your husband.
The signs of a toxic daughter in-law are very similar to those of a toxic employee who wants to outshine a co-worker. They will always find fault with the mother-in-law, she will be rude and disrespectful.
2 Family Division: A toxic daughter that wants to display her real identity to you as a mother in-law will not just stand up one day and then start acting. No, she won’t.
For her to succeed, she will need to make plans in time before action and that is by making sure that the family unit is destroyed. And once this happens, then that means they have a chance of winning.
A toxic daughter will make sure that the family which she came and saw so united is divided so that she will be able to control.
In addition to the signs listed above, a toxic daughter in-law will also be constantly complaining about her mother-in-law. She will nitpick everything that the mother does wrong and she is never satisfied with anything that she does for her.