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“He left me after 4 years relationship”, 19 year old lady cries out

March 21, 2024February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

A 19-year-old lady recounts how her four-year relationship with her Boyfriend ended.

She claimed that it took her an additional year to recover from the grief of the man who she believed to be her soul mate leaving her for someone else.

She wrote:

“I’m 19, I’m currently healing from a 4 year relationship with a guy I thought was my soulmate but ended up leaving me for someone else..

“This year I was supposed to be studying law but ended up taking a gap year which I’m really starting to hate. Everyday feels the same and i feel like wasting my last teenage years at home.! suffer from anxiety sometimes depression depending on my pmdd.

“Some days can be incredibly lonely and stressful but I’m happy when my moms here she’s truly the only person who keeps me going.”

“She left me and took my properties with her,” heartbroken man narrates how his wife, who cheated on him before, left him after his businesses failed

March 19, 2024February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

A distraught man has wept inconsolably after his wife, whom he had forgiven for infidelity, left him after his businesses failed.

Man identified as Rajab Abdul from Kenya, claimed that his wife abandoned him when his business collapsed.

The father of two claimed that he had found his wife cheating on him, but he opted to forgive her.

Rajab told TUKO.co.ke that when he and his wife initially married, they enjoyed a really wonderful marriage.

The man stated that he and his wife started a fruit business, which was so successful that they decided to create another fast food restaurant. They have two children, a boy and a girl,

Rajab stated that they were doing well before COVID struck.

However, the impacts of the global pandemic decimated all business, putting a burden on their marriage as well.

Things only became worse when he had to travel out of town for work on a regular basis. He did this to ensure that he would be able to support his family.

Rajab also bitterly recalled returning home from work earlier than intended to see his wife in bed with another man.

He stated that they agreed to continue living together as long as she stopped cheating.

To his surprise, he got home from work one day to find the house deserted. His wife carried everything, including his clothes.

Read his full story:

“I remember one day I asked her if she had weighed the meat that was delivered by the supplier to confirm if we were paying for the amount ordered. She got so upset and attacked me with a knife. She cut my leg. I still have a scar to date. I forgave her.

“Came back one day and met my wife in bed with another man,i could not believe it when I saw them on my bed. It hurt so bad. I forgave her because I knew my children would suffer if we separated.

I returned from work one day and came home to an empty house. She had carried everything including my clothes

“I don’t know what I did to deserve this. It is very painful. I cannot stop thinking about my children. I don’t want them to grow up without me. I would like to tell her to remember that our children need their father even though she no longer wants to be with me” he narrated amidst tears.

How do you know you love someone

March 18, 2024February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

How do you know you love someone and not just a crush?

It is very easy for us to have a crush on someone without being in love with that person and that is one mistake that most of us make. You can have a crush on someone because of what talent they have or because of their dreams and achievement but when love happens it’s different because you won’t look at the achievement or whatsoever but then, how do you know you love someone and not just a normal crush? That is where this article comes in.

In this article, we will list and explain the signs that will help with an answer to how to know you love someone which I am sure at the end of it all, you will be able to know if what you are feeling now is a crush or love so keep reading.

How do you know you love someone?

There are a lot of signs to look out for and below here, we will be dwelling on a few of them.

1 You are happy being around them: have you ever been in a situation whereby you find yourself so addicted to someone you are not close with or even related unknown to you? You see yourself carving for them, to be around them, to get noticed by them, and to talk with them and no one else? Then that is love.

When you are in love with someone, you don’t think of any other thing while they are around than giving them your full attention. This is because every minute you spend with them makes you feel connected and that means a lot to you.

2 You become possessive: when you are in love with someone as a guy, it does not mean that another guy is not also in love with that same lady what is left is who will win her heart which means either you or your opponent or none of you.

But while trying out, you discover that you become possessive of her as if she is your property already. You don’t feel good when you see another man coming closer to her or seeing her laughing with another guy.

Do you think this is a crush or love? You cannot be possessive of what you don’t place value on, and since you want her, that means you have to mark your territory.

3 You are eager to know about them: why will you waste your time trying to know someone or care about someone who means nothing to you? You can only do this to people that you love and you want to bring closer to yourself. This is love and if in the process of trying to know she or he and the other party does the same, it means that he or she is in love or likes you too. You can also discover the opposite by checking on Signs that she doesn’t like you

4 They are top your priority list: If you are working you might understand this. As a daily worker, it means that your days are always run according to your to-do-list, and making that day productive is always top whatever we want to achieve in a day.

After making all the plans and jotting them down, your heart keeps telling you that you have forgotten something and you tried placing your mind, and all the time when you try thinking of what that might be, you always end up thinking about someone.

You keep them in your heart all through the day without a minute of not thinking about them or what they might be doing by now.

5 You enjoy chatting with them: In your social media friends list, you have thousands of friends and a lot of inbox messages coming in on daily basis but yet you choose just one person to be chatting with. If he or she is not online by that time you log in, social media become boring to you.

You discover that even when you try to chat with others, you always find yourself going back to check his or her profile if he is back online and if not online, your heart will skip and a disappointment will flash in your heart and you keep on checking if somehow the person comes online, you discover that your face will be smiling.

You don’t even wait for him to say hi, or hello you take it upon yourself to start the salutation. This is not desperation, this is only happening because you are in love with that person and you enjoy every minute of chatting with him. And that makes you flirt even unknowingly to you.

6 You love their scent: No matter how you are don’t enjoy being around women or men because of too much perfume just to smell well, you discover that this one is different which keeps you going back to them over and over again just for their scent. How do you know you love someone? In this, that’s one of the signs that you are not just starting to be in love with the person but you have already fallen head over for the person.

7 Their opinions matter: No one wants anyone to control them and it is not all men that allow women to give them suggestions because they don’t want to appear weak, like a man that can’t decide on his own and it ends up being the right decision.

So with that, they don’t care about your opinion as a woman but when you as a man or woman, you discover that before you take any decision in life now since you knew them that you disclose everything to them asking for their opinion even in stuff that doesn’t concern them. That is love.

It is only love that can give you joy as a man when a lady is voicing out her opinion on something you are planning to do for your life. That is not crust but love.

“He told me he was attracted to men after four years relationship” heartbroken lady says

March 16, 2024February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

A heartbroken lady with name unknown, has taken to social media to share the recent development in her relationship.

The troubled woman used a dating site to tell how her boyfriend, with whom she had been dating for four years, had now revealed that he is attracted to guys.

It wasn’t until the man introduced her to his boyfriend that she realized it wasn’t a joke.

The woman disclosed that she had made the decision to leave his flat after he told her that he doesn’t feel anything for her anymore.

She discovered another woman at his home when she returned to see him.

She insisted that the woman acknowledged being in a relationship with her partner and even being pregnant.

See her full story:

Please hide my identity. I have been having a normal relationship with my boyfriend of 4 years. Out of the blue last month he told me he is attracted to men. I thought he was joking until he introduced me to his boyfriend. I asked if he still had feelings for me and he said he liked me as a friend. Those words went ghuu in my heart. I decided to move out of his apartment. Last week I went back to his apartment to fetch the rest of my stuff and found a girl he once introduced me as his colleague cooking. She told me straight that she was in a relationship with him and they’re expecting a baby. I asked if she knew about his boyfriend and she just laughed. I called him and my number was blocked. When we called with her number he answered and called her ‘babe’. I wanted to beat her up but remembered she said she was pregnant and it wasn’t her fault. My question is why did he lie to me? I gave him four years of my life. I never never cheated or gave him a reason to doubt my love and commitment to him. Why did he choose another girl over me?”

“I met him with another woman,now he is angry that I didn’t fight for him” Lady recounts

March 15, 2024February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

A 25-year-old Nigerian woman has spoken up about how she provided for her boyfriend,only for him to repay her by first cheating on her and humiliating her.

The lady by name Nancy stated that they dated for four years before he was involved in an accident that landed him in the hospital for ten months in 2021.

During that time, she took care of him and quit her job to work as an office assistant closer to the hospital. He was able to walk again after eight months, and luckily for her, there was a lucrative job offer that she took.

Unfortunately, it had an impact on their relationship, and she was no longer as available as she had been owing to the nature of her present employment.

Nancy stated that when she went to see him one fateful day to give him medication, she observed another lady in his residence but did not cause quarrel or question her.

She departed with no problems, but the next day, much to her surprise, he came to her house and yelled at her for not fighting for him.

She wrote:

“I’ve been dating this guy for 4yrs (or so I thought), he got to an accident 2021 & was hospitalised for 10months till he can be treated at home. I left my job and took an Office Assistant job near the hospital so I could be near him since both his parents are dead and his sister is married.

“It took him 8 months to be able to walk on his own, so fast forward, I got a high paying job & I took it coz I have a life to live also and I’ve got siblings and bills so I wasn’t around much after being a caregiver for over a year and thank God he’s able to do stuffs himself. 2days ago was his refill for medication so I went to deliver it before going home, got there, knocked but the door was locked which is normal, went through the kitchen door and it wasn’t, got in he has a visitor so I waited till they are done.

“This lady came out in my shorts/shirt and screamed upon seeing me, he came out, shocked, I hand over the medication and left. To my surprise, he showed up yesterday by 6am during our morning devotion (I stay in a 3bedroom flat with 4 other girls), embarrassed me in front of people that knows nothing about my private life shouting that I should have said something, beat the girl or him, destroy thing if I really loved him, that girls that their guys usually causes trouble. I’m a step from doing something really bad to him and I’m tryna be calm but I think I’m loosing my mind.”

Never confess to your Man when you cheat on him – Seun Sean Jimoh

March 15, 2024February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Seun Sean Jimoh, a well-known actor, has advised women on the importance of never admitting to being faithful to their spouses.

The actor who took to his Instagram page to explain that men hardly forgive their women when they have an affair with other men.

Seun went on to say that even if he does pardon the woman for cheating on him, he will still hold that mistake against her and will punish her relentlessly.

He wrote:

“Dear female , I know this may be a hard pill for men to swallow , if you ever cheat on your man by mistake , don’t ever confess! keep it between you and God “ .Men don’t forgive cheating “ and if they do , they will hold it over and punish you with it for the rest of your life”

Man calls it quit after girlfriend caught him cheating without reacting

March 12, 2024February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

After discovering her boyfriend’s infidelity, A Nigerian woman by name Sharon Peculiar, had shared a discussion between her boyfriend and her on WhatsApp.

In the chat, it was revealed that She didn’t end their relationship; instead, she carried on as usual, acting as if nothing had happened; she even made him some rice.

In the conversation, her boyfriend advised that they call it quits because of her silence and refusal to address his behavior. But she questioned whether it was her fault that he wanted to end their relationship.

He left voicemails and kept complaining about her inaction, saying that she deserved better than what he did. She persisted that they will discuss it later while remaining composed throughout.

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Three biggest signs that he is no longer interested in you

March 10, 2024February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Relationship can be very tricky. First of all you started dating this guy, everything was rosy and sweet, he calls you everyday, takes good care of you, buys you gifts.

Everything was just so great until suddenly he stops, the phone calls drops, it takes him forever to reply your text.

You have complained and they promised you that nothing is wrong, you have tried to wave it off but you just couldn’t.

Well most times it’s usually because they suddenly got busy with work, or maybe something came up at home that they are trying to take care of.

Whatever the case may be, if he is loosing interest, there are obvious signs that you should look out for.

1: YOU SO MUCH FEEL IT IN YOUR GUT

There is a strong unease about something. This is not typical of you, yet you feel insecure and unsure of yourself. You wonder why he would do that.

It’s a solid indication he’s losing interest if you’re pondering, analyzing, and asking your friends’ opinions about his actions.

When a man really likes you and still interested in you, you would see it, If you have to ask yourself that question, the likelihood of him still liking you is low.

2: YOU ARE ALWAYS THE ONE INITIATING EVERYTHING

let’s face it, at first he was always the one calling you up, planning dates , but suddenly it feels like you would have to complain before they do.

You always the one calling, it takes them forever to reply your text or even pick up your calls, and when they do, they always have excuses to back it up and never feel sorry about it.

I mean what does it matter? If You want to leave, leave!

This is a clear sign that he is no longer interested in you. When a man really loves you, you won’t have to ask for things such as calls and dates, it Will never take them forever to reply you, calling you? Fixing up dates? Everything comes effortlessly .

3: HIS BODY LANGUAGE CHANGES

Someone who likes you will show it all over, from their gaze to the angle of their feet.

Around a lady he likes, a guy behaves differently. He looks at her intently, leans closer, and positions his body so that it is squarely in front of her; tense energy may cause him to become a little shifty. If he stops performing these things and instead moves his body away from you, stops staring at you, is tight around you, or stops sitting close to you, it suggests he no longer cares about you.

Him not flirting with you is a further indication. He merely treats you somewhat similarly to everyone else.

If you have noticed any of these signs, i would advice you call them up and have a talk with them, if after having this conversation and you still didn’t see any change, then you know it’s time to let go and focus on yourself and your life.

Love shouldn’t be chased, it shouldn’t be hard, it shouldn’t be painful. If you cry more than you are happy in your relationship, you are obviously dating the wrong person.

10 signs you’re falling in love with someone

March 10, 2024February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

signs you’re falling in love

Do you know that most people do fall in love with someone while they are still just friends without even knowing? It is their fault that they don’t know? Of course is not, the only issue is that signs you’re falling in love was just hanging around but they never read it.

falling in love is something that we can’t control. most times, it just happens with this, sometimes, we just can’t explain.

Read Also: Signs he wants you in his future

Note this: Falling in love is not a bad thing, perhaps, it is a beautiful thing, but who you are falling for, is what matters the most. so when you falling for someone, ensure that it’s the person your heart says you should love.

But before we look at the signs you’re falling in love, let’s, first of all, look at what falling in love means.

Falling in love: This is the process whereby someone starts developing emotional feelings for someone either knowingly or unknowingly to the person.

Now we know what it means, let’s see the signs you’re falling in love;

1 You smile at the person regularly: One thing you can hide from your friends or colleague is when you develop feelings for someone. No matter how you want to hide it and pretend that you are not falling for the person, you can’t hide it from others.

And one of the things that expose you to your friends is your smile. When you are falling in love with someone, you will see yourself smiling at the person anytime you have eye contact with each other.

Love has a kind of wind that blows to you that you can’t resist.

2 You defend the person at all times: Have you ever stood up against your friends just for a lady or a man before? then you are in love/crushing on the person.

Someone who is in love with you or who is secretly crushing on you will not be able to sit and watch someone or people bullying you without rising for you.

3 The person fills your thought: When you are falling for someone, there is a possibility that you will not be able to think straight all because you keep hearing his voice on your ear, whenever you want to close your eye, you keep seeing her or him.

Stop asking yourself what is going on with you, because you are falling in love with the person.

4 You enjoy his chats/calls: Sometimes ago, you two used to chat for maybe 20 minutes only, but now, you can chat with the person even from morning to night, you are not tired nor feel like chatting with someone else. That’s love.

5 Low Appetite: Have you felt like being with someone on the phone, or face to face is better than getting into the kitchen to get something to eat? Is not laziness, is the love magic that is working.

You are in love with the person in a way that you don’t want to miss any chance of having a chat with him or her. so you can skip food just to be with the person.

6 Joy Overflow: Love brings peace, joy, and happiness into everyone’s life. having someone that loves you just as you love them, is something that even money cannot give you that.

7 Your Heartbeats faster: People’s hearts do not beat fast by just seeing or talking with someone except they are in shock. but when you feel your heart beating as if it going to fall off, just know that you are medically okay.

It is just your heart desiring for something so serious.

8 You become motivated: one of the signs you’re falling in love is that when this takes place in your heart, you will see yourself being ready to put any idea into action without wasting time.

You just feel like a big responsibility has been added to you that you have to ensure that you become productive.

READ ALSO: Productive things to do

9 Seeing him becomes your priority: It is said “where your heart is, that’s where your treasure is”. You can’t say you love someone if they are not also your priority, that’s which you just can’t stay a day without seeing him or her and then still feel comfortable.

10 He has a big space in your heart: You can’t give someone a bigger space in your life just like that except you are in falling in love with the person.

No matter how much you love your friends, they can never fill all the space in your heart. but when one person among your friends, start occupying those space more than other friends of yours, you start seeing yourself feeling even more comfortable with just his or her company,

then it is one of the signs you’re falling in love with that your friend.

So if you ever had any of those feelings, just know that you are feeling in love with someone.

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Reasons why dating your best friend is great

March 10, 2024February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

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Dating your best friend is one of the best and great ideas someone who wants to be happy can take but this does not mean that if you are not dating your best friend, you will not be happy. Dating your bestie has a lot of advantages when compared to dating a total stranger who you are trying to get to know. That is why, in this article, we are going to discuss a few important reasons this kind of partner is great.

When you are dating someone, it means that you are there for a purpose and not just a one-night stand and no matter what the purpose is, you want to be happy in the process of fulfilling does purpose.

What is the importance of dating your best friend?

1 Solid Understanding: Have you ever wondered why a lot of relationships don’t work today? It is because the couples have no mutual understanding and that is one fine thing about introducing friendship into your relationship before getting married.

You need understanding for your relationship to work and you cannot get this from a total stranger until they get to know you. That is why dating your best friend comes number one in this.

Your best friend is someone that you understand and he or she understands your kind of person too because that is what makeup best friends. Understanding each other and then still choosing each other to hang around as best.

2 You can be yourself when your partner is around: Have you ever seen couples who act so obedient and perfect in the presence of their partner? If you haven’t, I have.

When I was in college, I had a friend although we are still friends now just that distance keeps us apart, whenever his girlfriend comes around maybe in the class or café, the guy will start dancing on his chair thinking of standing up or hiding or running, etc. and this thing happens for some period so one day, we decided to ask him why he likes acting that way when they girl comes around is he afraid of the girl? His response shocked me.

He said, “ Is not that I am scared of her, the only problem is that she always suspects me whenever I talk with any lady and threaten to break up”. It was funny but still, I didn’t know what that got to do with us because we have been 4 in our click since High school and that makes us his best buddies. (Two girls two guys).

I was curious so I asked again, to clarify things for us “what does that got to do when you are with us”?

He said the girl don’t even want to see him with ladies including us in fact, especially us. Wow. That was a blow. This is a guy that the four of us have been friends with since high school, since before they two started dating and you are not only stopping girls from coming closer but also his friends.

But I couldn’t blame the girl because she didn’t understand the kind of guy she was dating and I don’t think she knew how uncomfortable she was making the guy feel. With this, communication is hard.

The guy wasn’t himself because they lack mutual understanding and when it is lacking in the relationship, point 3 comes in.

3 Trust: The girl didn’t trust the guy and she was doing everything to ensure that she save her relationship not knowing that she is ruining it herself. Lack of trust birth forth insecurity.

Your best friend understands you, meaning you don’t need to fake just to please him and just to please her. This only happens because you know and you are confident that he or she trust you and know that you will not do anything funny to ruin the relationship, especially the friendship.

4 The right expectation: As a lady, you can’t go and date a man that does not understand the importance of serving his partner breakfast on bed and be expecting him to show that gesture one day of course no, it won’t happen especially when he doesn’t know that you are one of those ladies that love that action.

But if you were to be dating your best friend, he will know what fantasies are and how to sweep you off your feet even when you are angry.

Some best friends understand their friends even more than their friends understand themselves. This is because when they were having fun and laughing their lungs out, their friends mentioned the things they wish to do with their partners when they find one so they jot that down in their brain for future use.

So your friend knows your expectation from them, your plans for the future and they also know the things you don’t like and don’t wish for.

Can a best friend be a soulmate?

It is not all best friends that are soulmates. Some best friends were just created to be friends and friends they shall remain. But if you are dating your best friend and you are enjoying it, then congrats to you because you have found your treasure.

Your soulmate is someone to which you feel connected without any motive but it just happens.

What is it like dating your best friend?

Wow hold on, let’s take it slow, haha. Dating your best friend can give you the best feeling ever because you will not feel insecure this is because you know who and what your partner is, you feel protected, not because he will join forces but it is because he will be very possessive and protective of you.

You will be able to develop self-confidence because you have someone that believes in you and your dreams. You will feel satisfied. Your friend knowing you even before you guys started dating is a big help to stop relationship anxiety.

That stress and adjustment that new couples do so that their partner will take them seriously will not apply to you because you know that your partner knows both in and out of you i.e is the good side and the bad side.

But also it can be something for ladies that enjoys playing hard-to-get game before dating a guy. And since you are dating your best friend, the space for hiding your feelings or hiding something from him is reduced to 20% haha don’t worry because the 80% is for the positive vibes of it.

I am telling you this from experience because my partner today, has been my best friend since college and we are still friends to date. SEE ALSO: Christopher’s love story

Which is best relationship or friendship?

There are a lot of things you can do in a friendship that you cannot do in a relationship because you are scared if you take that action that your relationship may break. But with friendship, they are room for mutual understanding.

For your relationship to work, there are a lot of demands you will have to put in place and some are, adjusting in others to fit into your partner’s life. You may even have to change your identity to who you are not just to please them but with friendship, you don’t have to do all that.

Friends choose you for who you are or for what you carry and not because of who they want you to be. They don’t try instilling the part in which you don’t have except they know that you have it but cannot discover it, then they will help you discover it on your own.

Now that we have seen a little difference between the 2, which is the best relationship or friendship? I hope you choose correctly.