16 qualities of a good husband you should look out for

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Important qualities of a good husband that makes him a real man (men)

Qualities of a good husband is not always seen in all men because

any male child that is grown can be a man but it takes a self-

discipline, matured not only by age, self- confident and a positive

attitude male child to be a real man.

Therefore, the qualities of a good man is not frequently nor easily found.

Most men do believe that with their constantly kind of whatever

lifestyle that women will just fall in love with them but that’s not

it. Your “whatever kind of lifestyle”, only shows that you are “a

man alone “that cares about nothing but himself alone

Qualities of a good man is as follows:

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Personality: A good man is passionate about everything he

does, his Sense of humor is unquestionable, he is intelligent, he is

known for his generosity. a good man is less talk and more

action.

He’s confident:  there is a different between someone being

cocky and having self-confidence.  He presents himself in a way

that his good image speaks for him anyway he enters.

He listens: It is obvious that men speak and the women do the

listening. But a real man knows when to speak and when to

listen. Listening doesn’t hurt but it gives room for understanding

to set in between two or more people.

He tries becoming a better man: It is true that it is better to

overcome one own self than competing with anyone. A real man

knows that his greatest challenger is his past life then he works

hard to fight and conquer to become better.

He is faithful and truthful: it is true that men are polygamous

in nature, but a real man believes that he can make the nature

not to have effect in his life there by meaning whatever he says.

He is faithful and truthful in his relationships with people and his

work.

He is supportive:  A good man shows concern and support

toward his love ones.

He is a role model:  If you are a man and a mother has come to

you before and say check my son for me okay? Be my son’s

friend? Give him advice for me okay? Etc then know that you are

a good man. Lol. A good man creates good influence on people.

He is family oriented:  His family comes first in whatever he

does including dealing with money. A family oriented man will

know he has family to feed, clothes and bills to pay, he then

makes decisions and budget for himself. Thereby being careful

the way he spends.

He is well mannered:  his actions and decisions are made with

consideration. He thinks before acting.

He is not a title man: He is not after title (I am the head of the

family) instead he is longing for a way to create a good family

history.

He is a builder: he tries building his home by bringing everyone

together and creating a tie bond not someone who brings in a

strange woman with a strange spirit into his home to contaminate

and pollute his home.

He accepts his fault: a good man is not a man who is perfect

but a man who accepts his wrongs and try amending them not by

claiming to be right but by learning to say I’m sorry please

forgive me.

He’s a team player: he understands that being the head of a

family is like being a captain in a football field, ship. And for the

team to win, team work is not a must by it is necessary whereby

caring more about the team winning is more important than his

ego.

He is a man of vision: he sees beyond what the normal eyes

can see. He leads with the realization that his actions today will

affect his life and others in the future therefore he doesn’t judge

the future by comparing it with the now.

He is humble: Now days it is hard to see a man that his humble

even after making money. But a good man is not cocky, he allows

his meekness and people to tell his stories.

qualities of a good man

He is not a bully: A man who raises up his hands against a woman is less than a man. a good man knows that hitting a woman is wrong.

THINGS TO LOOK FOR IN A MAN

  1. Go for a man who is not a show off.
  2. Go for a man who is not perfect but he is ready to be the best guy for you.
  3. If you are not a club type, then look for a man who is not club addict.
  4. Go for a man who is not a flirt.
  5. A faithful man.
  6. A man who is not proud.
  7. A man who knows that life is not to be joke with so with that he won’t joke with your feelings.
  8. A man who knows that distance is just a physical stuff but love is in the heart.
  9.  Someone you have something in common.
  10.  someone who knows that love fates away but is only understanding and communication that keeps two persons together.

With these qualities of a good man, use it wisely, don’t lose your man for another woman.

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HOW TO MAKE 2020 YOUR BEST YEAR EVER

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How To Make 2020 Your Best Year

To make Year 2020 your best year, as human, we plan our lives, we put down our

to do and not to do, we’ve plan to get married before 27 as a lady

and 28,30 as a guy.

I have a friend who is good in what he does… he has be working for someone for long now, but this year, he came up with an idea to start his own business, so he came to me, i advised him in a way i could… but few months later when i asked him about how far he has gone, His responds dis-stabilized me.

I quote “Joy, I don’t think i can do it,  I don’t want to try and fail… So maybe till ending of the year or next year i will do it. Discouragement, doubt, fear set in and that’s life for you.

Now, we plan to get some things done by setting an exact time and

period we want to achieve that thing.

But most times, it doesn’t work out the way we planted it nor the

period we set for it.

It is not as if we don’t deserve anything good but most times, its

cause by the way we plan and the way we handle it.

Today is 29th February in the year 2020 and i know that we all had plans for

2020, but let me remind you, we are entering the third month in

the year 2020.

what was your plan for January 2020? what was your plan for

February 2020? have you execute any of that?

Now this is the month of March, what is your plan like? what do

you want to achieve this March?

will you still allow March to finish without a prove that shows what

you did in the month of March?

have you ever try turning around and smile at what you have

accomplished no matter how little it is?

If no, i challenge you today, take a pen and a jotter or diary, pen

down all you wish you can achieve this month of march or this

year 2020 if you can, write down the estimation of what and what

you need, to set something straight this year.

first steps to take before anything else:

  1. Start by believing in yourself, doubts will come but you got to stand your ground and believe in yourself
  2. Think positive, you can believe in yourself but due to the some circumstance surrounding you, negativity thinking stands coming up through your mind example 1, if Mr A tried it but it didn’t work out, it means i too can’t do it. 2, look at where i am, my parent are very poor, i can’t even go to a good school, i will just look for a trade and learn well, can anything good come out of Nazareth? COME AND SEE!!!
** steps through the year 2020 (2020 my year)

1) sit down and think about your life, what it lacks and check if it

needs improvement.

2) Pray about it.

3) Have a target

4) Make plan, get a jotter and a pen to pen down what and what you think or that comes into your mind concerning your future, it is called” business plan”.

5) keep to your plan and execute it, it is one thing to pen down 10 ideas yet you are not doing anything towards executing one out of 10. Try working toward your goal with your discovery.

6) If you can not do it on your own, get someone to help you by

putting down your business plan in a book for you.

N/B why do you need a business plan?

A business plan comes with the mission, vision and estimation of

what the discovery is all about and the involvement of it.

7) start savings and do some research on the field that you are

planning on going into.

8) Don’t be discourage on the present situation look what the

future holds for you. etc

N/B savings have no age limitations, you can start saving at

anytime.

The worst thing that can happen to a human being is waiting and

putting hope on another human.

Try working on yourself and leave others to God to win it for

you.

make 2020 a year you can never forget positively.

Happy New Month….

How to make 2020 your best year may not have been made possible due to the pandemic but not withstanding, implement it in 2020 and see the result.

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7 Ways of how to stay in a healthy relationship

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Healthy relationship

WAYS TO STAY IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

 

Words can never adequately convey the incredible impact of our attitude toward  healthy relationship.

Never mistook relationship for marriage. you are in a relationship not in a marriage,

he is your partner for the main time and you loving each other so much is not, nor is it a guarantee that you two will end up together.

 

Keith Harrell has written, Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% of it, is based on how we respond to it.

 

If you were not destined for each other, if you like tie him to your waist, police him etc he

will still walk out one day telling you” The man that will marry you will enjoy you”.

 

when that happens, don’t kill yourself by committing suicide or drinking something

poisonous because if you do, life will still go on for him, he won’t kill himself too just to

meet you.

 

Do you know the worst part?

 

The worst part is that he will walk with another lady and come for your funeral. and I’m

sure you don’t want that so try and stay safe while trying to create a healthy relationship.

 

HOW TO BUILD HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

  1. His phone
  2. Emotional
  3. Space
  4. Friend
  5. Investigation
  6. Introduction
  7. Limitation
  • His phone: if you want to survive, never go through his inbox, he is your

 

boyfriend not your husband and even if he was your husband, don’t make such

 

mistake because you will kill yourself before time and he will get someone else

 

immediately.

 

  • Emotional: it is true that women are always so emotional but if you want to

 

stay healthy while in a relationship, don’t be too emotionally attached because

 

when you are, you can easily be destroyed if breakup arises.

 

 

so love him but limit your emotions and ensure that it is checked regularly.

 

N/B to know when you are too emotionally attached: when you begin nagging too much,

don’t feel like you don’t have the qualities to be in a relationship when he complains that

you nag too much. the truth is that you are too emotionally attach which you need to get

it checked.

 

  • Space: most men value their space a lot even if they don’t open up to you but

 

inside them, they do. That doesn’t mean that he is not in love with you.

 

N/B you are not married yet, then why packing to his house? to take care of him? does

he sees it in the same angle with you? come on, you have already made yourself a wife,

even while he is not ready to settle down with a lady yet. that is a sign of desperation.

 

Give him his space, even stay away from his home a little, a man who loves and value

you and was for you, will always be for you even if you don’t stay with him nor see him

at all times.

so give him his space, let him miss you. With that, he will value every

minute you two share together maybe over dinner or in his apartment.

Just let him show you how much he loves you by coming for you not you always going

to him. that generate a healthy relationship.

 

  • Friends: there are some friends that will always be there for you when you face

 

hard times both in your relationship. Don’t push away all your good friends just

 

because you have a guy now.

 

N/B that same guy may go away one day but your friends will still remain your good

friends. They are the ones that will always give you a shoulder to cry on.

 

  • Investigation: don’t try to investigate everything he does, it is called PRIVACY.

 

I know you care but don’t try to act like a wife if he hasn’t given you such place

 

in his life. you may not be able to recover fast from what you will get to know

 

during your investigation.

 

So why trying to get old before your age. A man who wants a future with you or a healthy relationship, will open

things up to you even without you investigating.

 

READ…. SIGNS THAT HE WANTS A FUTURE WITH YOU

 

  • Introduction: if he doesn’t introduce you to his friends, family or any of his love

 

ones, don’t try acting smart by trying to do it yourself.

 

You will not only disgrace yourself but you will also leave an impression that you are

desperate.

 

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  • Limitation: as a girlfriend, lady friend etc, you have limitation, boundaries in his

 

life especially his daily affair. don’t try to be bossy while he has not given you

 

any right, nor have you reached that stage yet in his life.

 

Try and know your place in his life because it will help you to think and act accordingly.

 

N/B is not every relationship result in marriage so don’t force it if you don’t want to get hurt.

 

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8 reasons: romantic words are important

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ways romantic words can influence your home

Being romantic plus using romantic words has been one of the

relationship issues that is being very contentious from both

religious fanatics and people of the secular world.

Romance however has being embraced by the secular world more

than the people of church circle.

Most Christians are of the opinion that being romantic is

synonymous to being worldly  which means that being romantic

or using romantic words is not biblical. Can that be true?

Romance is one of the basic ingredients that spurs or lubricates a

love relationship well  and is expected of every partner in such

relationship.

As a principle it is necessary to learn and adapt to romantic

lifestyles for emotional stability in love relationships.

People in Other forms of relationship need not get romantic to

keep it stable.

The truth is, romance is a spice that has kept a lot of marriages

from breaking. Any marriage that is not romantic is at the verge

of breaking or better still is 80% fail and divorce is eminent

unless an immediate action is taken on time on the positive

direction.

Once your partner starts behaving as your roommate just know

that something is wrong, that something that was there has

disappeared. Try finding out what that is and you both get it fix

immediately.

Even if it demands going out for a romantic dinner at new

locations.

THINGS THAT DESTROY A MARRIAGE

Many homes and marriages today are destroyed  not because the

partners were not made for each other or that their background is

the worst?

But many are destroyed and ruined today because of the negative

changes that evolved in the process of adjusting to the effect of

their new chapter in life called marriage.

These are as followed:

  1. Sudden Changes in Lifestyle
  2. Dressing and appearance
  3. Circle of friends
  4. Avoiding responsibilities
  5. Lack of mutual Respect
  6. Self Comparison with others
  7. Lack of frequent communication

Sudden Changes in Lifestyle: When the changes in your

lifestyle such as the way you live, talk, your sense of courtesy

and reasoning is nothing to write home about, you freak him/her

out any time you open your mouth to speak.

When you’re no more careful of your choice of words towards

your spouse, which are mostly provocative. You react and

capitalize on every single mistake that occurs in the house, from

your spouse, kids, or maids etc. And most time s/he may choose

to keep mute or dress up and step out for a walk.

Please note by this action you are indirectly driving your partner

out of your home, and your life.

Dressing and Appearance: You are married, so what else is it

you want more than a responsible life which is mostly reflective in

your choice of dressing? No you already have a man/woman so

don’t let your external dress code be provocative, inviting and

explosive rather dress smart and sharp, while paying attention to

the styles that matches your body physique and colors that

matches your complexion.

For the ladies, its not once you are married, you  join the Married

Women Dressing Committee (MWDC) to start dressing to cover

from your head to your feet, while he is still young and fresh.

Do you want to hear the truth?

“He is seeing you as an elderly woman, not a young lady he

married and that’s the truth.” dress in a way that he will start

composing  his own romantic words mend looking at you, without

looking through a love text message app to compose

You are losing value and you need to work on it fast before he

starts looking outside.

your dressing has a lot to do with the romance in your married. so learn to dress to romance your husband.

advantage is that, it will help him to look back home because his wife can dress.

Circle of Friends: it is not good to be a married woman/man and

still keep people who knows nothing about building a home as

your friends and expect to have a happy home. That’s an irony

What advise can they offer when you are troubled in your

relationship with your spouse?

They will not tell you to go back to your spouse and sort things

out rather they will be more comfortable having you sit out with

them even if its 11pm.

So I ask” is that the kind of friends married people or soon to be

couple should keep?

Please keep friends that are responsibly married to their spouse.

Avoiding Responsibilities: You cooked for him anytime you

visited him/ you bought gifts and card, phone alerts every now

and then during your courtship but after wedding, you got a

house help, you became madam/Sir,

you no longer cook his meal, wash his clothes/ no more special

gifts and alerts for your spouse. The bed room you and your

spouse sleeps on is done by the house help.

Everything done in the house is done by the house maid including

taking care of your spouse stomach etc.

should I advise you?

One day, the house help will also take care of your spouse’s

needs in the bed.

So make yourself available for your spouse’s need at home. Don’t

work around with the title Married man/woman without doing

your duty as a married person at home.

Women like anything alerts be it credit or airtime alerts, so

continue doing what you started and even do more

Lack of Respect: One thing you need to know is that women

needs all the attention that they can get and men need all the

respect they can get in their relationships

When you and your spouse starts acting the opposite. If he says

yes, you say No, you don’t do anything s/he says nor listen to

him/her for once, you are simply washing off the savour in your

marriage relationship.

Please there is a great need for mutual respect, if your

relationship must work.

Like commonly said “action speaks louder than words” ladies

should allow their husbands to be the head of the home and their

opinion respected despite their financial status. Respect should be

seen the more in your actions towards each other.

Comparison: If you want a happy and romantic home, never

compare your spouse nor your home with your neighbor’s or your

friend’s spouse/home openly nor secretly.

N/B another person’s home will always remain another person’s

home and your home is your home. Try and set your home well

both with prayers and make it work.

Men hates comparison while some ladies may tolerate it some

may not as their male counterparts.

Are we communicating?

Lack of Communication:  Do you know that once you and your

spouse stops expressing your thought/feelings to one another

maybe through romantic words, play etc

that’s how your home starts getting scattered?

When you two knows nothing about each other, that’s how you

become a stranger to each other in your home.

Communication and prayer Is the key every home should not

misplace no matter the situation.

To have a good relationship with your spouse, you need

communication in order to get to know and understand each

other properly.

No home nor relationship survives without communication,

especially long distance relationship.

There must always be a means of communication that connects

you two together.

Work on yourself, don’t bring in a third party into every small

issue that occur in your home.

N/B There is no home that doesn’t have nor face challenges.

How you handle it is what really matters.

THINGS EVERY MARRIAGE NEEDS apart from romantic words are:

PRAYER

COMMUNICATION

FRIENDSHIP

ROMANCE

LOVE EXPRESSION

FUN

RESPECT

ORDERLINESS

DISCIPLINE

HOME PRIVACY

ABSENCE OF THIRD PARTY

ABSENCE OF UNFRIENDLY FRIENDS

ABSENCE OF COMPARISON

GOOD DRESSING SENSE

COORDINATION

ABSENCE OF TOO MUCH FRIENDS

UNDERSTANDING

TRUST

NO RESTRICTION OF SECRETS FROM EACH OTHER

BACKUP BOTH IN PUBLIC OR YOUR SPOUSE

THINGS TO AVOID

LIES

ABUSES

CLUBING EXCEPT WITH YOUR SPOUSE

IRRITATING LIFE STYLE

REDUCE YOUR DRINKING HABIT

TRYING TO ALWAYS HAVE THE FINAL SAY

BEING BOSSY

HARSH

DISCRIMINATION BE IT PUBLICLY OR PRIVATELY

LAZINESS

IRRESPONSIBLE

BAD COACHING

so learn to use romantic words with your spouse and spice up the romance in your home.

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PRAYERS FOR 2020 THAT WILL WORK

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PROPHETIC PRAYERS FOR 2020 THAT YOU NEED

Prayers for 2020

It is a new year entirely and today marks the beginning of 2020 and is a year of financial Maturity.

therefore, prayers for 2020

Since 2019 did not swallow you, it means that God still has a plan for your life and is coming to pass this 2020.

This 2020 comes with multiplication therefore i pray for you

today, every good thing that God has deposited into your hands is blessed and is multiply.

2020 Financial Maturity, your finance is multiplied. you are Blessed, your finances is blessed. your generation is blessed.God bless you.

your generation shall call you a blessing. Your enemies shall come to you and say” please show me your God” you know why?

Because God will so much bless you in a way that there will be no need for people to come to you and ask “how are you”.

You are blessed. you are favored. manifest because this is your

year and nothing shall stop you from possessing your possession this 2020.

Everything that worked against you in 2019 shall not come close to your dwelling place, your place of work, school etc. you shall do exploit.

you shall not shed tears of sorrow, tears of bitterness, tears of

hardship. but you shall shed tears of Joy because of what the

Lord God has program for you this 2020. if your heart desire is in line with God, may he grant you your heart desire in good health

May whatever sickness that accompany 2020 not reach you and your household.

God never’s sleep, and since he never sleeps, he shall not sleep and skip your prayers.

Everything in your life that was held back when you were born, some years ago or last year, is release by fire.

He shall make you a problem solver not a indicator.

May he bring back the holy ghost in you.

you are the head and not the tail.

Any power from the north, south, east and west, working rising up against you and your well wishers, is destroy by fire.

Amen.  Happy New Year.

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6 SIGNS YOU WERE NEVER IN LOVE

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signs you were never in love

 Someone once asked me Joy, is it possible to be in a relationship with someone whom you were never in love with?

My answer is yes.

Note: being in love and dating is two different things.

It is possible, for you to date someone without being in love with

the person. Things happen that we have no choice but to accept whatever life throws at us, the same thing happens in a relationship.

It is not all happy homes we see today that started with love but the love later gradually developed.

Love is never an assurance of a happy ending, it is just a starting point. So without understanding, love doesn’t stand a chance.

  • Below here are the signs you were never in love:
  • DESPERATION
  • EVERYTHING DISPLEASES YOU
  • UNCOMFORTABLE
  • DISTANCE
  • ANXIETY
  • YOU FEEL SINGLE

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  1. DESPERATION:

In under one week or two, you already start imagining your life with him. (illusion)

You feel like moving in with him, you start thinking of the future

with him.

but two months later, you get tired.

 

  1. Everything displeases you:

Once everything he/she does displeases you or irritates you, you get angry easily then you

are dating but not in love.

 

  1. UNCOMFORTABLE:

You don’t feel comfortable around him/her you feel like you are

being control or cage.

You are so tied around him counting what comes out from your

mouth so as not to reveal your secrets to him.

 

  1. Distance:

From feeling uncomfortable, you now decide to start keeping

distance from your partner.

Most times, you prefer going out with your friends to going out

with your partner, you end up

looking for excuses to avoid going out with him/her.

 

  1. anxiety:

Since everything displeases you and you can’t walk out to avoid people blaming you, you now

wait decided to wait for a chance for something to happen so as to use that as a reason of

walking out of the relationship.

7 Ways of how to stay in a healthy relationship

  1. You feel single:

You are in a relationship with someone who loves you so much, almost to worship the ground

you walk on.

He is ever faithful but yet, you just don’t see yourself falling for you the same way he does.

Your heart doesn’t beat fast when you see him or chat with him.

You still see yourself feeling lonely, your heart is empty.

most times when your heart wants to play with your brain it brings a flash of a guy you once

admire a lot and you see yourself smiling.

That’s because you are not in love with the person you are with.

 

CAN YOU STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT LOVE??

Well, yea you can start in a relationship without love but it usually doesn’t end well, because if at the end of it, what you were there for or expecting is no more available, you will be pushed within you to leave the relationship.

Examples of such things are:

  1. Money
  2. Physical Appearance
  3. Family influence.
  4. Political Career
  5. Promises
  6. Show off etc etc.

So it is better you build your relationship with someone you love and he or she loves you back if not the same, more than what you offer.

Love is about sacrifice and sacrifice is about giving and taking. (GIGO). If you are not sure of someone, don’t plan a future together with the person. How do you know a person???

Establish friendships, then you will get to know them.

16 qualities of a good man you should look out for

 

WHAT ARE THE SIGNS THAT YOU ARE IN LOVE

Well, love is a natural thing, it happens especially when you are less expected. Love is beautiful and real but it takes wisdom, understanding, and patience to know love when you see one.

  1. You think about them more often than usual.
  2. You don’t stay angry at them, for a long time even when you want to.
  3. You want to see them happy, which means that their happiness also means a lot to you.
  4. You can defend them in public, not minding how stupid you may end up looking.
  5. You laugh at every silly joke they make even when it’s not that funny, you try to make it look like it’s fun, To avoid them feeling bad or down.
  6. You have peace of mind.
  7. You react every time they cross your mind with a smile.
  8. Nervous at times when you are around them.
  9. You feel excited and brand new within and outside.
  10. You become friendly to people, including people you haven’t spoken with before.

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9 signs he wants you in his future that will make you love him even more

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signs he wants you in his future or signs he wants to marry you are very simple but complicated if you don’t have patience.

 

If you are truly into a man, all you will be hoping for is for him to say one day,” will you marry me” and

with that kind of feeling, you can’t wait to be his Mrs. lol

But at times you discover that it is only you that feels that way while he feels different things complete

but doesn’t worry from today, you are not alone in this, we will share what we know with you.

Here, I will give you some points that show that he feels the same way about you.

And also a future with you.

SIGNS HE WANTS YOU IN HIS FUTURE

signs he wants you in his future
  1. INTRODUCTION: A man who is in love with you and wants to spend his life with you will not be

scared or ashamed to introduce you in public as his woman but not his friend to his close friends.

this act is a simple and direct sign he wants to marry you someday.

 

2. HE PRAISES YOU: A man who knows what he wants will never stop praising you in the secret and

in the open making you feel like the only woman in the world. Once you occupy his thought, no

other woman matters to him. If tempted because of dressing, he just ends up transforming you

to his taste.

3. YOUR OPINION COUNTS: It is obvious that only a few men listen to the opinion of a woman not to

talk of asking for their opinion. So if your man tells you about anything important and therefore

end up asking you for your own opinion, don’t misuse the opportunity because it shows that he

values you and he wants a future with you.

 

So this is an opportunity you don’t want to miss for anything in the world. See also: SIGNS THAT YOU ARE GETTING DUMPED

 

4. HIS PLANS: Men can be so secretive especially when it comes to their future plans. They think that

if they tell a woman about their plans that a woman will stick with them even if she didn’t want to

but because of the secret he shared about his life plans. So if a man includes you in his plans and

also opens up to you in other to plan it together, he is planning a future with you.

 

 

5. HE ASK YOU ABOUT YOUR PLANS: Not all men know that there is value in asking or trying to support their woman’s dreams. A man who wants a future with you will go the extra mile just to see a

smile on your face because he knows that if it works out for you, it will also be in his own favor.

Because you two are one.

 

6. HE VALUES YOUR COMPANY: when a man gives you his time even without doing anything but

you two just stay together maybe playing any kind of game or be chatting with each other constantly without him being bored.

If he finds you interesting. It means he can spend his life with you without getting bored.

 

7. RECOGNITION: When a man loves you and wants to spend his life with you, he recognizes you

even in your absence and in his future plans. Example building of a house, number of children he

wants from you, etc.

 

8. ATTACHMENT: Once a man gets so attached to his family, your friends, your loved ones, etc.

it is a sign that he wants you but also wants to be accepted by your loved ones.

Meaning he is trying to be part of the family.

 

9. NO HIDDEN SECRET: For a man to open up his secrets to you, it means he can trust you, and a

man who trusts you mean that he believes in you, and it can only take a man who wants a

future with you, to trust and believe in you.

 

CLEAN SIGNS HE WANTS A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU

Okay after all been said in knowing the signs he wants a future with you, many ladies still miss out on such opportunities of marrying a great guy because they thought that he or all men are the same.

 

Especially if all the guys you have dated in the past came as gentlemen but turn out to be the opposite of what you pictured in your heart about the relationship already. so here are some signs…

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  1. A man who comes to you for something serious, will not beat you around the bush.
  2.  

2. He won’t fake his life.

 

3. He won’t pretend to be happy while things are not cool between you both just to make you happy.

 

4. A man who loves you will like to tell you the truth no matter how you react to it, he is ready to accept it as faith.

 

 5. He tells you almost all about his passion.

 

6. He is not over secretive.. Not because he truth you so much but because he doesn’t want to start his relationship with secrets and lies.

 

7. He is not doing fine boy instead he rises up as a man to hustle to ensure that he takes care of your needs in any small way he can.

Casual Dating Vs Serious Dating

8. He does not act as if he cares instead he shows that he cares a lot about you

 

9. He comes as a friend before initiating a relationship.

 

Note: that friendship was like saying school assessment… lol

10. He tries making you one of his priorities over other things.

 

11. He is not ashamed of you.

 

12. He stands by you.

 

13. A man who comes to date you will just fight for you but not with you. but a man who is serious with you will fight not just for you but will fight with you.

 

14. He appreciates you almost at all times.

 

What do you think about your man? do you see any signs he wants to marry you? Or has he said to you”please let me marry you? Can you share…

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MY GIRLFRIEND scene 1 to the end

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 MY GIRLFRIEND

BY GLORY

Though love is life for lovers but when it breaks then it really

hurts!

Sometimes the way of love doesn’t go smooth and sadness takes

the rule of hearts which is really unexpected.

Will this love survive? (My Girlfriend)

Scene1

BUSHPATH-DAY

OLIVIA 23, and her boyfriend GAEL 25, are standing near

each other but Olivia’s friend MARY 23, is standing a bit further

from them.

Suddenly Olivia slaps Gael who smiles gently and looks back at

her.

OLIVIA:  Gael how dare you?  How dare you call me a slut?

GAEL: (holds his right cheek) Tell me Olivia, isn’t that what you

are?

OLIVIA: (looks at him furiously with tears in her eyes) Gael, I

thought you loved me.

I thought you knew me all these years but no, Gael you never

loved me.

GAEL: Yes, I still love you. But I just can’t bear seeing my girlfriend, my  own woman sleeping around with men for mon…..

OLIVIA: (slaps him again as tears trickle down her cheeks) Gael I

hate you, I just hate you from the bottom of my heart.

I was a virgin when I met you, Gael you took my virginity, you

promised to be with me for the rest of my life.

(she places her two hands on his chest)

OLIVIA: Gael, please don’t leave me, please don’t abandon me

right now (she looks into his eyes but he pushes her away)

Gael please, I need you and someone else needs you right now.

GAEL: Olivia! Olivia it is over between the two of us can’t you get

it? How else do you want me to tell you?

I don’t need you anymore, I don’t want to see you ever again in

my life. Go to your sugar daddy. Leave my poor life alone.

OLIVIA :(she goes down on her knees and holds his legs) Gael

please, I am sorry. Please do not leave me

alone. I need you now more than ever, Gael I love you so much.

Please calm down and talk to me honey.

GAEL: (looks around to see if people are watching them) Olivia

please stand up. Stand up, people might see us.

OLIVIA: (cries out loud) No Gael, not until you forgive me.

(Gael hisses and pushes her down. He turns his back to leave but

he is restricted by her voice)

OLIVIA: Gael please don’t go. Gael! Gael!

GAEL: (unable to look back as tears fill his eyes) Olivia please

forget about me.

Baby, you deserve someone better.

(he turns to her who is sitting on the ground, bends down &

kisses her forehead. She holds his hands)

GAEL: I love you. I love you so much dear. Pump yourself up.

Goodbye.

(he turns back and walks gently away as tears trickles down his

cheeks. This time around he leaves her without stopping or

looking back)

OLIVIA: (screams) Gael!! Gael!! Please don’t go. Don’t leave me

here, I still love you. Gael!

MARY: Olivia C’mon is okay Let’s go home.

OLIVIA: Mary please go call him back.

MARY: Over my dead body.

(Olivia puts her head down and cries)

Scene2

GAEL’S ROOM-DAY

Gael is seen lying down on the bed looking miserable. His

friend HOLY 25, comes in.

HOLY:   My boy how far? Why you still dey lie down for bed?

GAEL: Holy abeg, carry your wahala dey go your house.

HOLY: (laughs) Common get out, you are not feeling fine. How

far na where your babe dey? E don tae I no dey see her again

wetin happen?

GAEL: (he sits up) My brother, I broke up with her last week o. I

dey try to call her but her number just no dey go at all.

HOLY: Nonsense! Why you dey foolish like this for this small

world.

Wetin she do?

GAEL: Guy no be that one dey do me now, I wan see her, I want

to tell her how sorry I am.

That is, I wasn’t myself that day. Thelma told me Olivia has been

sleeping with her father.

So with that anger I went straight to her and (he hisses)

HOLY: And you believed that naughty bitch, Jesus! Guy why is

your life like this.

How could you be so naive as to believe every single thing that

liability, saucy bitch tells you?

GAEL: Holy guy, see no blame me na. Thelma don tell me this

thing plenty times and that day wetin make me no think twice

before I do wetin I do be say, I see her leave

that man office that day.

Guy tell me if na you how you for feel?

HOLY: Why didn’t you ask her what she went there to

do, it might have been something opposite of what you had on

mind.

GAEL: Na later she come text me say she bin go collect her

money from the man.

She had called me with her friend’s number like ninety-nine

times that day but I didn’t pick up.

Guy I was extremely angry and jealous.

I later confirmed she wasn’t lying when I met Thelma’s sister

Ruth and she told me everything I needed to know and that her,

her sister lied to me.

HOLY: Mumu guy, you no sabi say Thelma dey look for you. She

wants to have you… Guy look is okay, just try calling her.

GAEL: My man no calling of names na abeg. help your guy out

abeg, follow help me Call her and tell her I am

sorry and that I love her more than ever.

HOLY: Thank God you know that if you let Olivia go….

GAEL: I will never find any girl Like her.

Please call her up for me, I want to see the love of my life.

(The two laugh)

Scene 3

OLIVIA’S RESIDENCE-  NIGHT

Olivia and Mary are seen conversing. Olivia is crying deeply

while Mary tries to console her.

MARY: Olivia, please stop crying.

OLIVIA: Mary I wish I could stop myself.

Mary, it is very painful to be abandoned by a man whom you love

so much in this life.

MARY: But right now it seems Gael doesn’t need you in his life

anymore….

OLIVIA: But I need him, my baby also needs a father….

MARY: Olivia please don’t tell me that bullshit. Is he the only guy

on earth?

There are many guys out there waiting to have a beautiful

princess like you for a wife and not….

OLIVIA: Mary, have you ever been in love before, do you even

know what love is?

MARY: Yes, I have and also yes I do know.

OLIVIA: The problem is that as much as I can’t force him to love

me, I can’t force myself to stop loving him.

MARY: (sigh) I’m tongue-tied, I don’t know what else to say

dear..

Olivia, I think you need some rest.

The doctor said you shouldn’t stress yourself that much.

OLIVIA: Am not stressing myself, I am only thinking about Gael.

How is he doing right now, has he eaten or is he thinking about

me, who knows?

MARY: I just feel like hating you right now.

You are the one in danger and yet you are still worrying dead

about that nonsense who doesn’t deserve you at all….

OLIVIA: (stands up instantly & yells at her)

Gael isn’t a bad person. He isn’t nonsense… He is just angry with

me because he thinks I have been sleeping with Thelma’s

father…

(she pauses and holds her belly) my stomach, my stomach.

MARY: (stands up and holds her) olivy are you okay?

What is wrong with you Olivia talk to me what is it?

OLIVIA: Call the doctor. (she collapses)

MARY: No no No ooo (she screams) Olivia please don’t do this to

me please. Olivia!

 

Scene 4

GAEL’S ROOM- DAY

Gael hears a knock on his door, he stands up and opens the door

as Olivia’s friend Mary comes in.

GAEL: Mary Good Morning Is Olivia back home now? Please sit

on the bed.

MARY: Actually, I am here to deliver this letter to you (looks away

and brings an envelope from

her handbag) she wrote this for you (she hands it over to him and

sits on the bed as he reads it out to

her hearing)

GAEL: Hi sweetheart, I don’t know why I am writing this, but I

really hope that this letter never gets

to you, because if it does that means I am dead (he pauses in

shock and looks at Mary who isn’t looking

at him) and it also means I never had the chance to show you

how much I really did love you.

You are the beat of my heart, the soul in my body.

You have shown me what love is and what it feels like

to be loved.

Every time you kissed me and our lips touched so softly, I could

feel it when our hearts get so closed they are beating as one.

You are the person I know I could turn to when I needed help,

you are the person I looked at when I needed to smile and you

are the person I went to when I needed a hug…

(he turns to Mary) Is this one of her jokes?

(no response from her, he continues)

GAEL: (tears trickle down as he continues)

Each night I could go to bed, kiss my fingers, then touch your

face.

I would put a photo of you over my bed so you could look over

me as I slept, well, now it is my turn to look over you as you

sleep and keep you safe in your dreams.

I’ll always be looking over you to make sure you are safe and do

not worry at all your baby is safe with me Gael.

Love always and forever, Olivia.

(he kneels down and weeps bitterly)

MARY: (Not still looking at him)

she died as a result of severe Preeclampsia and it was too late for

the baby.

GAEL: Baby? What baby are you talking about?

MARY: Your baby Gael. She had your child lived in her womb for

some weeks.

GAEL: My girlfriend? She never told me she was with my child.

MARY: (speaks in anger as she turns to him)

Yes, your girlfriend, she came to tell you, you walked out on her.

She was ill for two

good weeks after that day, did you care to look for her?

Her phone was stolen that same day you broke her heart, she

tried reaching you with my phone did you care to return her calls?

No (she shakes her head as tears fill her eyes) I hate you so

much Gael,

I hate you with so much passion.

(she goes out and slams the door behind her angrily)

GAEL: (screams) I caused your death. I am responsible for your

death

(he cries out) Oh God I hate this world, I hate myself.

I wish I had come like a tree or never came at all.

Olivia please take me with you

please my love, I want to be where you are. I want to take care of you and my baby.

Am very sorry my love.

(he bends down and cries louder)

(A voice speaks) do you really mean those word?

Gael: You are dead!!! You are dead!!! Olivia please forgive me,

am sorry don’t kill me please

Olivia: am not going to kill you.

(Mary enters)

Gael: Mary! Mary!  ghost, ghost (pointing at Olivia’s direction),

can you see her? Help me beg her not to

kill me please.

Mary: Yes, I can see her.

Olivia: Am not dead. Well maybe I was some hour’s ego before

Mary brought you the latter.

Gael: How? How is that possible?

Olivia: I was on the journey when I heard a voice calling my

name, when I looked, it was my grand ma,

I was so happy to see her after so many years, but she was

angry at me so she pushed me away. I never

knew why she did that, but I kept on running back to her telling

her how much I missed her but she said

something to me that got me angry and I ran away from her

thinking she will call me back but she

didn’t and that’s how I woke up.

Gael: what did she say?

Olivia: she said” I don’t miss you” but now I know that she didn’t

mean that, she only said that to make

me feel bad.

Gael: (cried out) am sorry Olivia, I should have trusted you, I was

so foolish.

Mary: yes, you were really foolish

Gael: I was so foolish to ever give a third party space to come in-

between us.

I lost you once but I will never lose you again please I promise to

love you and the baby with my life.

(they both cried and hug each other)

THE END

FADE OUT

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6 DIRECT DANGEROUS SIGNS YOU’RE ABOUT TO GET DUMPED

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Hurt Signs you’re about to get dumped

Dumping someone for someone else has become so rampant that most youth use it as fun without knowing the implication of it nor the effect it carries especially if you were not aware of the signs you’re about to get dumped

But it is obvious that breakups do not just happen or come out of nowhere but it’s from that small changes that occur in the relationship or marriage.

So in this article, I have gather some flags you should look out for in your relationship or marriage.

Signs you’re about to get dumped are as follows:

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  1. PHONE CALLS BECOMES BORING
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  1. PHONE CALLS BECOMES BORING
  1. LESS COMMUNICATION
  1. YOU DISGUST HIM/HER
  1. LOST OF INTEREST
  1. LESS ATTENTION
  1. SPACE AND TIME
  • PHONE CALLS BECOMES BORING: Phone calls start becoming less frequent, he/she can stay a

day or two without calling you and still feel well okay without you.

He doesn’t even mind if you call him or not. “For example, if you normally talk twice a day, and

all of a sudden, it’s just a text or nothing at all… well, look out, that could be a sign of danger.”

  • LESS COMMUNICATION: Perhaps we all know that communication act the highest role in every

healthy relationship. You want to know why?

It is because is the key factor in any relationship. It is during communication that tables get

shaken.

You cannot stop what needs to be stopped nor silent what needs to be silent without having a communication.

that’s why during prayers, we are actually communicating with God.

So without communication in a relationship, that relationship is doom.

N/B nothing good can come out of a relationship that does not involved communication.

  • YOU DISGUST HIM OR HER: He speaks, criticizes you on every small issues that occur.

It is true that is not everything your partner nor you do that is that great to your standards and with that, there will always be a debate from time to time.

But when everything you do annoys your partner, everything you do is wrong in his eyes, like

the way you laugh, the way you speak, the way you associate yourself with his family or maybe

your friends or his own friends, just know that it is heading nowhere.

Don’t let anyone change you from your positive nature because one day, he will still leave you

for a partner who knows how to associate with his family and friends.

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  • LOST OF INTEREST: You feel your partner start to pull away little by little from whatever you two used to have interest on.

Maybe you two used to visit the park together every Church evening, going out with friends, same hobbies etc.

But all of a sudden, your partner stopped, he started giving excuses every now and there even

when the excuse is not valid, he frequently tries avoiding any discussion that has to do with the

way forward of the relationship. And if you’re no longer hanging out, you no longer share the

same hobby as before, maybe your partner is too busy with his phone more than what you two

shared then the writing “DANGER” is on the wall.

  • YOUR PARTNER IS LESS INVOLVED IN YOUR LIFE: “Once your partner starts becoming less

concerned about your day at work, how you are faring, how you are holding up etc just know

that you don’t exist in his life anymore”

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  • Once your partner starts becoming less

concerned about your day at work, how you are faring, how you are holding up etc just know

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  • LESS ATTENTION: If your presence means nothing to your partner it means you are no longer

his priority, and with that, the attention will start to reduce your body language means nothing,

even while sharing the same bed, he minds his Conner by facing a different direction from u or

pretends to have kept before you just to avoid you showing you red light to mind your business.

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  • SPACE AND TIME: If your partner asks for space, don’t stop her nor him because the romance, the fragrance of that relationship is dying.

so looking out for signs you’re about to get dumped is very important  because it helps you to be stronger and able to move on when it finally happens.

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6 positive signs she is into you

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Understanding the Signs she is into you

signs she is into you: It is true that most men do not understand nor notice when a lady is indirectly making a move on them.

No matter how the hand writing is written boldly on the wall, they still don’t get it. with a question mark without understanding the signs she is into you

N/B It is not only men that always develop a chemistry for a lady first.

Most times, ladies do. For a lady not to ask you out, ask for your contact, your name etc first doesn’t

mean that ladies don’t have feelings except a man woo them before the chemistry starts developing.

At times it is because she doesn’t want to be seen as a slut, because in some part of the world, if a lady

ask a guy out or let me say initiate the love affair’s discussion, she will be seen as a cheap prostitute and

with that kind of mentality from most guys, ladies in that part of the world can not initiate nor open up

directly to a man she loves. But instead, she will be sitting and waiting for the day he will make a move

on her and most times, such waiting is in vain.

In this aspect, you can’t blame any of the party because is not their fault because the two parties are in

Love.

But when the man has no knowledge of how the other party feels too, he feels reluctant and without

courage, he can’t initiate the move in which the other party is waiting patiently for.

In this article, you will get to know some common signs you should look out for.. signs she is into you,

  1. ATTENTION: It is not easy to have a lady’s full attention. When I say full attention, I mean

 

undivided attention if she is not into you especially when you two are sitting out.

 

Note: a lady who is just your friend will always react either by smiling, arranging herself etc

 

when another man from the other table is admiring her from his seat. At times without you

 

noticing, she will look for a little act to perform just to send a signal to the other man that there

 

is no attachment between you two than just friends.

 

  1. CHEERFUL: she is always happy being around you, she laughs at every silly jokes that proceed

 

from your mouth be it entertaining or not as long as it is from you. At work, if you are sad or

 

dull, she will be available trying all she could just to make you smile she doesn’t mind doing silly

 

things just for a smile on your face.

 

  1. STARRING: this is the most common part of being into someone that you must always observe

 

but that doesn’t mean that everyone that stares at you is into you lols.

 

Let me explain this. There is how someone stares at you and by you starring back at him/her the

 

reaction on the person’s face changes. It may be a smiling reaction, an angry reaction, a shy reaction,

eyeing reaction etc.

Now this is my point.

“look out for those reactions” and know how and when to arrange your game and step up.

N/B but if is an angry reaction, my brother that’s not love whispering oh that is danger which means

disappear. Take my advice and thank me later. lols

most times, the heart and the eye speaks the same language especially when it comes to reactions.

So learn how to read someone’s face to help you identified a fake smile and the real smile because

both have something attached to it.

  1. PHONE CALLS: most ladies prefer texting to calling. But if she starts calling you like every day

 

morning, afternoon and night not for anything important or business but just to check on you,

 

my brother, you don’t still need a physician or a counselor to examine you then finding out that

 

those are signs she is into you full time.

 

And if you call her, she picks it up immediately. Don’t blame her nor call such desperation.

 

It is the power of love and she can’t help it because all she needs is those three words from you.

 

I LOVE YOU. Which if you don’t look out, it may be too late when you now decide to say it.

 

  1. DOMESTIC: She comes around just to help you with some chores around the house, cook for

 

You, your laundries and at times sits to have some fun, jokes with you.

 

Note: she doesn’t come around to help you because she is jobless nor is she a chef but she

 

comes around so that you could see her and notice her.

 

All she needs Is your attention.

 

  1. DISCUSSION: Once a lady uses a man as the sub heading of their discussion, know that it is

 

either she is in love with you which you are safe OR she dislikes you which is unsafe.

 

She discusses about you with her friends anytime the winds of love blow and for you to know if

 

you are safe, check the reaction of her friends around you. If it is positive know that she speaks

 

good about you to them more often but if their reactions are annoying, know that she speaks

 

nothing good about you anymore. And no reaction at all means that the love is dying.  And if you

 

don’t safe it on time by showing her that you are into her too then am afraid if you will be able

 

to get her full attention any more.

 

And if after all these signs she is into you that she is showing,  and you still don’t realize in and on time that she is in

 

love with you, my brother before you will later realize it, it may be too late. And that maybe

 

when she is already in the arms of another man.

 

There is a saying that goes this way:

 

“You may never know what you have until you lose it” but I will say:

 

“you may never know how much you love and needs a person until you see her in the arms of another man” delay is dangerous.

 

Do you still have the question mark, “Are these signs she is into you” make a move today.

 

 

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