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6 SIGNS YOU WERE NEVER IN LOVE

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Someone once asked me Joy, is it possible to be in a relationship with someone whom you were never in love with?

My answer is yes.

Note: being in love and dating is two different things.

It is possible, for you to date someone without being in love with

the person. Things happen that we have no choice but to accept whatever life throws at us, the same thing happens in a relationship.

It is not all happy homes we see today that started with love but the love later gradually developed.

Love is never an assurance of a happy ending, it is just a starting point. So without understanding, love doesn’t stand a chance.

Below here are the signs you were never in love:
DESPERATION
EVERYTHING DISPLEASES YOU
UNCOMFORTABLE
DISTANCE
ANXIETY
YOU FEEL SINGLE

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DESPERATION:

In under one week or two, you already start imagining your life with him. (illusion)

You feel like moving in with him, you start thinking of the future

with him.

but two months later, you get tired.

Everything displeases you:

Once everything he/she does displeases you or irritates you, you get angry easily then you

are dating but not in love.

UNCOMFORTABLE:

You don’t feel comfortable around him/her you feel like you are

being control or cage.

You are so tied around him counting what comes out from your

mouth so as not to reveal your secrets to him.

Distance:

From feeling uncomfortable, you now decide to start keeping

distance from your partner.

Most times, you prefer going out with your friends to going out

with your partner, you end up

looking for excuses to avoid going out with him/her.

anxiety:

Since everything displeases you and you can’t walk out to avoid people blaming you, you now

wait decided to wait for a chance for something to happen so as to use that as a reason of

walking out of the relationship.

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You feel single:

You are in a relationship with someone who loves you so much, almost to worship the ground

you walk on.

He is ever faithful but yet, you just don’t see yourself falling for you the same way he does.

Your heart doesn’t beat fast when you see him or chat with him.

You still see yourself feeling lonely, your heart is empty.

most times when your heart wants to play with your brain it brings a flash of a guy you once

admire a lot and you see yourself smiling.

That’s because you are not in love with the person you are with.

CAN YOU STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT LOVE??

Well, yea you can start in a relationship without love but it usually doesn’t end well, because if at the end of it, what you were there for or expecting is no more available, you will be pushed within you to leave the relationship.

Examples of such things are:

Money
Physical Appearance
Family influence.
Political Career
Promises
Show off etc etc.

So it is better you build your relationship with someone you love and he or she loves you back if not the same, more than what you offer.

Love is about sacrifice and sacrifice is about giving and taking. (GIGO). If you are not sure of someone, don’t plan a future together with the person. How do you know a person???

Establish friendships, then you will get to know them.

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WHAT ARE THE SIGNS THAT YOU ARE IN LOVE

Well, love is a natural thing, it happens especially when you are less expected. Love is beautiful and real but it takes wisdom, understanding, and patience to know love when you see one.

You think about them more often than usual.
You don’t stay angry at them, for a long time even when you want to.
You want to see them happy, which means that their happiness also means a lot to you.
You can defend them in public, not minding how stupid you may end up looking.
You laugh at every silly joke they make even when it’s not that funny, you try to make it look like it’s fun, To avoid them feeling bad or down.
You have peace of mind.
You react every time they cross your mind with a smile.
Nervous at times when you are around them.
You feel excited and brand new within and outside.
You become friendly to people, including people you haven’t spoken with before.

14 Outstanding Signs You Are In A Toxic Marriage

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Signs of a toxic marriage

Toxic marriage is something that nobody, especially a lady, should pray for in life. Toxic marriage occurring in life does not mean that marriage is a bad thing. marriage is a beautiful thing when you are with the right person.
Note this, you don’t find the right person at a religious gathering, social gathering, or any kind of gathering, you can only find the right person that is compatible with you when you finally realize who you are and what you want.

Another way of avoiding toxic marriage is by making God be the foundation of it from the very first start. Now why from the start?
From the start because God created everyone in His own image which means that everyone is perfectly made and after creating, He attached each and everyone to their life partner, so making God be the foundation of your marriage means that he will help you by bringing who he ordained for you to locate you in one way or the other.

Being with the right person or having a good and happy marriage does not mean that your marriage is perfect and also is an absence of errors, disagreement, misunderstanding, etc. But what matters is how you handle your own marriage when all these trials arise. And this is what differentiates your marriage from your neighbor’s or your friend’s marriage.

——–What are the causes of a toxic marriage;——-+

Comparison: women do easily fall victim to this. Never compare your marriage to anyone’s own be it your parents, neighbors, friends, colleagues, etc. It’s annoying to be compared to anyone just because you made a mistake or because there was a fight and things couldn’t work out as expected from your partner.

It is a sign of reduction and disrespect. If he is trying, tell him he is trying, and if there is a misunderstanding or there is something he or she did that pissed you off, walk up to her or him and table it maturely for peace to rain, not by comparing the innocent soul or judging for his or her mistakes.

2. Being rude to each other: rudeness can come in the form of your response to a question maybe just because you are angry, you now take it out on your partner harshly and he or she also responds to it harsh before you know it, things got out of control.

3. Inferiority Complex: Oh my friends are all married with kids, Oh my junior colleague’s husband just got her a new car, etc. With this kind of complex, you now decided to start searching for a rich dude to mingle with or marry most times leaving your already existing relationship because you are desperate to be like your friends and colleague too.

4. No insight: before you settle to get married to someone, you got to sit down and learn things about marriage what it takes to keep your home and as a lady, you need to learn how to keep your man happy because it is very important

5. Delay: after all being said, a delay can also be a reason someone experiences a toxic marriage but how??
Well, this still relates and most times happen to us ladies.

At 23-26years, you are still not ready for marriage and you don’t even have someone in your life who you are serious with, yet it doesn’t bother you. Then at 30+ you now start looking for just any man that is handsome, tall, either rich, middle class, or poor, you don’t care, you just want to be married and start a family.

You now become desperate than before when you turn 36+ and then your prayer point changes to “Oh Lord anything” I don’t care, I just wanna have a man to call my own and then start a family with.
Now, something like this has the power to push you into a toxic marriage because you have no choice.

———Now these are the toxic marriage signs you should look out for;———–

Unsolved conflicts: when your partner is too stingy and big that he or she can not bring herself down for misunderstanding to be resolved then it Is a toxic marriage.
The truth is that no one is above mistakes so you shouldn’t expect your partner to be perfect if you are not perfect either.

2. None compatibility: You don’t have to be 100% compatible with your partner before you know that you are fit for each other. But at least you should be 70,80,90% compatible before you agree to end up with him.

— Things that you can be compatible with;—–

1.Your hobbies

2.Your kind of jokes

3. Your likes and dislikes

4. Your ways or reasoning

5. IQ, etc

—++ toxic marriage signs you should look out for—–

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Abuse: when you are emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually abused by your partner or his family and yet nothing is done about it, then run that marriage isn’t for you.
A man who abuses his wife is indirectly reducing himself to an animal or hunt other animals to feed and also to be king over them.

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2. Always defensive: It’s not bad for him or her to be defending himself at times but when it’s now becoming his lifestyle, then that’s not it again. For once be on the offensive side and learn to say oh I’m sorry.

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3. Is bossy: Men like being the boss of the house but likewise women, we also love being in charge at least for once in a particular place, but when everything that’s done in the house is from the approval of one person at all times then it’s not it.

Staying in a house you called your house because whatever belongs to your husband belongs to you too, but yet you don’t have a voice in your home then that’s a toxic marriage because you are a maid in your own house waiting for an order from the boss at all times.

4. Less concerned lifestyle: No matter how busy you are, you shouldn’t be so busy to the extent that you can’t notice your partner’s needs at home. As a human, he or she needs attention too from you.

If this is happening, it means that he or she is beginning to out something else before you and if not treated or sorted out immediately, it will result in divorce and that’s a toxic marriage.

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5. Frequent fight: fighting in a relationship of marriage is normal that’s because two imperfect beings come together to form a perfect home, so in the process of trying to build that perfect home, fight, disagreement, argument, etc must set in but when it becomes a schedule for everyday duty then that’s your marriage turning into a toxic marriage.

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6. Betrayal: when he or she starts lying to you about his way about, he starts cheating on you and sometimes denied it but maybe recently he can’t hide again so he or she now does it open for you or people to see that’s a toxic marriage sign.

7. Unnecessary changes of interest: You two used to be lovers of a particular thing or function and that function normally brings you two together in a way you can’t explain.

But later things start changing, he or she doesn’t feel like connecting again through that function, show, or whatever, therefore he starts limiting his interest.

This can be as a result of having a lot on his mind, he is trying to move on, he is no more interested in you, or he is confused about many things.

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8. Loneliness: this point doesn’t only have to do with married people, even to those in a relationship. When you are with someone yet you still feel single, empty, and wanting, then that’s not the right place for you to be.
When you are with someone, you are supposed to feel accepted emotionally, physically, mentally, etc satisfied. Except you are not in love.

9. No public nor inside respect: A woman or a man who speaks to you anyhow even in front of your kids, friends, colleagues, is not your man neither is she your woman., that’s why she does not regard you nor scared of what negative effect the action will do to the marriage.

Always thinking negative about the marriage future: Having a big vision is good but you got to work towards it if you want people to take you seriously.

When she be little whatever future plans you have, she is not yours. If you can’t change her to reason and see things with you, then let her, that’s you stepping into a toxic marriage.

You need someone who believes in your dreams too

10. Cut in communication: Without communication, a perfect marriage can turn into a toxic one in a twinkle of an eye. Communication helps in bleaching the gap between you and your partner, so when that is cut off, it automatically leads to a toxic marriage.

11. Distance: Distances here doesn’t only have to do with the physical distance but emotional distance. Distance emotionally creates starvation and from being starving emotionally, you can be taken off balance by anyone.

So if you feel distant emotionally between you and your spouse, work things out otherwise get busy.

HOW TO HANDLE A TOXIC MARRIAGE;

You can handle by not marrying just because
your mother pressurizes you to give her grandchildren. If you are not ready to be committed to a man or woman, please don’t bring someone’s child into your home and torture her.
Choose to marry when you are sure that you are ready to settle down and start your own family.
Marry for love and not for goal achievement: it is not bad to have a set goal or dreams for your future but deciding to make it through marriage will only result in a toxic marriage.
Therefore, marry because you have something in common with this guy or lady that you believe that can be grown to lead to something serious.
Marry someone who is a therapy in nature: yeah a therapy in nature in the form of if you are hot, he or she will be available or able to hold you down, he will be able to help you control your temper, not someone who will even put more fuel to the fire to be hotter and bring out flames.
Marry a friend: if love can not hold a home or relationship tight, then friendship can. Marry someone who is friendly in nature.
Don’t marry for family reputation. Your happiness matters a lot not to your parents, at least to yourself.
Don’t marry because of flashes things because one day when those things are not available anymore, you will be completely hurt, because it wasn’t what you saw nor plan.

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Facebook Dating Tips you need

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Facebook Dating Tips

Do you believe that you can find love anywhere including where you never expected? Yes, love can be encountered in many places including on Facebook. Although a lot of people do not believe in anything called Facebook dating that is why these Facebook dating tips are necessary if you want to try it out?

Facebook is one of the most popular social media networks that accommodate people of different tribes all around the world. It makes it easy for people to communicate with family and friends in faraway distances.

Facebook dating is becoming successful now in a way that many people are starting to prefer it to many other dating apps but then it also had some rules which you have to take.

If you have never been careful in life, online dating is one of the things you have to be careful about as you don’t know who you are chatting with.

But then be it Facebook dating or any other online dating site, ensure that you follow the rules of the site before taking things forward with whoever you are chatting with.

Facebook Dating Tips

1 Profile Picture: Facebook does not have a particular kind of picture requirement for your profile but if you want to stay real, you should try and use your real photo.

Try and use one of your best images you too in a presentable environment. This is because, for someone to notice you, the first they do is check your profile image. If it speaks volumes, they will send you a request right away.

2 Control your temper: You don’t expect in a platform like Facebook which a lot of people coming from different countries, background to behave like you or the way you expect them to be. Some must annoy you but that does not mean that every guy or lady that will chat you up will be the same.

No matter how the guy starts the chat with you, don’t respond with anger or abused words if his salutation is below your standard or if you think that he is less, then just ignore the message instead of showing your temper.

N/B Doing this might save you face when after a year or month that guy changes the ways of chatting and started chatting maturely.

This is one of the ways a lot of ladies miss out just because the guy wasn’t up to their standard through his salutation.

3 Correct Details: You may not want to use your correct details on social media for security purposes but then you must try and keep at least one or two things correct. This can catch someone’s interest and make them attracted to you.

— Facebook Dating Rules

Before going into online dating, make sure that you take precautionary measures and some of them are,

1 Meet in an open place: One of the rules that you can read from any online dating site is “Ensure that you are meeting in an open place”. And this is very important.

In the process of you not knowing someone but in the process of getting to know the person, you must use a place that you are familiar with also of a place that many people are using or passing example like the amusement park, a restaurant, (an open restaurant), beach, etc.

Using these open places will help you to be on the safe side. Please never forget this even If you forget others.

2 Tell someone you were about: another mistake that a lot of ladies do is going to visit a guy you just met online in a secret place and also keep it a secret away from everyone including your close friend. No that is wrong.

Meeting someone you don’t know before without informing your close friend or family is a wrong move. No matter how desperate you are, always remember to stay safe if not for your good at least stay safe for your family and loves ones.

A lot of negative things happen for example there was a story that I read About a lady who met a guy online after a few weeks of their chatting, they became friends so one day they decided to meet instead of the guy to invite the girl to a public place he chooses his home.

He invited the girl to his house and the girl accepted to visit his home. Her acceptance to meet a stranger in his house was a wrong move and another mistake she did was to go there without informing anyone.

So it is better to also stay safe while looking for a date or while accepting a date online.

8 reasons: romantic words are important

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

ways romantic words can influence your home

Being romantic plus using romantic words has been one of the

relationship issues that is being very contentious from both

religious fanatics and people of the secular world.

Romance however has being embraced by the secular world more

than the people of church circle.

Most Christians are of the opinion that being romantic is

synonymous to being worldly which means that being romantic

or using romantic words is not biblical. Can that be true?

Romance is one of the basic ingredients that spurs or lubricates a

love relationship well and is expected of every partner in such

relationship.

As a principle it is necessary to learn and adapt to romantic

lifestyles for emotional stability in love relationships.

People in Other forms of relationship need not get romantic to

keep it stable.

The truth is, romance is a spice that has kept a lot of marriages

from breaking. Any marriage that is not romantic is at the verge

of breaking or better still is 80% fail and divorce is eminent

unless an immediate action is taken on time on the positive

direction.

Once your partner starts behaving as your roommate just know

that something is wrong, that something that was there has

disappeared. Try finding out what that is and you both get it fix

immediately.

Even if it demands going out for a romantic dinner at new

locations.

THINGS THAT DESTROY A MARRIAGE

Many homes and marriages today are destroyed not because the

partners were not made for each other or that their background is

the worst?

But many are destroyed and ruined today because of the negative

changes that evolved in the process of adjusting to the effect of

their new chapter in life called marriage.

These are as followed:

Sudden Changes in Lifestyle
Dressing and appearance
Circle of friends
Avoiding responsibilities
Lack of mutual Respect
Self Comparison with others
Lack of frequent communication

Sudden Changes in Lifestyle: When the changes in your

lifestyle such as the way you live, talk, your sense of courtesy

and reasoning is nothing to write home about, you freak him/her

out any time you open your mouth to speak.

When you’re no more careful of your choice of words towards

your spouse, which are mostly provocative. You react and

capitalize on every single mistake that occurs in the house, from

your spouse, kids, or maids etc. And most time s/he may choose

to keep mute or dress up and step out for a walk.

Please note by this action you are indirectly driving your partner

out of your home, and your life.

Dressing and Appearance: You are married, so what else is it

you want more than a responsible life which is mostly reflective in

your choice of dressing? No you already have a man/woman so

don’t let your external dress code be provocative, inviting and

explosive rather dress smart and sharp, while paying attention to

the styles that matches your body physique and colors that

matches your complexion.

For the ladies, its not once you are married, you join the Married

Women Dressing Committee (MWDC) to start dressing to cover

from your head to your feet, while he is still young and fresh.

Do you want to hear the truth?

“He is seeing you as an elderly woman, not a young lady he

married and that’s the truth.” dress in a way that he will start

composing his own romantic words mend looking at you, without

looking through a love text message app to compose

You are losing value and you need to work on it fast before he

starts looking outside.

your dressing has a lot to do with the romance in your married. so learn to dress to romance your husband.

advantage is that, it will help him to look back home because his wife can dress.

Circle of Friends: it is not good to be a married woman/man and

still keep people who knows nothing about building a home as

your friends and expect to have a happy home. That’s an irony

What advise can they offer when you are troubled in your

relationship with your spouse?

They will not tell you to go back to your spouse and sort things

out rather they will be more comfortable having you sit out with

them even if its 11pm.

So I ask” is that the kind of friends married people or soon to be

couple should keep?

Please keep friends that are responsibly married to their spouse.

Avoiding Responsibilities: You cooked for him anytime you

visited him/ you bought gifts and card, phone alerts every now

and then during your courtship but after wedding, you got a

house help, you became madam/Sir,

you no longer cook his meal, wash his clothes/ no more special

gifts and alerts for your spouse. The bed room you and your

spouse sleeps on is done by the house help.

Everything done in the house is done by the house maid including

taking care of your spouse stomach etc.

should I advise you?

One day, the house help will also take care of your spouse’s

needs in the bed.

So make yourself available for your spouse’s need at home. Don’t

work around with the title Married man/woman without doing

your duty as a married person at home.

Women like anything alerts be it credit or airtime alerts, so

continue doing what you started and even do more

Lack of Respect: One thing you need to know is that women

needs all the attention that they can get and men need all the

respect they can get in their relationships

When you and your spouse starts acting the opposite. If he says

yes, you say No, you don’t do anything s/he says nor listen to

him/her for once, you are simply washing off the savour in your

marriage relationship.

Please there is a great need for mutual respect, if your

relationship must work.

Like commonly said “action speaks louder than words” ladies

should allow their husbands to be the head of the home and their

opinion respected despite their financial status. Respect should be

seen the more in your actions towards each other.

Comparison: If you want a happy and romantic home, never

compare your spouse nor your home with your neighbor’s or your

friend’s spouse/home openly nor secretly.

N/B another person’s home will always remain another person’s

home and your home is your home. Try and set your home well

both with prayers and make it work.

Men hates comparison while some ladies may tolerate it some

may not as their male counterparts.

Are we communicating?

Lack of Communication: Do you know that once you and your

spouse stops expressing your thought/feelings to one another

maybe through romantic words, play etc

that’s how your home starts getting scattered?

When you two knows nothing about each other, that’s how you

become a stranger to each other in your home.

Communication and prayer Is the key every home should not

misplace no matter the situation.

To have a good relationship with your spouse, you need

communication in order to get to know and understand each

other properly.

No home nor relationship survives without communication,

especially long distance relationship.

There must always be a means of communication that connects

you two together.

Work on yourself, don’t bring in a third party into every small

issue that occur in your home.

N/B There is no home that doesn’t have nor face challenges.

How you handle it is what really matters.

THINGS EVERY MARRIAGE NEEDS apart from romantic words are:

PRAYER

COMMUNICATION

FRIENDSHIP

ROMANCE

LOVE EXPRESSION

FUN

RESPECT

ORDERLINESS

DISCIPLINE

HOME PRIVACY

ABSENCE OF THIRD PARTY

ABSENCE OF UNFRIENDLY FRIENDS

ABSENCE OF COMPARISON

GOOD DRESSING SENSE

COORDINATION

ABSENCE OF TOO MUCH FRIENDS

UNDERSTANDING

TRUST

NO RESTRICTION OF SECRETS FROM EACH OTHER

BACKUP BOTH IN PUBLIC OR YOUR SPOUSE

THINGS TO AVOID

LIES

ABUSES

CLUBING EXCEPT WITH YOUR SPOUSE

IRRITATING LIFE STYLE

REDUCE YOUR DRINKING HABIT

TRYING TO ALWAYS HAVE THE FINAL SAY

BEING BOSSY

HARSH

DISCRIMINATION BE IT PUBLICLY OR PRIVATELY

LAZINESS

IRRESPONSIBLE

BAD COACHING

so learn to use romantic words with your spouse and spice up the romance in your home.

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12 Outstanding Surprising Signs that your spouse is cheating

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Signs that your spouse is cheating:

Love can be so beautiful and sparkling that we turn blind-eye to the main things we suppose to be looking out for in our relationship as “signs that our spouse is cheating”

Most times, we choose to believe in the lies our partner tells us more than when the truth is being told, with this, we give them room to use their sweet tongue to Manipulate our mind with lies and flirt.

When. You are in a relationship, get to know your partner well so that when changes occur, you will be able to decode it in and on time without being deceived.

Though it is not all changes that means that your partner may be cheating but no matter the kind of change that occurs, you will know by so many things.

If you are finding it difficult to know, then let me walk through with some points.

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—-Signs that your spouse is cheating on you or is trying to cheat—-

1. Secretive: I use secretive as number one because no matter the way he or she wants to manipulate it, he will try to hide it in a way that you will never suspect or believe it even if someone tells you about it.

Therefore just watch as if you don’t smell a fish in the pot.

2. Excuses: A partner who used to give you his or her attention more often suddenly changed to an excused one in a twinkle of an eye, my dear something is not right if you ask me. Excuses break marriages and relationships and with this insight, he still chooses to flow with the excuses then is a simple sign that your partner is cheating.

3. Scared: A man or woman that maybe cheating will have no complete peace at home even without your confrontation, he or she will be running up and down, even while eating, he will be observing you from his sit just to check if you suspect anything.

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4. Secret Phone Calls: marriage includes being transparent to your partner but when your partner starts sneaking in and out just to answer his or her phone, running away from your present. Something is up.

What kind of phone call will make a man run out of the bathroom or toilet naked to carry his phone to avoid you checking the caller?

When I was at college, there was this guy I dated, we were serious anyway since we were at college, we wanted to get married after our degree. We were into the relationship that his siblings knew about us.

The only thing is that he finished college before me, so with that, there was a little distance, we couldn’t see each other every day as before but video calls were always our ways of communication.

Few months after he graduated, I went to spend the weekend with him, on reaching there, we decided to sit out with his friends. But during that siting out, there was something fishing going on.

All his friends couldn’t loom me straight in the eye, I tried to ignore it just to enjoy the money, a few minutes later an elderly lady walked into the bar, immediately his friends started seeing each other and they all looked toward the same direction.

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Before you know it, one of them stood up and walked up to the lady, then they both went out. A few minutes later he came in smiling.

I knew that something was not right but I didn’t know who to ask between even my friend couldn’t stand on his two feet again after the lady left.

When we got home that night, I went into the kitchen to microwave dinner so he went into the shower and left his phone on the center table has usual

A few minutes after he entered the bathroom, his phone began ringing, before I could stop out of the kitchen just to help him with the phone, guess what??

He was already there striping wet, then I now decode that the lady at the bar actually came for him but his friend stood up to cover his deed so that I won’t suspend. I didn’t ask him but my behavior that night changed.

The next day I went back to school, I hardly call him, nor text him as before, when he notices that, he now discovered that I knew about It but still he said nothing for about six months, but before he could even start explaining to me why he did it, it was already too late.

I gave him time but he was still not ready to come out.

When someone loves you so much and values you, he or she will not stop being transparent with you.

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5. Stay out late at night: What will keep a man or woman outside his home at night leaving his woman alone in the house?? I don’t think there is any job that is a must and compulsory to work until 11 pm or 12 a.m in the office except he or she is security personnel.

And even as security personnel, you work by shift, no security works from morning to night, without a break to go home to his family.

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6. Fight: fighting is another format for a breakup, a man or woman who wants to break up in her relationship, or divorce in their marriage normally starts it with a fight.

Yeah, a fight he or she starts by going against you or do things that will annoy you so that he can use that against you, making it look like you are the case.

7. Negativity: He was never like that from the very start but along the line he changed, he does believe in possibilities anymore, he doesn’t believe that you can do it.

All he does is “Honey I don’t think we can do it “Honey about Jake’s school, don’t you think is expensive? Why not take him to a public school? etc.

All this is not because you guys are broke but are because he is not ready to spend much on the family therefore he starts using this format to cut the links.

My advice: Start working even harder than usual for backup so that nothing will take you unawares. signs that you are getting dumped

8. Complaints: He goes fuses on everything and on anything you do, nothing you do in the house that interests nor please him anymore. And that’s because there is another woman or man in his life who is marking time to break your home just to come in.

9. No Intimacy: Most times intimacy stops because he or she has no interest in you anymore or the feelings for you are less than the percentage it was from the start.

Even when some tries faking it, you that is involved, if you check it well, you will notice that his or her heart is not really into you anymore no matter how he pretends there must always be something in his heart even while being with you.

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10. Attached to chats: As a single man or lady, social media can be your attachment but when you have a spouse, many of those will just stop without your noticing. Is a normal thing.

But when along the line, your spouse changes again to that single lifestyle, so attached to social media is one of the signs that your spouse is cheating. Just watch his reaction while chatting, then you can tell.

11. He avoids family discussion: communication is what generates understanding in a home and every good home manager knows about this, but when your spouse starts avoiding any discussion that has to do with the future of the family, then that’s it, you don’t need a fortune teller to tell you this one. But your mind needs therapy if you want to save your home.

That’s if only is not beyond repair.

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12. He or She is so into their appearance before stepping out of the house: As a spouse, all their interest when it comes to their appearance is to look good in front of their partners, just to have more of their attention.

But when that’s not the case anymore, it means there is someone else in the picture in which he or she is trying to impress out there without your notice.

Therefore if you don’t want to get broken when any of this results in a breakup, then take this article signs that your spouse is cheating seriously.

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Reasons Why Relationships Fail

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Reasons Why Relationships Fail

Running up and down all alone just for your relationship does not stop that relationship from failing. A relationship that was meant to fail will always fail but then why? Let’s see the reasons why relationships fail and I am sure it will help us to be well prepared before stepping into one.

A relationship is meant to make one’s life complete, it is meant to fill the empty gap that is left open for love. But then we end up meeting a few wrong people in our lives that make it looks like there is nothing like true love but the truth is “True love still exists”.

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All that matters is to meet the right person at the right time and the right place. Love is beautiful when you are with the right person that is where the reasons why relationships fail are important to be talked about.
So to answer your question about why relationships fail;

1 Lack of Compatibility: before accepting to marry any man or lady, it is very important to ensure that you both are compatible to be together forever. Compatibility can help keep your relationship or marriage going no matter the situation that arises but how?

For example, if you are someone that does not like drinking and you also happen to be with someone that does not like drinking also, but then one day because of one thing or the other he got drunk or he is smelling alcoholic and came home.

No matter how angry or disappointed you are with him, you will still give him a chance to explain what happen or why he drank.

This is because you are compatible with him, you know very well that he doesn’t drink and for him to do this today, means that something might have caused it.

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2 Respect: Being in a relationship with someone who is around your age does not mean that he does not deserve your respect. One of the ways to respect your man is to avoid bringing him down in front of your friends no matter his stage financially.

Any man who still stays around you after you have embarrassed him in front of your friends more than once is waiting for the right time to bounce and this time is called injury time in a football match. So if you know that it must be him, then you must use this period to amend your ways.

3 Cheating: you cheat once and way caught and forgiven and then you go again, then it is time to start saying bye to your relationship.

4 Intruders: do you still want to know why do relationships fail? Then this point has to do with family and friends. When we are in a relationship with someone that we do not have a say are destined to fail.

How can you be in a relationship yet your partner can not defend you in front of his or her friends or family? We lose who we love because we allow our friends to decide our life partners for us.

Communication, understanding is necessary to make a relationship or marriage work but still, you need love to make that take place.

5 Emotionally Unavailable: One of the reasons why relationships fail is because the love that was used to establish the relationship at first is gone and the relationship is now left with tolerates and endurance.
Once this happens, there is a possibility of it not succeeding long.

6 Lack of Future Plans: one of the top reasons why relationships fail is because we don’t know our stand in our partner’s lives. when you as a man do not involve your woman in your future plans nor talk about the future with her or ask her about her plans for the future it shows you don’t care much even if you do.

7 Ways of how to stay in a healthy relationship

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

WAYS TO STAY IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Words can never adequately convey the incredible impact of our attitude toward healthy relationship.

Never mistook relationship for marriage. you are in a relationship not in a marriage,

he is your partner for the main time and you loving each other so much is not, nor is it a guarantee that you two will end up together.

Keith Harrell has written, Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% of it, is based on how we respond to it.

If you were not destined for each other, if you like tie him to your waist, police him etc he

will still walk out one day telling you” The man that will marry you will enjoy you”.

when that happens, don’t kill yourself by committing suicide or drinking something

poisonous because if you do, life will still go on for him, he won’t kill himself too just to

meet you.

Do you know the worst part?

The worst part is that he will walk with another lady and come for your funeral. and I’m

sure you don’t want that so try and stay safe while trying to create a healthy relationship.

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Emotional
Space
Friend
Investigation
Introduction
Limitation

His phone: if you want to survive, never go through his inbox, he is your

boyfriend not your husband and even if he was your husband, don’t make such

mistake because you will kill yourself before time and he will get someone else

immediately.

Emotional: it is true that women are always so emotional but if you want to

stay healthy while in a relationship, don’t be too emotionally attached because

when you are, you can easily be destroyed if breakup arises.

so love him but limit your emotions and ensure that it is checked regularly.

N/B to know when you are too emotionally attached: when you begin nagging too much,

don’t feel like you don’t have the qualities to be in a relationship when he complains that

you nag too much. the truth is that you are too emotionally attach which you need to get

it checked.

Space: most men value their space a lot even if they don’t open up to you but

inside them, they do. That doesn’t mean that he is not in love with you.

N/B you are not married yet, then why packing to his house? to take care of him? does

he sees it in the same angle with you? come on, you have already made yourself a wife,

even while he is not ready to settle down with a lady yet. that is a sign of desperation.

Give him his space, even stay away from his home a little, a man who loves and value

you and was for you, will always be for you even if you don’t stay with him nor see him

at all times.

so give him his space, let him miss you. With that, he will value every

minute you two share together maybe over dinner or in his apartment.

Just let him show you how much he loves you by coming for you not you always going

to him. that generate a healthy relationship.

Friends: there are some friends that will always be there for you when you face

hard times both in your relationship. Don’t push away all your good friends just

because you have a guy now.

N/B that same guy may go away one day but your friends will still remain your good

friends. They are the ones that will always give you a shoulder to cry on.

Investigation: don’t try to investigate everything he does, it is called PRIVACY.

I know you care but don’t try to act like a wife if he hasn’t given you such place

in his life. you may not be able to recover fast from what you will get to know

during your investigation.

So why trying to get old before your age. A man who wants a future with you or a healthy relationship, will open

things up to you even without you investigating.

READ…. SIGNS THAT HE WANTS A FUTURE WITH YOU

Introduction: if he doesn’t introduce you to his friends, family or any of his love

ones, don’t try acting smart by trying to do it yourself.

You will not only disgrace yourself but you will also leave an impression that you are

desperate.

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Limitation: as a girlfriend, lady friend etc, you have limitation, boundaries in his

life especially his daily affair. don’t try to be bossy while he has not given you

any right, nor have you reached that stage yet in his life.

Try and know your place in his life because it will help you to think and act accordingly.

N/B is not every relationship result in marriage so don’t force it if you don’t want to get hurt.

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10 Shocking Signs He Doesn’t Want To Marry You

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Signs he doesn’t want to marry you

Men can be so secretive to some point that if you are not patient enough, you can lose a lot. But most times, the patient is not really what you want but signs he wants you in his future or signs he doesn’t want to marry you.

It will be an error to waste three years, five, six, eight years of your life with a man who doesn’t even show you any sign of marriage.

To harden the whole thing, he now decided to put his ring on your finger just so to avoid you nagging at him you now then become Lord of the rings, carrying the engagement ring from one place to the other, chasing away men who come to you for marriage But at the end of eight years, things changed, and he starts showing you the real signs he doesn’t want to marry you.

But to avoid that from happening, you need to start reading the handwriting on the wall as soon as can because as a lady, growing is staged by stages. Stage to marry, birth bearing, and a time to cross over to menopause.

Therefore some signs that he doesn’t want to marry you are as followed;

1. Hidden Secrets: It takes trust for one to tell you his or her secret. Although, trust can’t be given 100% but at least 50% to someone that you truly love.

Trust has the power to sustain your relationship be it a short or long-distance relationship. A relationship that has trust issues hardly has the chance to see the daybreak.

When your man keeps secrets from you, it means he doesn’t trust you either just yet or he just doesn’t trust you.

Note: A man, who is seeking something serious with you, will not hide anything from you, because he knows very well that if the secret is later revealed by itself that he might lose you.

To avoid that, he ensures that he let you into his life, which means you know the good and the bad side of him.

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2. Excuses: A man who wants to marry you will not be addicted to excuses knowing very well that it will hurt you, so try avoiding it.

Note: it doesn’t mean that if he gives you an excuse one day that it one of the signs he doesn’t want to marry you, but when the excuse is continuously and frequently that at times he repeats the same excuse twice without remembering that he once used that on you.

Don’t be with a flirt if you are a serious lady looking for a serious man because as flirts, it is in their nature to give excuses at all times.

And it takes a lot more to change someone who was once a flirt or who is a flirt. It is better to avoid such men who are full of excuses.

3. No Introduction: A man who is not sure of you, will not allow you to come to his house when his sister or any of his siblings is around.

As a lady for four years, five, six, eight years you are still in a secret relationship not wanting your parents or friends to know about it, you are still on the boyfriend, girlfriend level without upgrading and you are still okay with it saying “He loves me”.

My dear, are you for real??? No, rethink well, at four years; the relationship should be looking at the future not still at boyfriend and girlfriend level. It should be my fiancee and fiance.

I guess we are communicating. This is not desperation; it is your right as a woman to know your stand in his life. If he refuses to tell you, don’t force him it simply means that he is confused and not sure of you yet.

4. He clubs: it is very hard to find a guy who wants to marry you anytime soon in a clubhouse. If he doesn’t invite you along as his plus one, it means that something is up.

Many guys who club do because they haven’t made any commitment yet. Apart from all the music and fun you see in a club, it is also a place to relieve tension. So if your man cannot be with you at night but instead in the clubhouse, it is also, signs he doesn’t want to marry you maybe anytime soon.

5. Plans: it takes a man who sees his future with you to tell you his plans and also turn to seek your suggestion on certain issues to fix.

You don’t have to be married to a man first before you start knowing the plans he prepared for you and your children, the plans come before “Yes, I do”.

There are something’s that you hear after the wedding, that shock you into your narrow that if you knew about it before you married him, you couldn’t have accepted to marry him or you could have solved it then.

So plans are one of the first signs a man will show to you if only he wants to marry you now or anytime soon in the future.

So flee if he thinks that you as a woman that you are not qualified or that you have no right to know about what plans he has for both your future, your children’s future, and his future as well.

6. Your pictures: Most times pictures have a way of bringing people close to each other who have been apart from each other for a while. Example in a long distances relationship.

A man who loves you shouldn’t lack your picture on his phone, except he wants to keep it a secret or because you don’t have such a place in his heart for him to give such space on his mobile phone or laptop.

7. Mistresses: if a man mistakenly tells you that a lady is his mistress it is likely that he also told the other lady that you are his side chick too.

“Signs he doesn’t want to marry you clearly states that any man who doesn’t care or think about your feelings or emotion before speaking or acting js not qualify to be your man”.

Before a man drops all side chick and gets attached to just you, simply means that he wants to get serious. And serious with you??

Of course serious with you, so don’t blow it up by pushing him outside while he is trying to come inside.

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8. Arrogance: it takes a man who wants to marry you to drop his arrogance on the ground to say I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you”. Pride is something that only men who know what they want can let go of just to avoid losing you.

If your man is too proud and arrogant to say please, even when you threaten to walk out of the relationship then that’s signs he doesn’t want to marry you. Neither is he even ready for a commitment with you.

9. He doesn’t care: have you ever gone out with your guy before to an event by reaching there he keeps on admiring other ladies and taking selfies with them minding how you feel or introducing you to them as his plus one?

well, it can be so frustrating, a man who is not ready for commitment, will not care about whatever you feel about his social life or circle as long as he is happy and okay with it. what you think means nothing to him.

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10. Bachelor lifestyle: Being with someone is like saying it’s a process in life in which you start learning how to take care of responsibilities, which means that one man’s lifestyle should be far from you or your man.

There are still so many signs he doesn’t want to marry you but we will talk about more next time.

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Secret ways to make him worry about losing you

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Do you feel like, in your relationship, you are the only one that wants to make it work out while your partner is not doing as if he cares? Don’t be heartbroken because in this article we will be discussing some secret ways to make him worry about losing you.

The truth is that he might care a lot about you and the relationship but he just doesn’t feel like there is a need to work for it too much. After all, he is already very sure that you won’t leave him anytime soon so with that he sees no reason to worry about losing you because it will never happen.

Therefore you have to make him understand that you and he, are in this together and not the other way around. But then do you know how to make him worry about losing you? If No, then stay with me.

Before doing anything, ensure that you know your worth in his life first because a man who doesn’t value you nor love you will not be worried about losing you as long as there are ladies of other ladies out there.

How do I make him know my worth?

Before you make him worry about losing you ensure that you make him understand and know your worth of having you around him. Let him know that it is not his right but a privilege to be around and a few ways to do that are;

1 Get Engaged: An ideal lady is most timeless valued because you are always available anytime any day so get yourself busy on daily basis. This will make him feel your absence when he needs you and you are not available at that very moment.

This does not mean you should be too busy that he can’t have your time, be busy but don’t let him have 90% of your time. With this, he will value every time you give to him.

2 Don’t be too attached: Attachment wears people out especially when it is too much. To make him need you, minimize the way you call or text him. Too much text tells him that you are thinking about him whenever you text.

Yes, he might enjoy it but most times he won’t text you back so why not allow him to be the one to check on you some days?

3 Refuse to be a pushover: Say “NO’’ when you know that it is the right answer and say yes, when you are sure. Don’t make yourself a pushover that he can do whatever he pleases knowing that you won’t fight back. Make yourself worth something and not worthless.

4 Have a life: being busy does not mean that you have a life so when we say have a life, it means we have something that we can turn around tomorrow and smile at what we have achieved.

Having a life makes you a voice in your home, in the middle of your friends and his friends, it makes your family respects you and recognized you. It also makes him understand that you have what it takes for a brighter future between you two.

There are a lot of other ways to make him know your worth just check which you think you can handle.

How do you make him worry about losing you?

To make him worry about losing you, you can start by doing these few things;

1 Look attractive: You don’t have to use the most expensive clothes before you can look attractive. Every man is afraid of losing their partner when other men make advances.

Make your dress code presentable and unique. Don’t expose yourself but dress in a way that speaks for you. “The way you dress is how you will be addressed”.

2 Don’t be too emotional: Ladies are indeed very emotional but most times we have to drop the emotion and act strong. Don’t show your weak point at all times because when you do, you are showing him the amount of effect he is having on you and that is not a good sign if you want him to value you.

3 Have something you are good at. Have your dream also don’t sit down and be agreeing to everything that he suggests because this will make you voiceless in his present.

Have something that you are interested in and also you are good at. This shows that you are not a woman who depends on a man to have your own future.

4 Be Friendly: If you have never learned how to be friendly with people, especially guys in his presence then this is the time. Smiling and laughing when you are talking with someone or any of his male friends at a function steer up jealousy in him.

It makes him realize what he has, and that tells him that if he doesn’t take action in time, that he might lose you.

This point is one of the fastest ways to make him worry about losing you. He may not tell you but you can observe it by yourself by watching his movements and reaction to things throughout that gathering. This will tell you all you need to know.

Some of the reactions are;

1 He will try to tell the other guys to stay clear that you are already taken by acting possessively. Don’t feel bad when he does, all you have to do is to smile and act like you don’t know what is going on. But still don’t stop smiling at people that smile at you until he asks you to stop.

At this point, he can’t pretend that he is not worried about the relationship but still act ignorant and ask him playfully “But why”? Make sure you do it will a slight smile this will show that you are not questioning him intentionally but because you want to understand what’s going on around you.

2 He will come to start walking by side while whispering meaningful and non-meaning things to you every now and there. This is also to show off how close you two are.

5 Don’t pretend just to please him: Most men do not understand that you doing things to please them at all times does not mean that you are pleased also.

Being yourself will tell him that at this moment, you are thinking of yourself, and your happiness, and not him. This will make him reflect on the ways he used to treat you.

And if he hasn’t asked for your opinion before whenever he wants to make a decision that concerns the two of you, he will start doing that.

Live a life that will make your man value you because you are worth being appreciated. Every woman is priceless so make yourself one. You can also join on relationship space at Quora let’s talk about relationships.

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