1 REASON WHY THE WORD LET’S BE FRIENDS IS IMPORTANT

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

AN INSIGHT ABOUT THE WORD LET’S BE FRIENDS

Many of us don’t like hearing the word let’s be friends because it irritates us we prefer it to be a Yes or a No.

“Let’s called a spade a spade” but one thing we do forget is that friendship is the most important reason we want to get into a relationship with a particular person at a particular time and that’s why it plays an important role

Before we talk more, what is friendship to us.

“FRIENDSHIP” has so many meanings, it means attachment, good-fellowship, familiarity, harmony, alliance, fondness etc etc.

We will further say “Friendship is the process whereby different individuals or animals comes together to associate.

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Note that, in this kind of situation, Happiness and peace of mind is very far away.

Many people feel bad when they hear the word can we just be friends? let’s be friends etc. And with that,they give up on trying, if you ask them why? they will tell you that there is no need of being friends with someone they are in love with. But that’s very wrong. you liked her?

what about her? Does she like you but she doesn’t want to jump into the a relationship immediately, then she now decided to use this friendship period to get to know you a little bit. Love is a gradual process, it can get to anyone at any time most times, when you least expected.

A little story:

I have a friend, each time we decide to either hang out or see a movie, she will invite other of her friends alone.

Now one of this her friends who was in a serious relationship according to her, each time she comes around, her fiance will be calling every five to ten minutes to check on her. And each time that occur we will be making fun of them singing love songs for them, but instead of her to be smiling after the calls, she will start lamenting most time.

One day, I decided to ask her why her mood always changed each time the guy calls her. What she said marvels me

She said” why will a guy be calling me every five to ten minutes anytime I tell him I was going out with friends, is that not in security?

I now ask her what was wrong with that, perhaps is it not what ladies want, she say to me, ladies, not me, cause to me, I don’t like too much phone calls, I prefer text messages.

He calls too much and it makes him looks desperate and with that, I feel uncomfortable.

Immediately I heard that statement, I now decided to interview her.

My questions were as follows;

Do you love him? She said yes she does.
How long have you known him? She said three months.
And how long have you guys dated? She said three months
You dated him that same month you knew him? She said well, it was like a week or two later.

After the whole thing, I now discover that they didn’t create friendship first before they started their relationship. Which means they started their relationship in trial and error.

The man likes phone calls and checking on his fiancee but in the other hand, the fiancee is not okay with it. She is busy complaining all the time because she prefers text messages to phone calls. Now, that’s individual differences.

We may not know the dos and the don’ts of a person unless we are closer to them through friendship.

when friendship is created first, we will get to know who we are dealing with, the persons likes and dislike. Despite the fact that you won’t know everything at that moment but gradually, you will know.” It is better to marry your friend than your lover” your friend knows your ups and downs.

And still stays around, there are things you can’t tell a lover why?Because he or she may run away.

therefore, don’t feel bad if a lady or a guy tells you let’s be friends… what you should worry about is after this, will there be a possibility of something developing between you two or will it just end with let’s be friends.

Well i will say that’s up to you, the things you do and the way you handle things will determine if she will stay or not.

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17 of what to say to a girl

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Knowing what to say to a girl

What to say to a girl at times is like a war to most guys.

Some of us are in love while some of us have people we admire.

But at times, it seen we don’t love nor value them because we don’t know the words to use, where and when to use them.

We think that we are not romantic and with that, most of us sit down and watch romantic movies just to learn how to be romantic.

That’s not bad but for how long?

You don’t need a thousand words before you can sweep her off her feet.

All you need is just the perfect words to do the magic for you.

Example of what you can say to a girl are:

why you should use romantic words

I’m not perfect but you are the only woman that makes my life feel perfect.

I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you.

A smile of a man is love and strength, and you are my love and my strength.

No matter how far you are, you are still going to be in my heart.

Those who think that true love doesn’t exit, they haven’t seen us together. We are record breakers.

You make my life colorful.

True love is when the heart feels quicker than the mind thinks.

I will always be there for you, anytime, anywhere.

Have I ever told you how beautiful you look today?

I love you more as each moment passes us by.

All I ever wanted was someone like you. And thank God I found you.

My love for you is like water, falling countless.

Can I ask you for something? Can I love again in our next life because I can’t get enough of you.

My life is complete because I have you in it.

You are one of the achievement in my life I will forever be proud that I made.

I will give up the world just to have u because without you, life is incomplete.

If loving you was a crime, I wouldn’t mind being send to jail.

Just to prove how much I love you.

what to say to a girl….. with this few lines, it can get you started.

11 Tools that can spice up intimacy in your relationship

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Why intimacy dies in marriages

Intimacy matters in a relationship building…

It is obvious that most times, you will see a two- three years marriages scattering every year because of one thing or the other and in this kind of situation no one knows who is at fault and with that it results in wife pointing a finger at the husband and the husband pointing at the wife and they end up blaming one another as if blames can settle a case in a home.

You will also see another home being together for fourth plus something years, some fifty etc still as fresh as when they newly got married.

Now what’s the difference between that, does it mean that the other home is not as rich as this one that’s why their marriage is scattering?

No, is not…

N/B First of all, you got to remember why you got married to the person in the first place, what attracted you to the person etc.

1) Most marriages scattered because of lack of intimacy:

Showering Together: when you and your spouse were in courtship, you were not ashamed to

take your bath with him in fact, you enjoyed it because you felt like you and your man were

couples already.

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Cooking Together: anytime she is in the kitchen you enjoyed hanging around the kitchen even

when match was about to start, you still went there not as if you can cook but just to disturb

her and in the process, she will carry spoon and start chasing you around the kitchen, pursuing

you to leave the kitchen and you two will be laughing and having fun.

Laundry: you do laundry together most time if she is busy with other things or she is not w
ell,

you helped her with the laundry including washing her undies. You told her I love you and

don’t worry babe rest today I will do the chores. And she smiled at you and said you are the

best I love you more.

Dinner: Even when there was food in the house, you two still decides to eat your dinner outside

not because the food in the house was not well prepared but because you two just wanted to

spend the night together.

Dressing: Before you married him, you used to wear trousers, make your hair, dress decent and

look attractive. Many guys fell on your feet just to get your attention and some just to be your

friends.

Your social media was full with admirer and about 1000+ friend requests still piling up waiting for

respond and you felt like a celebrity. He became so jealous that he thinks that if he wastes time from

putting a ring on that finger, he will lose you and he couldn’t bear seeing you in the arms of another man

even without opening up to you.

But what later happen after marriage??

After marriage you started carrying the mind set of what am I looking for again? After all, am not looking

for a husband. with that mindset,

you changed, you no longer wear trousers, making your hair is a problem to you, dress smartly no way.

Instead you start becoming close friend with your wrapper, morning, afternoon and night.

When they see your wrapper, they can see you because one cannot leave the other because of the

bonding. Did he get married to his granny or a young lady?

You no longer shower together because you think that he will take an advantage of you in the shower.

But let me ask, during courtship didn’t he still take advantage of you?? Now you are marriage to the

same man you don’t think that there is a need to continue giving him the advantage.

while she is busy in the kitchen, you are either busy watching match or pressing your phone in

the living room, you no longer enter the kitchen to keep her company, you no longer play

around the house like kids anymore because of maturity

Note: there is no maturity in marriage.

As long as you want to maintain the intimacy you once

established through these tools, you have to pour even more fuel to it.

One thing about marriages is that during this period, is the time

you two have in straightening your marriage in terms of intimacy.

Stopping will only bring damages to your home making your home unhealthy.

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PRAYER

PATIENCE

UNDERSTANDING

COMMUNICATION

CHECKING ON EACH OTHER maybe through text, videos/voice calls.

AVOIDING BAD COMPANY

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6 life partner qualities everyone should have

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

6 most essential Life partner qualities you need

Your choice of life partner qualities matters a lot..

It is obvious that women were born with four sight and that’s a

good start but apart from this four sight, what have you done to

improve yourself? What is it you want in life and what are your

plans towards that?

What we do and how we do it determines were we are and where we are going.

A friend once posted her boyfriend photo almost everywhere on

social media but few weeks later, she

took down those photos and updated a status saying;

“To hell with those who think I cannot do without them”

When I inbox her to know what brought about such status, she

told me that she had a fight with her

boyfriend which result in breaking up. That is not the kind of man

that she wants in her life.

I now asked her what is your kind of life partner qualities you are looking?

She said; Do you want to marry or date a Filipino? then start here

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After she told me all this, I now discover that if we expect this

from men, it means they even expect more than this from us.

You know why?

It is because we were the ones born with four sight.

Which means we have responsibilities too, apart from raising children.

A man need a woman who respects him. No man will like to

marry a woman who doesn’t know what it means to respect someone.

And mind you, you can never respect a man if you don’t respect your parent.

The character of a child can be trace to his/her root.

A child who is the same age with her parents will also carry that

life style outside no matter how long she pretends, she will one day unveil.

Even a man needs a woman who will love him not because of what he is capable of during

for her at the particular moment but a woman who will love him unconditional without

second thought which is doubt.

Love has the power to twist someone’s mind even without him knowing.

Which means that even a womanizer has a soft spot which just needs that right lady to get to it.

Even men deserve gifts from their ladies. The same way we expect from them. that’s why having a life partner qualities is important.

Example: you asked him for some cash to go shopping and he gave it to you without

complaints you now went to the mail, you end up spending to the last dime of the cash he gave you. You return home smiling because you got the latest stuff in town, you start show cases it to him and he sits looking at you.

Telling you am glad you are happy and you smile and say thank God I have you. I love you.

And you think that’s it?

Do you think of what he could have said if only you got maybe a tie, key holder, a shirt,

stockings etc from the same money he gave you as a gift to him while you were busy shopping for yourself? It looks simple but it has its own rewards.

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Men like women who make use of their four sight. You told him about your dreams, what and where you want to be in the next three years. But have you ever care to know about his own dreams if he has any at all or not?

What is his stand and his plans towards this dream of his?

Have you tried being a source of encouragement to him or do you look down on his own dreams while your own is the only important one.

If you have not, then that is self-centered. Men don’t like self-centered women

Learn to show him that you care a lot about where he is going.

A man who loves his family will never accept a woman who doesn’t respect especially his Mother because if you don’t respect and love even your own family, you can never be a good mother no matter how hard you try.

A woman who can save: is it not a bad thing to spend but it is good when you know that there is time for everything.

you can’t expect your man to have a saving when you are busy spending.

He has friends which he can likewise sit out with for drinks but instead, he is busy trying to put things together while you, in the other hand you are not helping, my dear, he will soon get tired of you. You know why? It is because you are feeding him with the impression that if he gets poor, you will break up with him.

Most ladies love to put down on their diary the quality of men they want and most times they stay like forever without getting such men they wanted.

Is it because such men don’t exist? No, it is because they don’t have the qualities they are looking for in a man. You can’t give what you don’t have.

Let the you, speak for you, work on yourself and not your diary, let the life partner qualities you are looking for be first of all be seen in you.

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8 reasons: romantic words are important

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

ways romantic words can influence your home

Being romantic plus using romantic words has been one of the

relationship issues that is being very contentious from both

religious fanatics and people of the secular world.

Romance however has being embraced by the secular world more

than the people of church circle.

Most Christians are of the opinion that being romantic is

synonymous to being worldly which means that being romantic

or using romantic words is not biblical. Can that be true?

Romance is one of the basic ingredients that spurs or lubricates a

love relationship well and is expected of every partner in such

relationship.

As a principle it is necessary to learn and adapt to romantic

lifestyles for emotional stability in love relationships.

People in Other forms of relationship need not get romantic to

keep it stable.

The truth is, romance is a spice that has kept a lot of marriages

from breaking. Any marriage that is not romantic is at the verge

of breaking or better still is 80% fail and divorce is eminent

unless an immediate action is taken on time on the positive

direction.

Once your partner starts behaving as your roommate just know

that something is wrong, that something that was there has

disappeared. Try finding out what that is and you both get it fix

immediately.

Even if it demands going out for a romantic dinner at new

locations.

THINGS THAT DESTROY A MARRIAGE

Many homes and marriages today are destroyed not because the

partners were not made for each other or that their background is

the worst?

But many are destroyed and ruined today because of the negative

changes that evolved in the process of adjusting to the effect of

their new chapter in life called marriage.

These are as followed:

Sudden Changes in Lifestyle
Dressing and appearance
Circle of friends
Avoiding responsibilities
Lack of mutual Respect
Self Comparison with others
Lack of frequent communication

Sudden Changes in Lifestyle: When the changes in your

lifestyle such as the way you live, talk, your sense of courtesy

and reasoning is nothing to write home about, you freak him/her

out any time you open your mouth to speak.

When you’re no more careful of your choice of words towards

your spouse, which are mostly provocative. You react and

capitalize on every single mistake that occurs in the house, from

your spouse, kids, or maids etc. And most time s/he may choose

to keep mute or dress up and step out for a walk.

Please note by this action you are indirectly driving your partner

out of your home, and your life.

Dressing and Appearance: You are married, so what else is it

you want more than a responsible life which is mostly reflective in

your choice of dressing? No you already have a man/woman so

don’t let your external dress code be provocative, inviting and

explosive rather dress smart and sharp, while paying attention to

the styles that matches your body physique and colors that

matches your complexion.

For the ladies, its not once you are married, you join the Married

Women Dressing Committee (MWDC) to start dressing to cover

from your head to your feet, while he is still young and fresh.

Do you want to hear the truth?

“He is seeing you as an elderly woman, not a young lady he

married and that’s the truth.” dress in a way that he will start

composing his own romantic words mend looking at you, without

looking through a love text message app to compose

You are losing value and you need to work on it fast before he

starts looking outside.

your dressing has a lot to do with the romance in your married. so learn to dress to romance your husband.

advantage is that, it will help him to look back home because his wife can dress.

Circle of Friends: it is not good to be a married woman/man and

still keep people who knows nothing about building a home as

your friends and expect to have a happy home. That’s an irony

What advise can they offer when you are troubled in your

relationship with your spouse?

They will not tell you to go back to your spouse and sort things

out rather they will be more comfortable having you sit out with

them even if its 11pm.

So I ask” is that the kind of friends married people or soon to be

couple should keep?

Please keep friends that are responsibly married to their spouse.

Avoiding Responsibilities: You cooked for him anytime you

visited him/ you bought gifts and card, phone alerts every now

and then during your courtship but after wedding, you got a

house help, you became madam/Sir,

you no longer cook his meal, wash his clothes/ no more special

gifts and alerts for your spouse. The bed room you and your

spouse sleeps on is done by the house help.

Everything done in the house is done by the house maid including

taking care of your spouse stomach etc.

should I advise you?

One day, the house help will also take care of your spouse’s

needs in the bed.

So make yourself available for your spouse’s need at home. Don’t

work around with the title Married man/woman without doing

your duty as a married person at home.

Women like anything alerts be it credit or airtime alerts, so

continue doing what you started and even do more

Lack of Respect: One thing you need to know is that women

needs all the attention that they can get and men need all the

respect they can get in their relationships

When you and your spouse starts acting the opposite. If he says

yes, you say No, you don’t do anything s/he says nor listen to

him/her for once, you are simply washing off the savour in your

marriage relationship.

Please there is a great need for mutual respect, if your

relationship must work.

Like commonly said “action speaks louder than words” ladies

should allow their husbands to be the head of the home and their

opinion respected despite their financial status. Respect should be

seen the more in your actions towards each other.

Comparison: If you want a happy and romantic home, never

compare your spouse nor your home with your neighbor’s or your

friend’s spouse/home openly nor secretly.

N/B another person’s home will always remain another person’s

home and your home is your home. Try and set your home well

both with prayers and make it work.

Men hates comparison while some ladies may tolerate it some

may not as their male counterparts.

Are we communicating?

Lack of Communication: Do you know that once you and your

spouse stops expressing your thought/feelings to one another

maybe through romantic words, play etc

that’s how your home starts getting scattered?

When you two knows nothing about each other, that’s how you

become a stranger to each other in your home.

Communication and prayer Is the key every home should not

misplace no matter the situation.

To have a good relationship with your spouse, you need

communication in order to get to know and understand each

other properly.

No home nor relationship survives without communication,

especially long distance relationship.

There must always be a means of communication that connects

you two together.

Work on yourself, don’t bring in a third party into every small

issue that occur in your home.

N/B There is no home that doesn’t have nor face challenges.

How you handle it is what really matters.

THINGS EVERY MARRIAGE NEEDS apart from romantic words are:

PRAYER

COMMUNICATION

FRIENDSHIP

ROMANCE

LOVE EXPRESSION

FUN

RESPECT

ORDERLINESS

DISCIPLINE

HOME PRIVACY

ABSENCE OF THIRD PARTY

ABSENCE OF UNFRIENDLY FRIENDS

ABSENCE OF COMPARISON

GOOD DRESSING SENSE

COORDINATION

ABSENCE OF TOO MUCH FRIENDS

UNDERSTANDING

TRUST

NO RESTRICTION OF SECRETS FROM EACH OTHER

BACKUP BOTH IN PUBLIC OR YOUR SPOUSE

THINGS TO AVOID

LIES

ABUSES

CLUBING EXCEPT WITH YOUR SPOUSE

IRRITATING LIFE STYLE

REDUCE YOUR DRINKING HABIT

TRYING TO ALWAYS HAVE THE FINAL SAY

BEING BOSSY

HARSH

DISCRIMINATION BE IT PUBLICLY OR PRIVATELY

LAZINESS

IRRESPONSIBLE

BAD COACHING

so learn to use romantic words with your spouse and spice up the romance in your home.

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13Happy Tips for a successful relationship You Must Know

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

successful TIPS FOR A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP

1. What Does Relationship Mean:

What Does Relationship really mean: People have different meanings and different understandings of relationships based on their views. However, a relationship generally, is a process where two people come together to connect and communicate with each other, to share their rights, and responsibilities.

An intimate relationship includes love, intimacy, commitment, companionship, Understanding, closeness, etc.

2. Tips for a successful relationship

The following tips below may be able to help you improve your relationship. (Tips for a successful relationship)

• Communication: In a relationship, a connection is a gate but communication is the key to that gate. You need the key (communication) to have access to the gate (connection).
waiting for your partner to try to guess what is going on with you is like waiting for rainfall in a dry season.

• Meekness: Many people are just so temperamental to the extent of putting their relationship at risk. If you have anything to say, do it with coordination, think before you act not act before you think.

• Attention– Giving each other attention, a listening ear is one of the ways to bridge the gap not busy defending ourselves, trying to make our point valid at all times instead of creating room for other opinions to count.
Create an awareness that shows that you gave him/her your attention before you make your point. Using a minute to think before you respond may be of good help.

• Speak positively: the manner and approach in which you speak about your partner and your relationship has the power to sustain and the power to scatter your relationship. So speak wisely if you value your relationship.

• Learn to say I’m sorry: most people in their nature find it very difficult to use the word I’m sorry not because they are cocky but because they don’t know the value of the word.
If your attempt to set something right turns out the opposite of what you expected, try fixing it immediately don’t wait until it’s out of your control.

• Togetherness: make your relationship a priority and make time for each other. Togetherness helps in generating a stronger bond between you and your partner and it helps to straighten the mind and also set it in the right direction.

• Appreciation: It is said “you don’t know what you have until you lose it” so appreciate your partner at all times, his/her effort should not be ignored nor go to waste. Show that you are proud to have them in your life.

• Make plans: Nothing wipes a woman off her feet like involving her in your plans be it plans for the future or a day plan. It shows her where she belongs in your heart even without her confronting you to know her place in your life.

Set goals for your relationship and plan for your future together. This shows that you are taking your spouse and your relationship seriously.

• Be supportive: criticism is the gateway to failure. Being supportive doesn’t not only shows you care, it also shows that you wish them well.

• Prayers: Prayer is the key to everything, you can’t do it on your own so you need God to step in for you.

• Arguments: accept that arguments will come, but the way you handle it when it occurs matters. Contempt is the strongest predictor of divorce, which is an action whereby your partner feels ‘put down by you, whether it is by the tone of your voice or whatsoever.

In arguments, whatever we say can bring a home together and harm the relationship which most times results in divorce.

• Learn to compromise: compromising in a relationship shouldn’t come as a surprise to you at any time especially if it has to do with your family and is with a positive vibe.

In a relationship two imperfect people adjusting to fit into each other’s life then compromises are needed to make it work.

—– tips for a successful relationship
• Be sexually Active: being sexually active to your partner is a sign that you want them too, be passionate, affectionate in your way of doing things (a random warm hugging and a short passionate kiss is something)
It’s true that individually, we all have different sex drives and to sustain a happy sex life and a healthy home, it requires negotiation and agreement.

A physical disconnection between two partners is a red light that indicates danger in the relationship.

How to keep your relationship strong and healthy:

Having a successful relationship is one thing and maintaining it is another thing, and for you to maintain it, you got to put in all that you got.

You can maintain it by trying to be aware of whatever is happening around your partner in and out and also within your relationship.

Never assume to know everything because as we grow every day, we realize things that we never knew, then amendment takes place. Likewise, people changing.

Stay curious, it is really important to stay up to date about your partner and your relationship. Friendship is the basic key for staying up to date.
So create good friendships in your relationship as possible as you can.

Signs Of A Dying Relationship:

Every relationship has the power to survive and the power not to, is left for the couple to play their part well.
Lack of communication, lack of trust, lack of togetherness, lack of intimacy, lack of respect and submission, Always at the neck of each other 24/7 (No agreement) Lack of appreciation, Doubt, etc.

How to solve your relationship problems:

Before you can solve any problem in life, you will have to, first of all, identify what the problem is.
After identifying the problem, if you don’t know the way forward especially if is that complicated that you can’t sort it out with your partner because of one thing or the other, seeking help from a counselor can be a good step to problem-solving.

Putting your knees down in prayers can be your starting point. Remember, communication is the key tips for a successful relationship.

Therefore, if you are ready for a serious relationship, then what tips for a successful relationship are you using? If none then you have to follow these tips for a successful relationship.

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13 Outstanding sure Ways You Can Attract Men To Yourself

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

What attract men to women

To attract men: One thing is sure as a woman, do you want to know that one thing? I guess you do. One thing that is sure is that God created us, women, with four sights which simply means that we have what it takes to get what we want and what it takes to also lose what we have. It is because the power is within us.

Most men are moved by what they see first before coming for what they want.

Quote me right, what I mean here is that, if a man sees beautiful ladies walking by, he will, first of all, check all of them out from afar admiring them when done and he is sure he has to picture them all out, he now makes a move to the one he wants..

So with your four sights, you got to make sure that your mend appearance speaks almost all about you. Do you have to walk naked for him to see? Of course, NOT, exposing everything under your clothes just to attract men, will only land you with flirt who are just there for a nightstand. And I don’t think you are looking for that.

Therefore below here are few things you can do as a woman to attract men even unknowingly to you.

1. YOUR MODE OF DRESSING:

Responsible men go for responsible ladies. Your dressing has a lot of role to play in this your task to attract men that’s why it is our point number one.

“Your dressing determine how you are address” dressing seductive will attract lustful men to you who are looking for a girlfriend matter but if you are looking for a man not a boy, then dressing decent and moderate is your key.

2. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: appreciate the woman you have become, loving yourself and noticing how awesome you are, will be a big plus to standing your ground in all you do.

Don’t let any man or woman makes you feel less than yourself, so when you wake up in the morning, look yourself in the mirror, if you don’t have a mirror, use your phone and take a selfie and see how awesome and beautiful you have become.

Avoid self doubt because it will only generate pity party to you not friends who will help you get what you want.

3. GET SKILLS: striking to be successful with or without a man shows that you are independent and many successful and skillful men Likes such ladies.

So for you to attract men, get yourself out from your heavenly bed room and get yourself busy, get a job so that you will not be a burden to your man.

4. SMILE: yea we do have our bad and good times but let your good times be seen often than your bad time especially in the public.

Learn to smile and ensure that your smile has the power it suppose to have as a lady to melt a man’s heart to smile back at you without resisting.

5. SIT OUT AT TIMES:

If you have friends, sit out with friends sometimes if you don’t, then take yourself out, enjoy yourself, make yourself happy because when you are happy not so depressed, men will have the courage to walk up to your table to join you without being scared.

Taking yourself out to be happy helps you look younger than your age.

6. MANNER OF APPROACH: I know we women can be so emotional at times and with that, we easily react to things before we even start thinking. So showing a man a bad reaction when he approaches you especially on the first day will only send a signal to him that you are not the one.

7. ABILITY TO INITIATE GIST: being current on news, sports, politic etc will help keeping them interested in making friends with you because you will not be a person to sit out with.

8. GET INVOLVED IN MEN’S GAMES OR AFFAIRS: One of the games men like so much apart from soccer game is video games, it is one thing not to be able to play but staying with them and be laughing and cheering the party that wins up is another way of showing them your charms. But don’t be lousy.

9. SMARTNESS: Being beautiful without an insight on anything either career wise, Academy, Inspirational, motivating, skills etc is a big minus when it comes to attracting a man.

So let him see one thing in you that makes you outstanding from other ladies, show him the best side of you and a little of your bad side so that he won’t take you for granted.

10. CONTENTMENT: Being contented with what you have and working hard to be better than who you were yesterday instead of comparing yourself with someone else will only send out one signal ” She Is Special and unique” .

11. SOCIAL LIFE: Work as hard as you can to be better but still, get a life. Even after making it in life, your profit will not give you a complete happiness but the kind of friendship world that you created while claiming up will keep you going.

Men Like ladies that are friendly and social and you are friendly, you are easy to talk or chat with.

12. SPIRITUAL LIFE: Set your life in the right path with Christ, be Godly and committed in the things of the Lord, be active, worship God in truth and in spirit, not to get a man but to prove to God that you believe in what He can do.

So your way of handling things in the house of worship will determine how many brothers or visitors are looking or admiring you without your notice. So be active in your place of duty, be skillful.

13. HAVE SOME HOBBY: Don’t be boring, get something that you can be interested or gist someone about, it will show that you are interesting to chat with.

If there is a man you admire so much or your man, you need to learn some stuff.

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10 IMPORTANT HIGH SCHOOL RELATIONSHIPS ADVICE

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

A relationship is something that most people including kids do not sit down to think about again before stepping out to go into one. and with this, they do end up in the wrong relationship and that’s why this high school relationship’s advice is very important.

As a high school student, we don’t say you should not try a relationship out but only do that or decide when you finish reading this article.

A relationship: is a process whereby two individuals are intimately and emotionally attracted to each other. although at times this can occur due to one thing or the other, for example

1 Physical appearance: yeah, physical appearance, more than 80% of the youth chose who they want to be in a relationship with due to what they see, it may be:

i. Ways of combining clothes to wear.

ii. The body shape

iii. The complexion

2 The ways he or she talks, they are people who are moved by the way we talk and laugh.

3 Manner of approach: It is only a responsible man or lady that goes for this one, but the truth is that this is the most important point to look out for when choosing a partner.

4 Academy Intelligent: If you are intelligent, it is likely for many people especially your colleague to try being your friends. etc

Don’t rush into a relationship just because all your friends are in a relationship then you now feel like a loser, from there you also try having one too.

Below is some high school relationships advice I need to share with you:

1 Don’t be desperate: Desperation is something you should never introduce into your relationship no matter how much you love and value the person.

In a relationship, desperation is one of the keys that develops a turn-off from your partner.

2 Be yourself: when you are not desperate nor show your friend that you are desperate, it will help you to be yourself. Being yourself in a relationship helps you to still have yourself respect even if the relationship did not work out as planned.

It is better to leave a relationship and still have your respect at school, between your friends, his or her friends, and also at home.

So be yourself by working on who you are, what you want to be, etc. work also on yourself in the way of understanding things, your reaction to things i.e your temper, your jealousy checked, etc.

3 Don’t be too emotionally attached: although it is not that easy not to be emotional with someone you are in a high school relationship with but don’t let the emotions control you.

emotion is something that if you don’t get checked on time, it will be the one to be deciding for you and it will end up affecting your schoolwork.

so if you are not sure that you are strong enough to control how you feel towards a guy or girl in school, then don’t try a high school relationship.

4 Go for friendship: when you are in a relationship with someone, don’t be too fast to get intimate, in the process of being together during high school, try building a friendship.

Yeah, friendship because that’s what will help you to decide if he or she is okay or if a breakup is better. when creating a friendship, you will get to know the compatibility between you both.

5 Go for someone you have something in common with, if you are intelligent and you then decided to date someone that is intelligent too or that is very serious in trying to be better as you, then such person is okay for you.

Don’t go into any high school relationship with someone whose interest is not in school.

6 Expectations: when you give your all into a relationship, don’t expect the same from the person. Loves happen naturally, most times it happens in a way we never expected.

so expecting the same thing you offer to your partner, you will only get hurt.

before going into a high school relationship with someone, just know that every relationship does not end in marriage.

A relationship is just a relationship, it doesn’t guarantee together forever. It is better to concentrate on your education and leave high school relationships until you are of age to understand what a relationship is all about.

7 Don’t be arrogant: dating the most popular guy in high school shouldn’t be the reason why people start disliking you at school or in your environment.

If you do, when you finally break up with this guy, you may not be able to re-stand the humiliation from colleagues at school.

so carry everyone along as before, especially your friends, don’t make them feel less of themselves just because you act as if you just won the lotto at high school.

8 Avoid clubbing: avoiding clubbing will help you to stay safe from a lot of things including abortion due to unwanted pregnancy, death due to security issues, etc.

All these things break shame to your family’s reputation and this is something that you may not be able to forgive yourself forever.

9 Stay safe: It is a relationship so, continue living your life because even while dating, life goes on. there are so many ways to stay safe and one of them which is very important is “SOCIAL MEDIA” You are in a high school relationship, it should remain in high school, keep your relationship at the level of a high school kid.

Showcasing your relationship on social media is not a nice idea, so to stay safe, avoid displaying it on social media.

10 Be honest: if you start learning how to be honest with someone you are in a high school relationship with, it will help you in the future, to be honest with your spouse when you finally understand love.

DO HIGH SCHOOL RELATIONSHIPS LAST

High school relationships do not last because as the name implies, it is high school which means that the people involved are still kids to understand what they want at that certain age.

So when they finally grow up and now understand what love is all about, they will move on and never look back on their high school sweetheart anymore.

To answer your question, high school relationships do not last just as it doesn’t stand the test of time.

WHAT PERCENT OF HIGH SCHOOL RELATIONSHIPS LAST

More than 90% of high school relationships do not last either there even last more than a year or two.

Although is normal. Not every relationship should or will land in marriage.

High school relationships are just for fun while in high school, so it’s nothing serious.

Now if you are planning on starting a high school relationship with someone you have been crushing on, just make sure that it is with a person that will bring out a positive result in you.

Not someone that will create a negative impact on you.

I guess it was helpful. please leave a comment or a reaction thank you.

“He was seeing 2 of us”: Lady finds out boyfriend has been dating another girl for 4-years.

October 13, 2023October 13, 2023 by Joy Ekpouko

“He was seeing 2 of us”: Lady finds out boyfriend has been dating another girl for 4-years.

A lady took to twitter to share her story about how she noticed that her boyfriend id dating another girl.

According to her, she made known to netizens that she thought the stories about men are all false untill she turns victim.

in series of tweets, she gave details about how their relationship started and when she found out that her man is in another serious relationship.

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I always thought these stories about men being found in two serious relationships was a joke until it happened to me. 4 years ago I met a guy, dated him, we started of as something casual then down the line nigga told me he caught feelings. Okay cool, we continue dating….

— Rivo Iris Hlangwani❤ (@rivo_iris) October 11, 2022

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“She wanted to build with me”: Man shares transformation photo of lady who married him in 2014.

September 21, 2023September 4, 2023 by Joy Ekpouko

A couple who worked hard together to achieve wealth and success has shared their transformation photos online.

According to the post shared by the husband, she thanked her wife for standing by her even when he has nothing.

He went further to say that the lady agreed to marry him when he has nothing at all.

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Looking at the video, the couple is living happily.

Reacting to this video, many have seen how things worked well for them, but don’t still fancy the idea of marrying a broke person.

while some made known that what matters in a relationship is true love.

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