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12 Small ways on how to be a better husband now

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

how to be a better husband

Wedding is sweet and beautiful, especially on your imported suit, and a beautiful lady that you have been eyeing for a long time finally stands beside you in a white gown on the alter smiling at you and you do the same. But have you ever check on or pray about how to be a better husband when you marry.

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It will be an error if after the wedding night, in a few weeks, months, a year, etc you two start fighting over some unnecessary things that as a couple, it suppose not to be an issue.

So before getting married, one of your prayer points should be Lord show me how to be a better husband and father that every child or woman will be proud to have in their lives, not the one that will always remind them that it is better to be single or fatherless than having you in their lives.
Make your woman proud of having you not as a perfect husband but as the best husband she could ever ask for.

—Best husband qualities—-

For you to be a better husband, there are some qualities you must possess in other to make this marriage work and some of these best husband qualities are stated below;

1 Be a friend, a big brother, a son: You can’t stay long with someone if you don’t establish a good friendship with them. Yeah, you might be saying what does friendship has to do with marriage? But I will tell you this, friendship has everything to do with your marriage.

Friendship helps you in creating a good atmosphere for communication.
It also helps in building trust. Without trust, no marriage can work.
It will help you be accommodative.
It also generates peace in the home. Etc.

So be a friendly big brother and a son to her that she can lean on or open up to when she feels like talking to someone about something that is bothering her within.

so the first step on how to be a better husband is be her best friend

2 Believe in yourself: if you don’t believe in yourself, no matter what your wife tries doing will look like a waste of time to you.

So first discover who you are, what God has in store for you, and work hard for it.

The best thing that can happen to you is when you are using yourself as a good example when your kids come to you for advice. It makes them proud of you and also a motivation to them.
“If my father can make it, it means I can make it even better.”

You can only strike to be better in life or in anything you do, only if you believe in yourself.

3 Drop the mentality of I am the man: Well, yeah you are the man and no one is struggling with you over that, but there is some level you will reach in life or in your home that you will say let me do it, or let me help.

You may not know how to cook, but you know how to boil water, you may not know how to do that but you know how to chat with someone, etc.

Drop man mentality in the sitting room, go to the kitchen while your wife is trying to fix a meal, keep her company, by chatting with her, looking for her trouble, claiming to do it better than her, offer an assisted hands even if you don’t know how to do that thing.

Why all these?? It will help trigger the feelings.
ii. Most ladies use the kitchen as their quiet place to think both about positive and negative things, but you as the husband being there with her, can help not just her but you in bringing your wife’s thought back to you.
Instead of thinking about something else, she will start thinking about you, and how lucky she is to have you.Be supportive: being supportive does not only have to be about money but believing in her, her dreams, her plans will be a big thing for her.

4 Be an Inspiration: most times discouragement comes and then end up generating depression in us, as a man, understanding your woman’s mode will help you to know when she needs someone to talk to, a shoulder to lean on, and a word of wisdom from you.

5 Distance your friends from your marriage: once you are married, that’s another level in your life, that you won’t want anything to bring you down. There will always be people with a different understanding of what marriage is and what it takes to have a peaceful home.
Keeping your friends out of your marriage will help you to run your home with your wife and not your friends running your home for you.

6 Be passionate: The way you behave and treat your wife determine how your home will be.

being passionate when dealing with your family will be a great way of showing them that you love and care about them.

7 Be Dependable: Allowing your wife to go outside to depend on someone is one mistake you wouldn’t want to do.
Being accountable to your wife in whatever thing that you do will determine if she can depend on you or not.

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8 Availability: A real man is always there for his wife and children no matter the situation at hand.

which means there are always there to play their role as a father no matter what.

9 Not a quieter: when you are not quieter, you will be an independent man, which many women like.

10 Compromise: Before you even think of getting married, you got to know that you are no longer going to be a man alone.

which means whatever you do or act, you have to think about others which include your wife and children.

11 Don’t judge her: Yeah, don’t judge her. she is not perfect neither is she trying to be, instead, she is trying to be the best for you and the children.

In the process of doing that, if she makes a mistake, don’t judge her, cause you will only make her feel less than herself. and I don’t think you want to do that.

12 Communication: Communication is one of the important qualities of a good husband every man should have.
Learn how to communicate with someone without having to fight with the person.
Learn how to talk and sort things out together as a couple.

—–How to be a better husband and father–

Being a better husband: It is very important to try being a better husband because there is no how you can be a better father if you don’t first try being a better father.
For you to be a better husband and father, you must ensure that you possess those best husband qualities in you. And if you discover that you don’t have them, then I will advise you work on yourself first to acquire those qualities before thinking of getting married anytime soon.

So now that you know how to be a better husband.

4 Reasons why a breakup doesn’t equal failure

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Why a breakup doesn’t equal failure

A relationship is a great thing and a great way to relate with someone you love or crush on but it is also important to understand that a breakup doesn’t equal failure if it doesn’t work out a plan.

A relationship is not a do-or-die affair, it is a matter of the heart, which means that we have every right to choose what and the kind of person we want to be with.

So if you try a relationship out with someone that you thought was perfect for you, then at the end or in the process, you now discover that he or she is not the right one for you that there is a lot of difference between you two or that he or she is so perfect for you, don’t sit down and endure it because you thought that if you leave you will be seen as a failure. Because a breakup doesn’t equal failure.

If you want to know, you break up with someone who doesn’t deserve you or who is way too different from you, means you are courageous because it takes only courage and self-worth to break loose from it without thinking of what people will say.

Many people see people who break up in their relationship as failures, not capable of loving someone, etc but that’s not true, a break doesn’t equal failure, it equals liberation.

Yeah, liberation because nothing feels so relieved like breaking loose from every bondage in the name of a relationship.

-‘‘-How do you know when a relationship turns to a bondage‘—-

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i. When you have no freedom of speech.

ii. When you are in a relationship yet you still feel single.

iii. When you are in a relationship just to keep your parents off your back

iv. When you are scared just because your spouse returns home from work.

v. When you are physically, emotionally, mentally abused.

vi. When you are less than yourself.

vii. When you have no more self-confidence in anything you do in your spouse’s presence. And so other more.

—- when to break up with someone you love—

1. Love is reciprocal which means that when you love someone, you should be loved in return, it may not be in the same measure it’s either more than or less than what you offer. But when you don’t even get any of that, then it’s time to let go.

Note: Whatever you manage or endure, you will continue to endure to the end. Yeah because any day you want to change the pattern, you will have issues.

Do you know why??? I will tell you, it is because you have made him or her get so used to it from the very start. Beware of what you introduce into your relationship.

2. When you are physically, mentally, emotionally abuse regularly.

3. When you are tired of begging for attention.

4. When he or she is reluctant about the relationship.

5. When space is the right thing to regain your balance.

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6. When all that you try doing for the relationship looks like a waste of time.

7. When you are not appreciated.

8. When his or her family becomes the ones that run the affairs of the relationship

9. When he is not ready to take responsibility.

10. When you are turned into a maid.

11. When he or she publicly ridicules you.

—–Break up reasons—-

There are so many reasons for a break up according to every one of us. Before we act, we think, while some act before they think, but what matters is that there is a breakup and there is a reason attached and we called it ” break up reasons”.

Some of the beak up reasons are;

1. When we realized that the person we are with is not compatible.

2. Most times is caused by confusion.

3. Misunderstanding

4. Pressure from people etc

5. The spark is gone

6. He or she cheats on you

7. He or she is not your type

8. You don’t like her of him anymore

9. Some people break up because they need a space to think.

—break up texts——

Although it is not proper or mature enough to send a breakup text to someone over a phone.

If you think that you can’t deal with the person anymore, the best thing to do is to sit face to face with the person and table out things.

Some text messages have the power to take someone off balance unknown to you.

But some moderate break up texts you can use are;

1. I need a space or a break to think.

2. We are better off as friends.

3. I’m in love with someone else.

4. I can’t do this anymore I’m sorry

5. Let’s just be friends

6. Let’s call it quits.

7. I can’t fake to still love you while the love is no more there, I’m sorry

8. It’s over, please.

9. I’m sorry. But I can’t waste my time anymore.

—After the break up what next—-

Well, this is where individual differences come into play. There are people that you can’t even ask after a break up with next, all because you have already gotten your answer by what you are seeing. Etc.

1. some people break up because they want to flirt with someone else and when the breakup finally takes place, they move on immediately with a new relationship.

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2. Life continues; you may not go into another relationship with someone else immediately but that doesn’t mean that you will stop living and makes life so bitter for yourself

After all, being said, now let’s look at

why break up doesn’t equal failure-

1. You were never in a competition with anyone.

2. You hold the key to your happiness, not people.

3. It’s your life

4. It’s not a game it is a matter of the heart.

5. It is not a do-or-die affair.

6. It’s a relationship, not marriage.

7. It is not a must that every relationship must result in marriage.

8. It was just a moment.

9. It is a mission to find the right partner for the future, not the other way round. This means that you can always turn right or left anytime until you reach the final destination.

10. Break up doesn’t equal failure because it is better to have a broken relationship than to have a broken marriage.

11. You know who you are and what you want, and it takes a lot to make that decision of breaking loose from the relationship especially if you truly loved the person. But in one way or the other, it didn’t work out as you planned and expected.

A relationship that was not meant to work out will not stand no matter how much enough you put into it.

Once you understand that having a relationship with someone does not mean complete ownership then whatever people think about you, will not be a problem anymore.

Do you think that break up equals failure? Let’s hear from you.

WHAT DOES VALENTINE’S DAY MEANS: 10 WAYS TO SPEND IT WITH SOMEONE YOU LOVE SO MUCH

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Ways to spend your Valentine’s day even without money

valentine’s day is a great day to express how much you love someone you are with. although you can still express your love on other days, valentine’s day makes it special.

When we say expressing how much you love someone does not mean that you must have sexual intercourse with someone on that faithful day or that you should empty your account balance just to express how much you love a person.

That is why in this article, I have gone ahead and compile how you can enjoy your valentine’s day with or without money.

Do you know what valentine’s day means? well, I never had an insight on this valentine’s day meaning that almost everyone is always crazy about really meant nor why people take it so personally. but then I decided to do some research, and this is what I realized;

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That valentine’s day is not only the day that two priests named Valentine were killed, it is also a day when couples celebrate their love in different and special ways.

Although valentine’s day is not only for couples to celebrate love, it is also a day where we celebrate everyone we love including our parents, children, and friends.

But before we go into how to spend your valentine’s day, note this; If you have money and you want to spend it, do it but that still doesn’t prove that you love the person or that the person involve loves you either.

To celebrate your valentine’s day, you have to, first of all, know some of these necessary things about your partner:

His or her favorite color.
Your partners favorite TV shows
Your partner’s favorite food or spot.
Your partner likes and dislikes.
Your partner kind of person.

Your partner may be someone that do not like outing, but that doesn’t mean that he or she wouldn’t want to celebrate valentine’s day with you. All you have to do is figure out what she likes doing at home and try and engage it on that day together To spice up your relationship.

It may be a movie, TV show, love novels, games, etc.

HOW TO CELEBRATE YOUR VALENTINE’S DAY WITHOUT MONEY
Before reading this, know that it depends on the kind of person you are together in a relationship

A nice and understanding lady that loves and cares about you so much will understand when you have money and when you don’t have it and when it is a must for you to save for a future purpose.

These are some valentine’s day gift ideas;

Sightseeing: a lot of people like exploring, while some likes nature, if you know which one your partner likes, it will save you the stress of thinking about how to please her on this faithful day.
Cinema: well to see a movie, you got to have a ticket but it doesn’t cost much, with $10 you can take her out to a movie.

If you are a giving type, she will understand that at this moment, that there is no money, and to avoid you giving her excuses, you now decided to take her out to see a movie.

She will be so attached to you on this day because of this simple act. if you doubt me, look at her face if you see a smile on her face knowing that you have made her day which makes it better than being in her room all by herself.

If you are a stingy type, sorry because she won’t buy the idea that you have no money at that moment. So be transparent in dealing with your relationship.

Be together: I’ve seen a lot of people posting on social media how they broke up with their partner just because they had no money to make their valentine’s day great. but that’s not it.
Spending time with someone that you love is what makes your valentine’s day great not by what you spend or what you can offer.

As a lady or man in a relationship, the greatest gift someone can give to you is his or her attention, not just to you but also to the future of the relationship although it is not every relationship that has to result in marriage, it is all relationship that opens your understanding to what commitment is all about.

So be together with your partner, your discussion should be love, don’t use the word “I” instead use the word “WE” while talking. It will show him or her how much you value and care for the relationship to continue.

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Take a lot of selfies together: Yeah selfie, nothing makes a girl smiling the next day after Val day than remembering all the good moment she had with her guy. and selfies happens to be one of the tools that come into play.

It doesn’t have to be a serious picture, it can be a funny face picture that when he or she looks at it, she will not only smile but she will also laugh at the way you acted like a baby.

Do a lot of stuff together: Do you know that cooking together in the kitchen, takes bath together, using the same color of clothes, etc on this faithful day speaks a lot about where your relationship is going? Or am I the only one that knew this? I guess not.

All these, bring out the color in your relationship, cooking together shows that you enjoy her company and it triggers her emotion making her desire you even more.

You may be asking, What if I can’t cook since I am a man? The truth is that you are not there to cook actually, you are they to keep her company and to help reduce the stress but making her laugh while cooking.

Stress can make you cook for 3 hours but with happiness, you can finish a work of 3 hours under 2 hours because you will not even feel it or a need to relax small before you continue.

Go to the beach: Ladies like the beach, it helps us relax. so take her to the beach, have fun, laugh, play, etc and finally, give her a massage if you can.
Text her: I know you do text her or don’t, but on this day, make it special, don’t use the regular valentine’s text message books to copy a message for her. Make it special by using your own words.

write what your heart tells you, allow your feelings and emotions to lead you in this process because you can’t do it along using your head, you need your emotions on this assignment.

We ladies do know when someone sends us a text from a book and when it is from the heart. so which means that no matter how long and sweet the one from the book is, it will not have the same effect on a person the same way those short texts from the heart will have.

Watch some valentine’s day movies together: Yeah there are a lot of movies out there that are acted base on valentine.

If you don’t know how to go about finding the valentine’s day movies, then move on to any love movies that you know it has what it takes to make the room colorful while watching with her.

Some valentine’s day movies that are already available since the ’90s are;

Always be my maybe
the big sick
Crazy Rich Asian
The romance
Bride and prejudice
True romance
Breathless
Before sunrise
La la land
Romeo and Juliet

Some other movies you can watch on valentine’s day is Hallmark movies. Almost all their storyline is always about love. how someone finds love, how love changed someone, how to find love, how to make your love work, how to express and celebrate love, etc, and a lot more.

All you have to do is find the one that works for you, and keep it.

Go to the studio: you can take some photos in the house if you don’t have enough cash to visit the studio for some valentine’s day pictures but If you do have, take her to the studio, get some shots and remember that valentine’s day only comes ones in a year.

So leave something that when she looks at it, she will smile and say to someone, “wow we were so cute here, can you believe these photos were taken on valentine’s day the year before last” how time flies.

If you think that you can do this point, then do valentine’s day pictures have to be perfect?

Valentine’s day pictures:

The truth is that it doesn’t have to be a perfect set of pictures, it can even be one of the craziest pictures you two have ever taken before or for a long time.

Below is an example of valentine’s day pictures.

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10 Sure signs that he loves you without saying it

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Signs that he loves you

There are a lot of men that do have issues when it comes to telling a woman they crush on that he loves you but even with that shyness and timidity, one thing they can not hide is the love signs that he loves you.

If you happen to chat and fall in love with many guys, it will help you to easily differentiate who is around you because they love you and who is around you just for friendship or because of what you can offer.

A man who is truly in love with you will not be able to avoid those signs that he loves you because he is expecting that one day you will realize how much he loves and care about you that one day you may also fall in love with him just as he is with you.

So if you have not been noticing that guy that is trying all he can in his power to make you happy just because he loves you, then you need to start by looking out.

And also when you are crushing on someone and you don’t know if he will accept you if you make a move can sometimes be so frustrating, but the worst thing is for you crushing on someone who is in love with you without you knowing just because you couldn’t read the signs

—-What are the signs that he loves you—-

1. He frequently checks upon you: For a man to be checking up on you on daily basis either physical checking up or on phone does not signify that he is jobless.

It takes only a man who loves you to be doing that, meaning that he is also trying to make you his priority even without you knowing it.

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2. Your opinion matters: In many African countries, women don’t have the right to speak when a man is talking and makes them remain superior only in the kitchen. But it takes a man who is in love with you to come to you for your opinion on things that’s to him.

Sometimes he doesn’t come to seek your idea because he had nothing, but at times it is because that’s the one or the only means of sitting or coming very close to you.

Note: Most guys do pretend to concentrate when they come around but not all, at least not 65% of them can. So look out for some signs that he loves you;

i. He looks at your lips, how you speak.

ii. He swallows saliva so hard that at times you can even hear the sound of It.

iii. He smiles at you.

iv. Sometimes he looks lost or freeze when he sees you.

v. He stares at you from your head down to your feet (he checks you out), etc

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3. He frequently compliments you: both on your looks and personality. Many men including the flirt compliment ladies but it is only a man who loves you and knows your worth that will compliment your personality.

Your personality speaks a lot about you, it’s your personality that determines how people will treat you.

4. He is always available when you need a shoulder to cry on: It takes someone who loves and cares for you so deeply to standby you when you are in distress.

When you get hurt by another guy, he is available to make you feel okay again, he just wants to see you happy.

5. He responds quickly to anything that has to do with you: He is not a servant or less than a man in the eyes of ladies, it is all because is you that he wants to please not other ladies.

So if he always makes himself available for you like your boy, don’t treat him as one because one day he might take the advice of his friends and let you be on your own. And that time may be too late for you to get him back.

6. He asks about your plans for the future: your dreams or vision is no man’s business except he loves you. It takes love for him to worry about his plans and also get concerned about yours as well.

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7. He enjoys a long chat with you: A long chat can only exist between two people if only they enjoy each other’s company. And is not easy for a guy to chat with a lady for a long time if he doesn’t feel something for him.

Likewise, ladies, if a lady doesn’t like you, chatting with you even for ten minutes is hard for her. She feels like you are disturbing her, that she will take her time before even reading nor responding to your message after reading it.

So if you are a man, Note this; It takes a woman who admires or has a crush on you to give you full attention or 70% of her attention to you over a chat.

How do you know that you have her attention over a chat? how to have her attention

i. She is quick in responding

ii. She reciprocal on anything you ask her. Example (how her day went)

iii. She sends a smiling emoji along when you say something funny to her. That emoji is to notify you how and what she is doing with her face at that particular moment you write to her.

iv. By telling you where she is living not just by telling you the state or Local Government she stays but instead she tells you the exact street at times, address.

signs that he loves you continues;

8. He smiles at you at every eye contact: another way of telling someone that you admire them is by a smile. If someone does not feel anything about you or have you in mind, no matter how you stare at them or they stare at you, they won’t smile instead they will just look away immediately the eye contact is notified.

So it takes a man who has you in his thought to keep looking and be smiling not mind if you have observed his actions.

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9. He gets jealous when seeing another man around you: It is not only ladies that can be jealous when it comes to love, men do too.

The only difference between a man’s jealousy and a woman own is that most men can act not to care, then pretend and overlook. But ladies don’t.

Our actions alone will you have a man that we are jealous of what just occur right there.

If you want to know a jealous man is this;

i. He is muddy during the conversation

ii. He may decide to excuse himself.

iii. He will be so attached to his phone just to be able to control his emotions as a man.

10. He fights beside you: when you are going through a hard time, when you feel like the world is about to swallow you when it looks like everyone has turned against you when you feel like your life has come to an end, he stood and held your hands saying “everything will be already” after saying that, he hangs around more often than the usual, he ensures that you don’t wear long or sad face.

He becomes your adviser, your big brother, your father, your mentor, your angel, your caretaker, etc. quality of a man

Please after all this, what else do you want him to do so that you will realize the signs that he loves you.

Men who do all this just for friendship, are few. The more you get attached to someone, the more you begin to like them.

So please help the innocent guy with his shyness of talking to a lady about his feelings by reciprocating the love, if you have a crush on him too.

You don’t have to go to him to tell him you love him too, but you can start by also showing signs that you care about him too, starting by asking him more about his plans, or anything concerning him.

learning from the signs that he loves you, you can also start doing things that will also shows him that you are having interest in him too.

Good luck.

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10 Shocking Signs He Doesn’t Want To Marry You

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Signs he doesn’t want to marry you

Men can be so secretive to some point that if you are not patient enough, you can lose a lot. But most times, the patient is not really what you want but signs he wants you in his future or signs he doesn’t want to marry you.

It will be an error to waste three years, five, six, eight years of your life with a man who doesn’t even show you any sign of marriage.

To harden the whole thing, he now decided to put his ring on your finger just so to avoid you nagging at him you now then become Lord of the rings, carrying the engagement ring from one place to the other, chasing away men who come to you for marriage But at the end of eight years, things changed, and he starts showing you the real signs he doesn’t want to marry you.

But to avoid that from happening, you need to start reading the handwriting on the wall as soon as can because as a lady, growing is staged by stages. Stage to marry, birth bearing, and a time to cross over to menopause.

Therefore some signs that he doesn’t want to marry you are as followed;

1. Hidden Secrets: It takes trust for one to tell you his or her secret. Although, trust can’t be given 100% but at least 50% to someone that you truly love.

Trust has the power to sustain your relationship be it a short or long-distance relationship. A relationship that has trust issues hardly has the chance to see the daybreak.

When your man keeps secrets from you, it means he doesn’t trust you either just yet or he just doesn’t trust you.

Note: A man, who is seeking something serious with you, will not hide anything from you, because he knows very well that if the secret is later revealed by itself that he might lose you.

To avoid that, he ensures that he let you into his life, which means you know the good and the bad side of him.

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2. Excuses: A man who wants to marry you will not be addicted to excuses knowing very well that it will hurt you, so try avoiding it.

Note: it doesn’t mean that if he gives you an excuse one day that it one of the signs he doesn’t want to marry you, but when the excuse is continuously and frequently that at times he repeats the same excuse twice without remembering that he once used that on you.

Don’t be with a flirt if you are a serious lady looking for a serious man because as flirts, it is in their nature to give excuses at all times.

And it takes a lot more to change someone who was once a flirt or who is a flirt. It is better to avoid such men who are full of excuses.

3. No Introduction: A man who is not sure of you, will not allow you to come to his house when his sister or any of his siblings is around.

As a lady for four years, five, six, eight years you are still in a secret relationship not wanting your parents or friends to know about it, you are still on the boyfriend, girlfriend level without upgrading and you are still okay with it saying “He loves me”.

My dear, are you for real??? No, rethink well, at four years; the relationship should be looking at the future not still at boyfriend and girlfriend level. It should be my fiancee and fiance.

I guess we are communicating. This is not desperation; it is your right as a woman to know your stand in his life. If he refuses to tell you, don’t force him it simply means that he is confused and not sure of you yet.

4. He clubs: it is very hard to find a guy who wants to marry you anytime soon in a clubhouse. If he doesn’t invite you along as his plus one, it means that something is up.

Many guys who club do because they haven’t made any commitment yet. Apart from all the music and fun you see in a club, it is also a place to relieve tension. So if your man cannot be with you at night but instead in the clubhouse, it is also, signs he doesn’t want to marry you maybe anytime soon.

5. Plans: it takes a man who sees his future with you to tell you his plans and also turn to seek your suggestion on certain issues to fix.

You don’t have to be married to a man first before you start knowing the plans he prepared for you and your children, the plans come before “Yes, I do”.

There are something’s that you hear after the wedding, that shock you into your narrow that if you knew about it before you married him, you couldn’t have accepted to marry him or you could have solved it then.

So plans are one of the first signs a man will show to you if only he wants to marry you now or anytime soon in the future.

So flee if he thinks that you as a woman that you are not qualified or that you have no right to know about what plans he has for both your future, your children’s future, and his future as well.

6. Your pictures: Most times pictures have a way of bringing people close to each other who have been apart from each other for a while. Example in a long distances relationship.

A man who loves you shouldn’t lack your picture on his phone, except he wants to keep it a secret or because you don’t have such a place in his heart for him to give such space on his mobile phone or laptop.

7. Mistresses: if a man mistakenly tells you that a lady is his mistress it is likely that he also told the other lady that you are his side chick too.

“Signs he doesn’t want to marry you clearly states that any man who doesn’t care or think about your feelings or emotion before speaking or acting js not qualify to be your man”.

Before a man drops all side chick and gets attached to just you, simply means that he wants to get serious. And serious with you??

Of course serious with you, so don’t blow it up by pushing him outside while he is trying to come inside.

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8. Arrogance: it takes a man who wants to marry you to drop his arrogance on the ground to say I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you”. Pride is something that only men who know what they want can let go of just to avoid losing you.

If your man is too proud and arrogant to say please, even when you threaten to walk out of the relationship then that’s signs he doesn’t want to marry you. Neither is he even ready for a commitment with you.

9. He doesn’t care: have you ever gone out with your guy before to an event by reaching there he keeps on admiring other ladies and taking selfies with them minding how you feel or introducing you to them as his plus one?

well, it can be so frustrating, a man who is not ready for commitment, will not care about whatever you feel about his social life or circle as long as he is happy and okay with it. what you think means nothing to him.

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10. Bachelor lifestyle: Being with someone is like saying it’s a process in life in which you start learning how to take care of responsibilities, which means that one man’s lifestyle should be far from you or your man.

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12 Outstanding Surprising Signs that your spouse is cheating

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Signs that your spouse is cheating:

Love can be so beautiful and sparkling that we turn blind-eye to the main things we suppose to be looking out for in our relationship as “signs that our spouse is cheating”

Most times, we choose to believe in the lies our partner tells us more than when the truth is being told, with this, we give them room to use their sweet tongue to Manipulate our mind with lies and flirt.

When. You are in a relationship, get to know your partner well so that when changes occur, you will be able to decode it in and on time without being deceived.

Though it is not all changes that means that your partner may be cheating but no matter the kind of change that occurs, you will know by so many things.

If you are finding it difficult to know, then let me walk through with some points.

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—-Signs that your spouse is cheating on you or is trying to cheat—-

1. Secretive: I use secretive as number one because no matter the way he or she wants to manipulate it, he will try to hide it in a way that you will never suspect or believe it even if someone tells you about it.

Therefore just watch as if you don’t smell a fish in the pot.

2. Excuses: A partner who used to give you his or her attention more often suddenly changed to an excused one in a twinkle of an eye, my dear something is not right if you ask me. Excuses break marriages and relationships and with this insight, he still chooses to flow with the excuses then is a simple sign that your partner is cheating.

3. Scared: A man or woman that maybe cheating will have no complete peace at home even without your confrontation, he or she will be running up and down, even while eating, he will be observing you from his sit just to check if you suspect anything.

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4. Secret Phone Calls: marriage includes being transparent to your partner but when your partner starts sneaking in and out just to answer his or her phone, running away from your present. Something is up.

What kind of phone call will make a man run out of the bathroom or toilet naked to carry his phone to avoid you checking the caller?

When I was at college, there was this guy I dated, we were serious anyway since we were at college, we wanted to get married after our degree. We were into the relationship that his siblings knew about us.

The only thing is that he finished college before me, so with that, there was a little distance, we couldn’t see each other every day as before but video calls were always our ways of communication.

Few months after he graduated, I went to spend the weekend with him, on reaching there, we decided to sit out with his friends. But during that siting out, there was something fishing going on.

All his friends couldn’t loom me straight in the eye, I tried to ignore it just to enjoy the money, a few minutes later an elderly lady walked into the bar, immediately his friends started seeing each other and they all looked toward the same direction.

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Before you know it, one of them stood up and walked up to the lady, then they both went out. A few minutes later he came in smiling.

I knew that something was not right but I didn’t know who to ask between even my friend couldn’t stand on his two feet again after the lady left.

When we got home that night, I went into the kitchen to microwave dinner so he went into the shower and left his phone on the center table has usual

A few minutes after he entered the bathroom, his phone began ringing, before I could stop out of the kitchen just to help him with the phone, guess what??

He was already there striping wet, then I now decode that the lady at the bar actually came for him but his friend stood up to cover his deed so that I won’t suspend. I didn’t ask him but my behavior that night changed.

The next day I went back to school, I hardly call him, nor text him as before, when he notices that, he now discovered that I knew about It but still he said nothing for about six months, but before he could even start explaining to me why he did it, it was already too late.

I gave him time but he was still not ready to come out.

When someone loves you so much and values you, he or she will not stop being transparent with you.

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5. Stay out late at night: What will keep a man or woman outside his home at night leaving his woman alone in the house?? I don’t think there is any job that is a must and compulsory to work until 11 pm or 12 a.m in the office except he or she is security personnel.

And even as security personnel, you work by shift, no security works from morning to night, without a break to go home to his family.

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6. Fight: fighting is another format for a breakup, a man or woman who wants to break up in her relationship, or divorce in their marriage normally starts it with a fight.

Yeah, a fight he or she starts by going against you or do things that will annoy you so that he can use that against you, making it look like you are the case.

7. Negativity: He was never like that from the very start but along the line he changed, he does believe in possibilities anymore, he doesn’t believe that you can do it.

All he does is “Honey I don’t think we can do it “Honey about Jake’s school, don’t you think is expensive? Why not take him to a public school? etc.

All this is not because you guys are broke but are because he is not ready to spend much on the family therefore he starts using this format to cut the links.

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8. Complaints: He goes fuses on everything and on anything you do, nothing you do in the house that interests nor please him anymore. And that’s because there is another woman or man in his life who is marking time to break your home just to come in.

9. No Intimacy: Most times intimacy stops because he or she has no interest in you anymore or the feelings for you are less than the percentage it was from the start.

Even when some tries faking it, you that is involved, if you check it well, you will notice that his or her heart is not really into you anymore no matter how he pretends there must always be something in his heart even while being with you.

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10. Attached to chats: As a single man or lady, social media can be your attachment but when you have a spouse, many of those will just stop without your noticing. Is a normal thing.

But when along the line, your spouse changes again to that single lifestyle, so attached to social media is one of the signs that your spouse is cheating. Just watch his reaction while chatting, then you can tell.

11. He avoids family discussion: communication is what generates understanding in a home and every good home manager knows about this, but when your spouse starts avoiding any discussion that has to do with the future of the family, then that’s it, you don’t need a fortune teller to tell you this one. But your mind needs therapy if you want to save your home.

That’s if only is not beyond repair.

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12. He or She is so into their appearance before stepping out of the house: As a spouse, all their interest when it comes to their appearance is to look good in front of their partners, just to have more of their attention.

But when that’s not the case anymore, it means there is someone else in the picture in which he or she is trying to impress out there without your notice.

Therefore if you don’t want to get broken when any of this results in a breakup, then take this article signs that your spouse is cheating seriously.

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14 Outstanding Signs You Are In A Toxic Marriage

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14 Outstanding Signs You Are In A Toxic Marriage

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Signs of a toxic marriage

Toxic marriage is something that nobody, especially a lady, should pray for in life. Toxic marriage occurring in life does not mean that marriage is a bad thing. marriage is a beautiful thing when you are with the right person.
Note this, you don’t find the right person at a religious gathering, social gathering, or any kind of gathering, you can only find the right person that is compatible with you when you finally realize who you are and what you want.

Another way of avoiding toxic marriage is by making God be the foundation of it from the very first start. Now why from the start?
From the start because God created everyone in His own image which means that everyone is perfectly made and after creating, He attached each and everyone to their life partner, so making God be the foundation of your marriage means that he will help you by bringing who he ordained for you to locate you in one way or the other.

Being with the right person or having a good and happy marriage does not mean that your marriage is perfect and also is an absence of errors, disagreement, misunderstanding, etc. But what matters is how you handle your own marriage when all these trials arise. And this is what differentiates your marriage from your neighbor’s or your friend’s marriage.

——–What are the causes of a toxic marriage;——-+

Comparison: women do easily fall victim to this. Never compare your marriage to anyone’s own be it your parents, neighbors, friends, colleagues, etc. It’s annoying to be compared to anyone just because you made a mistake or because there was a fight and things couldn’t work out as expected from your partner.

It is a sign of reduction and disrespect. If he is trying, tell him he is trying, and if there is a misunderstanding or there is something he or she did that pissed you off, walk up to her or him and table it maturely for peace to rain, not by comparing the innocent soul or judging for his or her mistakes.

2. Being rude to each other: rudeness can come in the form of your response to a question maybe just because you are angry, you now take it out on your partner harshly and he or she also responds to it harsh before you know it, things got out of control.

3. Inferiority Complex: Oh my friends are all married with kids, Oh my junior colleague’s husband just got her a new car, etc. With this kind of complex, you now decided to start searching for a rich dude to mingle with or marry most times leaving your already existing relationship because you are desperate to be like your friends and colleague too.

4. No insight: before you settle to get married to someone, you got to sit down and learn things about marriage what it takes to keep your home and as a lady, you need to learn how to keep your man happy because it is very important

5. Delay: after all being said, a delay can also be a reason someone experiences a toxic marriage but how??
Well, this still relates and most times happen to us ladies.

At 23-26years, you are still not ready for marriage and you don’t even have someone in your life who you are serious with, yet it doesn’t bother you. Then at 30+ you now start looking for just any man that is handsome, tall, either rich, middle class, or poor, you don’t care, you just want to be married and start a family.

You now become desperate than before when you turn 36+ and then your prayer point changes to “Oh Lord anything” I don’t care, I just wanna have a man to call my own and then start a family with.
Now, something like this has the power to push you into a toxic marriage because you have no choice.

———Now these are the toxic marriage signs you should look out for;———–

Unsolved conflicts: when your partner is too stingy and big that he or she can not bring herself down for misunderstanding to be resolved then it Is a toxic marriage.
The truth is that no one is above mistakes so you shouldn’t expect your partner to be perfect if you are not perfect either.

2. None compatibility: You don’t have to be 100% compatible with your partner before you know that you are fit for each other. But at least you should be 70,80,90% compatible before you agree to end up with him.

— Things that you can be compatible with;—–

1.Your hobbies

2.Your kind of jokes

3. Your likes and dislikes

4. Your ways or reasoning

5. IQ, etc

—++ toxic marriage signs you should look out for—–

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Abuse: when you are emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually abused by your partner or his family and yet nothing is done about it, then run that marriage isn’t for you.
A man who abuses his wife is indirectly reducing himself to an animal or hunt other animals to feed and also to be king over them.

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2. Always defensive: It’s not bad for him or her to be defending himself at times but when it’s now becoming his lifestyle, then that’s not it again. For once be on the offensive side and learn to say oh I’m sorry.

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3. Is bossy: Men like being the boss of the house but likewise women, we also love being in charge at least for once in a particular place, but when everything that’s done in the house is from the approval of one person at all times then it’s not it.

Staying in a house you called your house because whatever belongs to your husband belongs to you too, but yet you don’t have a voice in your home then that’s a toxic marriage because you are a maid in your own house waiting for an order from the boss at all times.

4. Less concerned lifestyle: No matter how busy you are, you shouldn’t be so busy to the extent that you can’t notice your partner’s needs at home. As a human, he or she needs attention too from you.

If this is happening, it means that he or she is beginning to out something else before you and if not treated or sorted out immediately, it will result in divorce and that’s a toxic marriage.

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5. Frequent fight: fighting in a relationship of marriage is normal that’s because two imperfect beings come together to form a perfect home, so in the process of trying to build that perfect home, fight, disagreement, argument, etc must set in but when it becomes a schedule for everyday duty then that’s your marriage turning into a toxic marriage.

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6. Betrayal: when he or she starts lying to you about his way about, he starts cheating on you and sometimes denied it but maybe recently he can’t hide again so he or she now does it open for you or people to see that’s a toxic marriage sign.

7. Unnecessary changes of interest: You two used to be lovers of a particular thing or function and that function normally brings you two together in a way you can’t explain.

But later things start changing, he or she doesn’t feel like connecting again through that function, show, or whatever, therefore he starts limiting his interest.

This can be as a result of having a lot on his mind, he is trying to move on, he is no more interested in you, or he is confused about many things.

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8. Loneliness: this point doesn’t only have to do with married people, even to those in a relationship. When you are with someone yet you still feel single, empty, and wanting, then that’s not the right place for you to be.
When you are with someone, you are supposed to feel accepted emotionally, physically, mentally, etc satisfied. Except you are not in love.

9. No public nor inside respect: A woman or a man who speaks to you anyhow even in front of your kids, friends, colleagues, is not your man neither is she your woman., that’s why she does not regard you nor scared of what negative effect the action will do to the marriage.

Always thinking negative about the marriage future: Having a big vision is good but you got to work towards it if you want people to take you seriously.

When she be little whatever future plans you have, she is not yours. If you can’t change her to reason and see things with you, then let her, that’s you stepping into a toxic marriage.

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10. Cut in communication: Without communication, a perfect marriage can turn into a toxic one in a twinkle of an eye. Communication helps in bleaching the gap between you and your partner, so when that is cut off, it automatically leads to a toxic marriage.

11. Distance: Distances here doesn’t only have to do with the physical distance but emotional distance. Distance emotionally creates starvation and from being starving emotionally, you can be taken off balance by anyone.

So if you feel distant emotionally between you and your spouse, work things out otherwise get busy.

HOW TO HANDLE A TOXIC MARRIAGE;

You can handle by not marrying just because
your mother pressurizes you to give her grandchildren. If you are not ready to be committed to a man or woman, please don’t bring someone’s child into your home and torture her.
Choose to marry when you are sure that you are ready to settle down and start your own family.
Marry for love and not for goal achievement: it is not bad to have a set goal or dreams for your future but deciding to make it through marriage will only result in a toxic marriage.
Therefore, marry because you have something in common with this guy or lady that you believe that can be grown to lead to something serious.
Marry someone who is a therapy in nature: yeah a therapy in nature in the form of if you are hot, he or she will be available or able to hold you down, he will be able to help you control your temper, not someone who will even put more fuel to the fire to be hotter and bring out flames.
Marry a friend: if love can not hold a home or relationship tight, then friendship can. Marry someone who is friendly in nature.
Don’t marry for family reputation. Your happiness matters a lot not to your parents, at least to yourself.
Don’t marry because of flashes things because one day when those things are not available anymore, you will be completely hurt, because it wasn’t what you saw nor plan.

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13 Outstanding sure Ways You Can Attract Men To Yourself

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

What attract men to women

To attract men: One thing is sure as a woman, do you want to know that one thing? I guess you do. One thing that is sure is that God created us, women, with four sights which simply means that we have what it takes to get what we want and what it takes to also lose what we have. It is because the power is within us.

Most men are moved by what they see first before coming for what they want.

Quote me right, what I mean here is that, if a man sees beautiful ladies walking by, he will, first of all, check all of them out from afar admiring them when done and he is sure he has to picture them all out, he now makes a move to the one he wants..

So with your four sights, you got to make sure that your mend appearance speaks almost all about you. Do you have to walk naked for him to see? Of course, NOT, exposing everything under your clothes just to attract men, will only land you with flirt who are just there for a nightstand. And I don’t think you are looking for that.

Therefore below here are few things you can do as a woman to attract men even unknowingly to you.

1. YOUR MODE OF DRESSING:

Responsible men go for responsible ladies. Your dressing has a lot of role to play in this your task to attract men that’s why it is our point number one.

“Your dressing determine how you are address” dressing seductive will attract lustful men to you who are looking for a girlfriend matter but if you are looking for a man not a boy, then dressing decent and moderate is your key.

2. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: appreciate the woman you have become, loving yourself and noticing how awesome you are, will be a big plus to standing your ground in all you do.

Don’t let any man or woman makes you feel less than yourself, so when you wake up in the morning, look yourself in the mirror, if you don’t have a mirror, use your phone and take a selfie and see how awesome and beautiful you have become.

Avoid self doubt because it will only generate pity party to you not friends who will help you get what you want.

3. GET SKILLS: striking to be successful with or without a man shows that you are independent and many successful and skillful men Likes such ladies.

So for you to attract men, get yourself out from your heavenly bed room and get yourself busy, get a job so that you will not be a burden to your man.

4. SMILE: yea we do have our bad and good times but let your good times be seen often than your bad time especially in the public.

Learn to smile and ensure that your smile has the power it suppose to have as a lady to melt a man’s heart to smile back at you without resisting.

5. SIT OUT AT TIMES:

If you have friends, sit out with friends sometimes if you don’t, then take yourself out, enjoy yourself, make yourself happy because when you are happy not so depressed, men will have the courage to walk up to your table to join you without being scared.

Taking yourself out to be happy helps you look younger than your age.

6. MANNER OF APPROACH: I know we women can be so emotional at times and with that, we easily react to things before we even start thinking. So showing a man a bad reaction when he approaches you especially on the first day will only send a signal to him that you are not the one.

7. ABILITY TO INITIATE GIST: being current on news, sports, politic etc will help keeping them interested in making friends with you because you will not be a person to sit out with.

8. GET INVOLVED IN MEN’S GAMES OR AFFAIRS: One of the games men like so much apart from soccer game is video games, it is one thing not to be able to play but staying with them and be laughing and cheering the party that wins up is another way of showing them your charms. But don’t be lousy.

9. SMARTNESS: Being beautiful without an insight on anything either career wise, Academy, Inspirational, motivating, skills etc is a big minus when it comes to attracting a man.

So let him see one thing in you that makes you outstanding from other ladies, show him the best side of you and a little of your bad side so that he won’t take you for granted.

10. CONTENTMENT: Being contented with what you have and working hard to be better than who you were yesterday instead of comparing yourself with someone else will only send out one signal ” She Is Special and unique” .

11. SOCIAL LIFE: Work as hard as you can to be better but still, get a life. Even after making it in life, your profit will not give you a complete happiness but the kind of friendship world that you created while claiming up will keep you going.

Men Like ladies that are friendly and social and you are friendly, you are easy to talk or chat with.

12. SPIRITUAL LIFE: Set your life in the right path with Christ, be Godly and committed in the things of the Lord, be active, worship God in truth and in spirit, not to get a man but to prove to God that you believe in what He can do.

So your way of handling things in the house of worship will determine how many brothers or visitors are looking or admiring you without your notice. So be active in your place of duty, be skillful.

13. HAVE SOME HOBBY: Don’t be boring, get something that you can be interested or gist someone about, it will show that you are interesting to chat with.

If there is a man you admire so much or your man, you need to learn some stuff.

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9 POSITIVE TIPS THAT WILL HELP YOU MAKE 2021 YOUR BEST YEAR EVER

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

2021 Your Best Year Ever

2021 cannot be like 2020 that’s a sure thing I don’t know about you but that’s what I know.

Now let me ask “how was your 2019? And what about 2020?? Well, I guess your answers will all be different because 2019 and 2020 cannot be the same because the things you did and experience in 2020 weren’t the same as in 2019.

2020 came with a lot of trials which affected many of us and also resulted in us losing many of our dear ones in the process of trying to survive. Why was it like that?

I guess it is because no one saw 2020 coming in that form, it was to be a great year to remember for good but not what it later turned into.

2021 is here, how prepared are you? What plans do you make for 2021? Where do you want to be by 2021? What do you want to achieve before the end of 2021? Are you willing to take the step into your personal and financial growth? Or you don’t even have a plan?

2020 crisis hit worldwide that’s all countries but still, they are people who were not affected because they once established plans for their lives and also worked hard toward making it a manifestation in a way that even while on lock down, they were still able to stay at home and be making their incomes.

Does that means that they have they were created differently by God?? No. We were all created equal but with different grace which is now our duty to work hard to make the grace to start working for us.

You can’t dig where you did not sow therefore you should plan your life come 2021 to recover what you lost in 2020.

TIPS TO MAKE YOU HAPPIER IN 2021

1. The 2020 Crisis: let 2020 experience be your inspiration to make it great in 2020 not as a sit back. Sometimes, the bad condition we finds ourselves in the process of living, does not happen because we deserve it neither does it come to break us.

Instead, it comes to remold us and also to remain us what we have on the inside of us which all we have to do is to embrace it and put it into action.

2. Look at the way forward but not the problem: looking at the solution to a problem will only help you sort it out in and on time. But looking at the problem will other be a distraction which brings stagnation to stop you from reaching where you are suppose to reach at that time.

If you chose looking at the problem, make sure that you are using 25% of your time to look not only at the problem but the source of the problem so as to avoid falling back at it then use 75% seeking for the solution (the way forward).

3. Avoid Comparison: sometimes, comparison can be used as a mean of motivation to strike to be better but using it as your means of inspiration, is a wrong move.

Comparison will only show you your failure if not that, it will only be showing you the people you are better than thereby making you to use that as a means of comforting yourself and stop trying to be better.

In this 2021, the only person you should strike to be better than should be yourself, the you of 2019 and 2020. This simply means the old you.

4. Set Date and Time for Each Plan: it is one thing to have a plan all written down in a note or in your head yet you don’t execute it.

Setting dates/months frame for every plans, will not only help you to achieve them but it will also serve as a daily reminder, telling you, ma/ sir, you still haven’t executed me yet o.

5. Surround Yourself with positive fellows: The friends or company you keep, people who has the capacity of poisoning your mindset and sense of reasoning.

Therefore gather yourself with good and positive people, people who can give you a positive vibe in other to push you forward to be like them or better than them not people who has nothing to contribute into your future.

6. Believe: having one or two or more set back in the journey of life does not mean that you were not born for greatness.

You were created for a greater purpose so don’t limit yourself to your past, push forward and let your eyes be on being better than your past.

7. Start Afresh: You can’t make it by sitting down waiting for who will come and jack you up. You got to rise up and strike even harder this time and let not your trial and errors decide for you.

8. Look for Inspiration: Inspiration is the key to fulfilling your plans this 2021. What I mean here is that, whatever you do or have in mind to do, make sure that it is something that gives joy and peace of mind. Don’t start something that under few weeks, months, or year, you give up because there is no inspiration in what you were doing.

So whatever you want to do in this 2021, ensure that your mind, spirit, soul and body accepts it before you start thinking of how to execute it.

9. Execute: writing down some plans in a book does not mean that it will rise up by itself and make it manifest in 2021. Therefore postponing your plans from one year to another will only cause a delay in your life and from the look of things, delay is just a coma but it has the power to keep you in one place forever if care or something is not done about it.

Therefore, make 2021 your very best and achieve if not many things, at least one thing, then if you derive joy from it, strike for more.

Nothing makes one happy like seeing joy and happiness in the faces of his or her dear ones therefore be better to get better respect from your peers and from your environment.

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Happy New Year 2021 to everyone and good luck to you.

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How To Spice Up Your Marriage In 20 Outstanding Ways

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Tips To Spice Up Your Marriage

It is one thing to fall in love it is another to fall out of love not because you want that to happen but because the species in the marriage is long gone thereby leaving you and your spouse the chard which cannot and does not have what it takes to help in keeping your home.

Having a wonderful wedding, with VIP’s friends is not the conclusion that your marriage will be wonderful but doing a few things to spice up your marriage after the wedding night can help to sustain your home even when you don’t know the effect of it.

There are so many ways to spice up your marriage but we will go with a few of them for now.

Therefore, How to Do You Spice Up Your Marriage/relationship
Let’s start first with the lady’s aspect but go into the men’s aspect.

1. Learn How To S*duce Your Husband: being shy in this aspect won’t help you therefore, the earlier you suppressed that shyness, the better for you and your home.

He is your husband so wanting him is not a sin, is a kind of ingredient which is necessary for you to build your marriage.
Make your husband know that you want him just as he wants you. Don’t make him always be the one to make the first move at all times.

Things that can help you s*duce your husband

1. Wear a s*ductive nightgown that he can’t resist

2. Fresh up by taking your evening bath so has to smell well.

3. Get yourself a nice body perfume.

4. If you are at home with just him, dress in a way that is calling and not using a wrapper around your chest, and be walking around the house like someone without a destination.

5. Use nice and clean under clothing, it is a turn-on. Don’t go and use one kind of outdated undies that will only remind your partner of your financial status.

2. Check upon him: he went to work from 7 a.m till 8:30 pm, no call, no text nothing… No that’s not it, if he is busy, then drop him a short love or a short missing you text message to remind him that someone special is missing him and is waiting patiently to meet him at home after work.

This magic works, try it and see. It is a sign that you love and also want him also.

3. Learn how to cook: a woman who controls a man’s stomach has the power to control his heart. Learning how to cook just because your husband is a nice move. It will be taboo if you are not good in the kitchen and also not good in the bedroom.

4. Surprise him with his favorite: knowing your spouse’s likes and dislikes is a big plus to helping the love to grow. But how??

For example, if your husband’s favorite food is a salad, find a day, prepare a salad for him when returning from work, put enough in his plate, serve him if you can even feed him with the first spoon, then do it but ensure that he knows that the night or that period was special and the meal was for him.

Am telling you, the way he will be smiling both in and out can be the same you saw on your wedding night.

5. Dressing: dress nice that your man can not take his eyes off you even in public. Dress to remind your man that you still have the package and you are still very active. With that, he won’t look outside even if he had the intention to.

As a man:

1. Be R*mantic: Ladies don’t dress because they just feel like Dressing, they dress because they want to look good for themselves and also for you as their spouse.

Therefore how can you be r*mantic??

There are many ways to be r*mantic but then I will just go with a few.

1. Your dress sense: don’t make her be the only one trying to look good for you every time try and also reciprocate.
You may not have many clothes but learn how to combine the few you have. Is an additional mark on your physical appearance. If you dress and your partner doesn’t look at you twice, then change that dress because it doesn’t carry the charm of captivation.

2. Phone calls: there is a way you can check on your woman and it doesn’t sound or look like you are feeling insecure.
Call her, text her with little messages reminding her how much you love her. how you value her, how special she is, how lucky you are to have her in your life, and lastly, for now, let her know her worth and position in your life.

Don’t only call her when you are looking for something at home and you want to confirm from her where to find it.

And also don’t only call her when you want her to get something for you or for the house when she is coming back to the house. Try and be r*mantic at least once and see the charm working in your home.

3. Call Her Sweet names: If you love your woman, a name shouldn’t be a problem because you will not be looking for a name to call her since she means everything to you.

Don’t call your woman a name and attach your child’s name to her example, Mummy Samuel, mummy Junior, Mummy P, etc… Call her sweet names that will always make her smile anytime she hears them from you.

Example: My precious, treasure, my queen, baby, Imaima(my love), Akemmi (My own), Darling, sweetheart, my lady, etc.

2. Complement Her: appreciating what you have is a way of showing that you admire her, make her smile in a way that no matter what other men say to her as a compliment will not sound new to her ear why??? Because her darling husband compliments her at all times not only in the b*droom.

3. Dinner Date: yes you are already married. And so what? Take her out frequently, to bring back memories, have fun, chat r*mantically, drop office work for this period and concentrate with her only.

4. Spend Time Together: Spending time together helps in building the bond between you and your partner making it easy for you both to connect both intimately or otherwise.

5. Do Something New Together: spending time with your spouse is one thing and knowing what to do while spending time with him/her is another, therefore make some plans before that faithful day since you are the master planner of the day so create a nice event for the day, if you can’t recall, Jot them down to help you remember every plan you had for the day.

You can cook her favorite if you know it and also know how to cook Which is necessary to know your woman’s favorite.

But if you don’t know how to cook, well I guess you just found yourself one of the new things you can do together at this time, creating first-time cooking memories in that kitchen is something you can’t forget in a lifetime, etc.

Spice up your marriage so that divorce can be far from your dwelling.

Also, note that the steps given here on how to spice up your marriage can also be used to spice up your relationship.

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