Stories & Tips For Meaningful Connections

“Relationship in this generation is Just all about money” – Rema

April 26, 2024February 23, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Nigerian musician Divine Ikubor, also known as Rema, believes that relationships this days is now all about money.

In a recent interview with the podcast i-D Meets, the young singer made this claim.

Rema continued by saying that as everyone must experience love in their own way, he is unable to define it.

In his words:

“My favourite lyric in my album [is] ‘Love is not a source of income’. It came from my actual experience. A lot of relationships in our new generation is just really all about the gains.

“It’s painful that I can’t really define love. You’ve to live your own version. I have not lived my version. I’m waiting for it though.”

How To Rise When Life Knocks You Down In 7 Ways

April 26, 2024February 23, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

How Do You Rise When Life Knocks You Down

Imagine an attack that knocks you down to the ground with serious injuries. Are you going to keep staying on the ground or rise and move? That is left for you to choose.

Some failure/ attack in life is inevitable and at the same time, nobody wants to be a victim. Nobody wants to fail. Everybody wants to win and achieve great things.

Times will come when life will hit you hard and will make you fall, but that doesn’t mean you should continue to be there. You can always get back on track again.

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Walt Disney was fired by a company because he lacked imagination. However, that didn’t make him decide to fall completely but rather he made a comeback and now owns the Walt Disney theme Park and Mickey Mouse into Stardom.

When life knocks you down, here is what you can do.

Take enough time to heal: when you sustain injuries in an attack, you’ve got to treat it and allow it to heal which will take some time. So if you have just been fired, or suffered a massive blow to your business, take time to heal most especially the emotional and physical aspects.

This time is the time to take some time off, reflect on what has happened, and who knows you could develop the big and far better ideas.

Take Responsibility: Accept that you have failed irrespective of the situation. Understand that failure is part of human experience and it is inevitable.

Find out what went wrong: After taking responsibility for your failure, figure out those things that went wrong. For example, you input a storage device into a laptop, in the first and second instance, it didn’t work. Then you have to check what went wrong probably you have placed the wrong side on the laptop.

Find out what went wrong, fix it and improve yourself so you can do better in the future.

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Learn: A lot of people are around you. These people have gone through similar situations like yours. Seek their opinion and learn from it. Read success stories of people who have achieved great things is also another place where you can learn a lot from.

Focus on the Positive aspect: Understand not just that failure is the opposite of success but also is a part of success. This is because failure makes you wiser, and gives you the experience to get things back on track in the future.

Think, plan, set a goal: Think, draft a plan, and set a goal. This will even go a long way since you have gained the experience and have understood the rights and wrongs.

Get things on track and start again: At this stage, after you have failed, decided to rise again, take responsibility, find out what went wrong, learn, focus on the positives, think, plan, and set a new goal, next is to get things on track and start again with the best version of yourself.

Remember “you don’t drown by falling in the water, you drown by staying there”

Therefore, do not be afraid to rise again and move.

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Dating A Friend- cons

April 26, 2024February 23, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

For some folks out there, getting emotionally entangled with a friend might not quite seem to be a great adventure to embark upon, though the relationship is destined to be built on trust placing one in a tricky situation as to whether to take on the adventure of dating a friend or not.

As funny as it might seem to be, picking up the courage to ask your best friend to date you could be one of the most challenging requests you’ve ever asked for from such a friend of yours. It is deemed challenging because you would be discussing something serious with someone you once cruised alongside in time past.

THE DOWNSIDE OF DATING A FRIEND

The awkwardness of dating a friend is a total turn-off and red flag on its own as every activity engaged in the relationship tends to be a casual act, just exactly the same way they can’t fathom engaging in any form of romance or sexual intercourse.

In so much as you’re craving feelings to be with your friend in a relationship, and you’re striving so hard to make your wish happen to make your fantasy become a reality, yet even at that there are still some factors to be considered as going into such an affair with your friend just might not be quite an easy ride for you.

Certainly, there are bound to be some highs and lows present in the relationship, nevertheless, this article would be laying more emphasis on the negatives side of such a relationship like this as this article has been well computed with enough resourceful information. Below are some things to explain should you decide to embark on such an adventure as this.

1. FAMILIARITY FLAW’S
Literally, you already know everything about him on one hand, while on the other hand he already knows everything about you in like manner. And with this, irresponsible of how hard you strive to portray yourself as the perfect one and an ideal partner, such efforts of yours would surely be washed down the drainage as your personality is known already by him or her.

Though you might still strive to convince him that you’re a changed person now and also in a changed situation as well judging by the fact that your affairs with him ain’t that of a friendship but rather that of a relationship, of which still with that might not work out exactly the same way you planned or imagined it. The reason why it is not advisable to date a friend is when there are thousands of options to be explored.

2. FEELING MIGHT NOT BE MUTUAL
The feeling you are giving out and exhibiting might not be reciprocated to you exactly as you might have imagined it, and when a case scenario like this presents itself, it signifies you might have misinterpreted the feeling of CA and affection being shown towards you as love.
When the red flag is mentioned above, certainly the feeling ain’t mutual and it is best recommended to bring such affairs to a halt from that moment henceforth, as you might end up doing yourself more harm than good in the long run.

3. INSECURITIES AND TRUST ISSUES
Having been together with each other for most of the times when you were still friends, one way or the other you might have known one or two things about one another which could be good or bad, position or negatives.

You might know one or two things about the past relationships with one another, and such knowledge as that might come back to haunt you as you might start developing feelings of Insecurity. The reason is if you aren’t mature enough you should never for once consider dating your friend.

4. ISSUES MIGHT BE TAKEN FOR GRANTED
Like someone you’ve literally been cool with based on the number of times and moments you both have shared together, certainly once you decide to advance from friendship to Relationship, you both still tend to remain comfortable with one another thereby making issues for granted.

While in friendship with one another, you both might not be heeding to corrections or giving full obedience to one another directives, now that you both have advanced from being Friends to being in a relationship, expect things to get a little bit worse as it is expected of such trends of taking things for granted to continue adding up to your frustrations in the process

CONCLUSION

In conclusion, we aren’t ultimately deciding to carry on a date with your friend isn’t a good idea at all, we are only trying to expose you to the cons of carrying on such an adventure as that so that it could be up to you to dictate and decide if it is really worth the risk. being in a relationship with your best friend also has its own good side as there are a few things to benefit from just by doing so. Such things include

~ You tend to blend well with one another having known each other for so long a time

~ You would always live to admire one another personalities just exactly the same way.~ You would always be cool with one another families and close relations having spent time with them while being friends.

~ The relationship is destined to experience rapid growth as both of you don’t necessarily need to go through the introductory phase.

“You know you are in love when you can’t fall asleep”- Nollywood stars Eniola Ajao and Jide Awobona stirs reactions with new photos

April 26, 2024February 23, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Jide Awobona and Eniola Ajao, two Yoruba Nollywood stars, have sparked debate online with their romantic photos.

The actors posted a photo of themselves cuddling up and expressing their love on their both Instagram page.

Jide Awobona and Eniola Ajao distributed a Dr. Seuss love letter that described how to spot true love.

He said that when a person can’t sleep because their fantasies have finally come true, they are in love.

“You know you are in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams”.

Since then, the image has sparked debate among their followers.

One Amazing Rambo wrote, “Well…All I see is AdeFits

King Olamilekan wrote, “Na like this dem Mo Bimpe start ooo.

How to start conversation with a girl in an arranged marriage

April 26, 2024February 23, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

How to start conversation in an arranged marriage

Every girl looks forward to getting married to a good man and getting a beautiful and a happy home/marriage, They look forward to getting a type of man that will make they feel special, Adore and cherish them all the time, Well in as much as you want to make a girl happy you should also search for a girl that will also make you happy, in searching for a good girl and a wife material in an arranged marriage might be difficult, especially when you don’t know how to start conversation with a girl in an arranged marriage

What An Arranged Marriage

It is a marriage in which both spouses are chosen for each other by their parents, friend, or some dating site or an

An arranged marriage is a marriage where both individuals meet their self’s for the first time with the sole aim of going straight into marriage

Example of an arranged marriage :

John and grace are two young and aspiring individuals who came from rich homes, after secondary school John’s parents sent him to England for his tertiary education, and grace who is also from a wealthy home did her tertiary education in America John and grace parents are both close friends, and they decided to arrange a marriage for both of their children after some years John and grace finished their tertiary education aboard and came back to Nigeria and finally got married

take notes :

John and Grace had never met their self’s before their marriage was arranged by their parents the story of John and Mary is a Clare example of an arranged marriage

Meeting a girl for marriage can make anybody feel nervous. The first meeting is the most important time because that will help you in selecting the right girl for marriage. So, it is very important that you learn how to start a decent conversation with a girl to win her heart.

How to start conversation with a girl in an arranged marriage

In starting a conversation with a girl in arranged marriage they are several Steps and measure you need to follow some of which include,

1. Approach and introduce yourself to her :

one of the first steps in starting a conversation with a girl that you haven’t met before, but are interested in getting married to her is to approach her and introduce yourself to her

For example. Hi my name is john am from Poland, but I studied in England

2. Ask her name and how she is doing :

By now you are expected to know the girl’s name may be the person who arrange for both of you might have given you a brief biography about her, but if you don’t Know her name this is the right time to ask for it since you have told her your own name

For example, How are you doing dear and please can I know your beautiful name?

3. Comment on her outfit or your surroundings :

In keeping the conversation rolling just find something nice comment and comment on it.

For example, If you both are inside a restaurant you can simply comment on something about the restaurant e.g. wow I love their customer care service they are very nice and attend to customers politely

If you are having difficulty with what to say and what not to say to her, then this might help 17 of what to say to a girl

4. Compliment her :

After complimenting the environment you are you should try and find a unique thing and give it a very worm compliment

For example, I love your hair they look like that of an angel

5. Ask a question about school or work :

After complimenting her then you should ask her how has she being day going if she is a student you should ask her how was school? if she is not a student then you should ask her how was working today?

6. Bring up a shared experience :

bring up being shared experience simply means telling her a little about yourself stuffs like your first year in the university or one of your special trip etc

7. Pose an interesting question :

By now you both must have been enjoying your company you can now through some questions to her to know her personality and the kind of person she truly is make sure you ask interesting and meaningful questions that will be beneficial to your intentions of marriage

If you know that you always start having a crush on her but yet you don’t know about her own emotions, then check this out How to make your crush fall in love with you

Conclusion :

These are some ways you can start a meaningful conversation with a girl or boy you haven’t met before but have been arranged for marriage starting a meaningful conversation and asking they some questions will help you know them better their answers and response to your question will tell you the type of person they are. It is then left for you to decide either to continue with the arranged marriage proposal or to call it up

Later we will drop some amazing questions

to ask a girl in an arranged marriage meeting to know if she is the right woman for you and also questions to ask a boy in an arranged marriage meeting to know if he is the right man for you. all these will be available here so please subscribe to notification thank you.

“Dear married women, stop keeping single ladies as bestie” Tonto Dikeh dishes out relationship advice to married women

April 25, 2024February 23, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Amidst cheating allegation labeled against celebrity stylist, Medlin Boss, Actress Tonto Dikeh has however taken to her Instagram account to give relationship advice to her fans.

After previously responding to Medlin Boss’ charges against her best friend, Tonto Dikeh advised married women against keeping Single besties and entrusting their husbands with their single friends.

Tonto Dikeh counseled married women to defend their homes and happiness against foes who appear as friends, saying that one can’t keep a goat and a yam together.

She wrote:

“Dear MARRIED WOMEN,
Listen and listen well. You don’t have any business having a single lady as your bestie to the extent that your husband is their friend too.
Stop making this mistakes.
You can’t keep GOAT AND YAM AND EXPECT yam to grow and Goat to walk away!!!
Dear married women, guard your homes, Guard your happiness against friends as ENEMIES…
Some stories are just too heart breaking🥹🥹🥹

@cocosherrie BABES THANKS FOR TEACHING ME WHAT FRIENDSHIP MEANS”.

“You are the mightiest man in a young body” Uche Ogbodo hails husband as she announces pregnancy

April 25, 2024February 23, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

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Actress Uche Ogbodo is so excited as her family continues to grow in number.

The actress is carrying her second child with her husband, Bobby Marris.

With a screenshot of her pregnancy test, the Uche Ogbodo announced the exciting news on her Instagram page.

She declared her love for her husband and rejoiced at the newest addition to the family.

She wrote:

“The Maris family is increasing. All thanks to my sweet husband, the sweetest of them all, my crown.

You are the Mightiest Man in a young body. I love you with all my heart”.

Contested Divorce Attorney

April 25, 2024February 23, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Many marriages at a point decide to get a divorce due to one or more reasons best known to them sometimes getting a couple of divorce is quite easy if both couples agree to end their marriage. A situation where both couples agree to end their marriage is called an uncontested divorce” in this article, we will cover everything on Contested Divorce Attorney so keep reading.

While a contested divorce

is referred to a situation where one spouse wants to end the marriage and the other doesn’t, this happens as a result of several things

Contested Divorce Attorney :

these are legal personnel/lawyers that are responsible and specialize in handling contested divorce cases

Causes of a contested divorce

1. Love :

This happens when one of the couples is still in love with the other couple and doesn’t want the marriage to end

2. Children :

This case might arise if one other couple wants to go with the children and the other couple does not agree with his or her decision the other couple might decide to cancel the divorce

3. Properties :

After deep consideration of sharing the man’s property with a ratio of 50:50 most men disagree with the concept of divorce even When they are tired of the relationship

4. Family/Society :

One of the couples might disagree to go for a divorce due to many reasons one of which is society because most society frank at divorce and some might refuse to go for divorce cause of his or her family reputation especially a person from a reputable background will frank at divorce cause of the reputation of his or her family.

Some questions that might be going through your minds right now are questions like is relationshipsnerwork.com.ng supporting the act of divorce

The answer is No

Another point for you to consider is that many people have lost their lives trying to keep their marriage others have lost lives of their children while others out of anger have committed modder and are presently in jail. That is why we are here to advise you if you see that your marriage is getting out of hand despite the different majors you have applied to make the marriage work and yet it’s not working out and is becoming a threat to your life one of the safest ways to save your life is to file for a divorce with or without the concept of your partner if your partner agrees with you for the divorce then it cool! You can go for the normal divorce but, if he or she doesn’t agree with you then you can go for a contested divorce

Steps for getting a contested divorce

1. prepare, file, and serve the divorce petition (legal papers asking for a divorce and stating the reason for breaking the marriage)

2. respond to the petition

3. engage in “divorce discovery” – this process entails you getting adequate proof and witnesses to stand for you in court d

4. interview and hire an attorney

5. pre-trial legal motions and negotiations between attorneys

6. finally is the court trial and judgment

If you are still a single man or lady, it is important you check this out 13 POSITIVE QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE MARRIAGE TO AVOID DIVORCE

How to get a contested divorce attorney near me :

You can easily get a contested divorce close to you by using google or by visiting any law firm close to you and asking them for a professional divorce law below are some contested divorce Attorney in different locations

Some professional Divorce Attorney and their contact

US professional Divorce Attorney

Jake Elmore

Divorce Lawyer Serving Dallas, TX

(214) 692-8200

Dallas, TX Divorce Lawyer

Kate Mataya

(214) 692-8200

McClure Law Group

Melody M. Petitt

Divorce Lawyer Serving Dallas, TX

(214) 420-0100

An experienced, dedicated divorce attorney

Matthew Towson

Divorce Lawyer Serving Dallas, TX

(817) 994-6025

Free Consultation

Dedicated, Experienced Divorce Lawyer. Call for a free consultation!

If you are a married woman or man and you are not sure about your marriage, you can check this 5 Signs your marriage is headed towards divorce: how to save it

Nigeria professional Divorce Attorney

. Amaechi Nwaiwu (SAN) & Co

Contact information

0802 590 5619

Location: Lagos Nigeria

2. Ayodele Akintunde & Co.

19 Bunmi Olowude Street, Lekki Phase 1, Lekki, Lagos Nigeria

contact 0703 007 7905, 0805 871 3027

3. Greychapel Legal

Plot 17b Emmanuel Abimbola Cole Street, Lekki Phase 1, Lagos Nigeria

Contact 0815 291 4717

4. GRF Dalley & Partners

Gabsdal House, 3rd/4th floor, 26 Igbosere Road, Lagos Island, Lagos Nigeria

Contact 081 454 9824

5. Kayode Ajulo & Co.

4, Abiriba Close, off Yola Street, Area 7, Garki, Abuja FCT Nigeria

contact 0803 315 4349, 09 524 2218

6. Naija Legal Talk

Tpx Hub, 16a, Alfred Olaiya Street Off Abel Oreniyi Street, Ikeja, Lagos Nigeria

contact 0909 013 5800

7. Bourne & Awe

3a Ologun Agbaje Street, Victoria Island, Lagos Nigeria

contact 0803 743 2616

If you are sure you don’t really want a divorce and you think all you need are some tips to help you keep your home and marriage you can check some of our previous articles that can help mend your marriage and make you and your spouse happy

Signs Of An Abusive Relationship

April 25, 2024February 23, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

The relationship these days dies quite seems to be a fantasy as the internet and various Tv reality shows may paint the picture to be. While few might be lucky to find themselves in a happier and healthy relationship, the reverse is the case for many who finds themselves in a toxic union. The reason why this article is well resourced is to provide you with the necessary details about Signs of an Abusive Relationship.

Relationships generally are meant to be built around Love, Care, and Affection while also spicing it up with added traits such as trust and a good communication scheme. Even though it is worthy to note that perfection can’t be achieved in any union, it is disheartening to see imperfections weighing far more than perfections in any relationship, with the most miserable of all being an Abusive Relationship.

An abusive relationship as we all know is a companionship known for all forms of physical confrontations in every facet of live ranging from the physical, emotional all the way to all things sexual assaults usually coming from the angle of the male figure directed towards the female counterparts who happens to be his girlfriend

SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
Guys are known to be the alpha figure in a relationship normally, who are expected to give directives on how the affairs of the relationship should be run. But unfortunately for ladies who actually are the prey In this case scenario, they are forced to go through hell at the hands of guys.

Moreover, in order to dodge such bullets of being in an Abusive Relationship, there are some red flags present in the relationship that you shouldn’t joke with as they might actually be a clear indication that the union you actually find yourself in might be an Abusive Relationship. Below are a few signs of an Abusive Relationship.

1. YELLING AND SCREAMING
Literally, there’s nothing intimidating as your partner yelling and screaming orders at you in the name of giving directives or proscribing corrections. There’s no doubting the fact that once in a relationship, arguments are bound to erupt seldomly, but once it becomes part of his daily routine, it should be a worrying sign for you.

Pick up the courage to talk to him about his irritating actions which might be damaging to your mental health and if chose not to give heed to every plea of yours then it’s high time you start considering leaving the relationship for Good as being in a union with a dictator is the last thing one can ever wish for.

2. BLAMING AND PICKINGS FAULT
If your partner or boyfriend is one who doesn’t pick out positives from whatever you do but rather negatives is another red flag that might just be the signs of an Abusive Relationship. If he isn’t commending or praising you for whatever good you do but rather picking faults from any mistakes of yours then it is high time you start considering the status of such a relationship of yours.

Being dragged into every fault in the union can actually affect the confidence and self-esteem of a lady acting as a detriment to their mental health as abuse doesn’t necessarily need to come in its physical form but rather emotionally and mentally.

3. TOTAL DOMINANCE AND CONTROL
If your partner which is the person you actually call your boyfriend is actually acting like a dictator in the relationship, this might just be a clear indication you might be heading towards yet another Abusive relationship.

Talking about Your partner being a dictator, means him already making it part of his daily routine of feasting on your social media pages and handles, requesting to know more about your whereabouts even when it seems to inconvenience you taking away your liberty at will.

4. THREATENING YOU AT WILL
When your boyfriend is actually in the business of threatening you with your mistakes of the past mistakes so as to blackmail you doing so, that is another red flag you shouldn’t underestimate as it might come back to haunt you in the long run.

Actions like pointing his fingers at you to beat you up, trying to blackmail you with a nude photo or sex tapes which were mistakes of your past life, all of which happen to be intimidating shouldn’t be condoned at all as it is high time you leave the relationship for good.

5. EMOTIONS JOKES AND JESTING
Emotional jokes and jesting just as the heading implies, though at first shouldn’t be considered serious first, but if it persists they should. The whole world might decide to make fun and mockery of you but it shouldn’t be your boyfriend who is meant to be your supporting pillar.

6. MANIPULATIVE AND CUNNING
If the one you call the love of your life is always tricking you into acting to his own terms and benefits, then in the long run such a relationship of yours is bound to be toxic and abusive.

Actions like threatening to end their lives or inflict self-damage on themselves should they decide to leave the relationship is one of the most commonly used manipulative acts as it is actually done with the intention of stopping you from quitting the relationship.

7. EMOTIONAL PUNISHMENT
Silent treatment now has become the other of the day as it is the most implemented form of punishment In a relationship. Here the abuser acts as if the abused doesn’t exist as she is completely shut out and isolated in that very relationship.

CONCLUSION
In conclusion, just exactly the same where there are solutions readily made available for every problem, there are also some few tips which could be implemented to aid in tackling issues such as this. Here are a few of the tips you might want to consider

. Share your plights with your families, friends, and close relatives as these are the set of people you’re certain would surely have your back giving you support at the most critical time of you wanting it.

. A certain disappointment in life doesn’t signify more good timings won’t be coming your way any longer. You can’t be on the receiving end of various assaults either physically, emotionally, or sexually on a daily basis in the hands of your boyfriend. If the relationship is too toxic for you and you just can’t bear the assaults any longer. Kindly move on and walk away from the relationship with dignity.

You can also do well to check Top Reasons Your Boyfriend Might Be Ignoring You

“Use deodorants and stop smelling like goats” –Actor Frederick Leonard blasts movie team

April 25, 2024February 23, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Film Lord Frederick Leonard has hauled at a team of actors that had an offensive body odour.

Frederick made this remark after his colleague Victor Okpalan complained on his Instagram page that members of the production team are used to arriving at the location smelling like “rat poison.”

Frederick Leonard commented that he agreed, dragging the movie crew workers who don’t maintain their appearance and have a bad body odor.

He claimed that anyone with a working brain would make it a point to wear deodorant, particularly if they knew they would be around people for extended periods of time at work.

He wrote:

“Any Human being That Has A FUNCTIONING BRAIN 🧠 Wether Cast or Crew, should Use Deodorants. And touch up Again by 5. pm so you don’t begin to smell like rotten Goat 🙄 For a Profession that requires that we are Constantly on our Feet for a minimum of 14 hours, COMMON SENSE SHOULD APPLY.. And Let’s not Forget Mint or Gum to Fight Mouth Odor. Thank You”.