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1 REASON WHY THE WORD LET’S BE FRIENDS IS IMPORTANT

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

AN INSIGHT ABOUT THE WORD LET’S BE FRIENDS

Many of us don’t like hearing the word let’s be friends because it irritates us we prefer it to be a Yes or a No.

“Let’s called a spade a spade” but one thing we do forget is that friendship is the most important reason we want to get into a relationship with a particular person at a particular time and that’s why it plays an important role

Before we talk more, what is friendship to us.

“FRIENDSHIP” has so many meanings, it means attachment, good-fellowship, familiarity, harmony, alliance, fondness etc etc.

We will further say “Friendship is the process whereby different individuals or animals comes together to associate.

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Note that, in this kind of situation, Happiness and peace of mind is very far away.

Many people feel bad when they hear the word can we just be friends? let’s be friends etc. And with that,they give up on trying, if you ask them why? they will tell you that there is no need of being friends with someone they are in love with. But that’s very wrong. you liked her?

what about her? Does she like you but she doesn’t want to jump into the a relationship immediately, then she now decided to use this friendship period to get to know you a little bit. Love is a gradual process, it can get to anyone at any time most times, when you least expected.

A little story:

I have a friend, each time we decide to either hang out or see a movie, she will invite other of her friends alone.

Now one of this her friends who was in a serious relationship according to her, each time she comes around, her fiance will be calling every five to ten minutes to check on her. And each time that occur we will be making fun of them singing love songs for them, but instead of her to be smiling after the calls, she will start lamenting most time.

One day, I decided to ask her why her mood always changed each time the guy calls her. What she said marvels me

She said” why will a guy be calling me every five to ten minutes anytime I tell him I was going out with friends, is that not in security?

I now ask her what was wrong with that, perhaps is it not what ladies want, she say to me, ladies, not me, cause to me, I don’t like too much phone calls, I prefer text messages.

He calls too much and it makes him looks desperate and with that, I feel uncomfortable.

Immediately I heard that statement, I now decided to interview her.

My questions were as follows;

Do you love him? She said yes she does.
How long have you known him? She said three months.
And how long have you guys dated? She said three months
You dated him that same month you knew him? She said well, it was like a week or two later.

After the whole thing, I now discover that they didn’t create friendship first before they started their relationship. Which means they started their relationship in trial and error.

The man likes phone calls and checking on his fiancee but in the other hand, the fiancee is not okay with it. She is busy complaining all the time because she prefers text messages to phone calls. Now, that’s individual differences.

We may not know the dos and the don’ts of a person unless we are closer to them through friendship.

when friendship is created first, we will get to know who we are dealing with, the persons likes and dislike. Despite the fact that you won’t know everything at that moment but gradually, you will know.” It is better to marry your friend than your lover” your friend knows your ups and downs.

And still stays around, there are things you can’t tell a lover why?Because he or she may run away.

therefore, don’t feel bad if a lady or a guy tells you let’s be friends… what you should worry about is after this, will there be a possibility of something developing between you two or will it just end with let’s be friends.

Well i will say that’s up to you, the things you do and the way you handle things will determine if she will stay or not.

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6 WAYS TO SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP DURING CORONAVIRUS

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

coronavirus and your relationship

Coronavirus: COVID-19 is a new illness that is spreading all around the world, it can affect your lungs and airways, it causes change in temperature, cough, difficulty in breathing etc.

In the process of this outbreak of the deadly virus called coronavirus. many changes have occur in our lives during this period, our relationship with people, our work, businesses, trips etc as been put in hold to avoid the virus from spreading.

According to NHS on coronavirus, the best thing to do is to avoid what may cause the generation of the virus) since they don’t really know how the virus spread from person to person so close contact

with people who might have or come in contact with the virus.

working from home, if you can is the best way, ( you can sign up

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avoid social gathering, such as going to pubs, restaurants, beach,

theatres and cinemas, also avoid events with large groups of

people. maybe the best way to stay safe

With this virus, panic is everywhere that it has affect many of us

from even stepping outside.

Below are the things you can do during this coronavirus outbreak

to still stay up to date in your relationship:

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Video Calls: Thanks to Mr. Mark Zuckerberg owner of Facebook for making video calls

through social media to be made easy for people who don’t use

Skype and people whom their phones are not configured nor

support video calls.

Frequent Text messages: Not being able to go out with your

partner is just a physical excuse but don’t let coronavirus to be

the reason you wouldn’t remind your partner how much you love

him/her.

2. Appointment: the same way you and your partner have been

making appointment to meet in a particular spot, use that same

way and invite him/her to be online at a particular time and day

for a chat.

3. Pictures: have fun with crazy pictures, snap a funny pic maybe

while eating, sleeping or crying etc and send it likewise her, like

that you are trying to restore the happiness and to straighten the

intimacy in the relationship.

4. Love song: There is how you share a song with someone and you

put a smile on someone face. the smile is not because of the

singer but is because of the sender, and anytime that song is

played, it reminds him/her about you and how she misses you.

Don’t use coronavirus as an excuse of not showing your partner

how much you love him/her. most importantly, stay safe.

4 Reasons why a breakup doesn’t equal failure

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Why a breakup doesn’t equal failure

A relationship is a great thing and a great way to relate with someone you love or crush on but it is also important to understand that a breakup doesn’t equal failure if it doesn’t work out a plan.

A relationship is not a do-or-die affair, it is a matter of the heart, which means that we have every right to choose what and the kind of person we want to be with.

So if you try a relationship out with someone that you thought was perfect for you, then at the end or in the process, you now discover that he or she is not the right one for you that there is a lot of difference between you two or that he or she is so perfect for you, don’t sit down and endure it because you thought that if you leave you will be seen as a failure. Because a breakup doesn’t equal failure.

If you want to know, you break up with someone who doesn’t deserve you or who is way too different from you, means you are courageous because it takes only courage and self-worth to break loose from it without thinking of what people will say.

Many people see people who break up in their relationship as failures, not capable of loving someone, etc but that’s not true, a break doesn’t equal failure, it equals liberation.

Yeah, liberation because nothing feels so relieved like breaking loose from every bondage in the name of a relationship.

-‘‘-How do you know when a relationship turns to a bondage‘—-

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i. When you have no freedom of speech.

ii. When you are in a relationship yet you still feel single.

iii. When you are in a relationship just to keep your parents off your back

iv. When you are scared just because your spouse returns home from work.

v. When you are physically, emotionally, mentally abused.

vi. When you are less than yourself.

vii. When you have no more self-confidence in anything you do in your spouse’s presence. And so other more.

—- when to break up with someone you love—

1. Love is reciprocal which means that when you love someone, you should be loved in return, it may not be in the same measure it’s either more than or less than what you offer. But when you don’t even get any of that, then it’s time to let go.

Note: Whatever you manage or endure, you will continue to endure to the end. Yeah because any day you want to change the pattern, you will have issues.

Do you know why??? I will tell you, it is because you have made him or her get so used to it from the very start. Beware of what you introduce into your relationship.

2. When you are physically, mentally, emotionally abuse regularly.

3. When you are tired of begging for attention.

4. When he or she is reluctant about the relationship.

5. When space is the right thing to regain your balance.

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6. When all that you try doing for the relationship looks like a waste of time.

7. When you are not appreciated.

8. When his or her family becomes the ones that run the affairs of the relationship

9. When he is not ready to take responsibility.

10. When you are turned into a maid.

11. When he or she publicly ridicules you.

—–Break up reasons—-

There are so many reasons for a break up according to every one of us. Before we act, we think, while some act before they think, but what matters is that there is a breakup and there is a reason attached and we called it ” break up reasons”.

Some of the beak up reasons are;

1. When we realized that the person we are with is not compatible.

2. Most times is caused by confusion.

3. Misunderstanding

4. Pressure from people etc

5. The spark is gone

6. He or she cheats on you

7. He or she is not your type

8. You don’t like her of him anymore

9. Some people break up because they need a space to think.

—break up texts——

Although it is not proper or mature enough to send a breakup text to someone over a phone.

If you think that you can’t deal with the person anymore, the best thing to do is to sit face to face with the person and table out things.

Some text messages have the power to take someone off balance unknown to you.

But some moderate break up texts you can use are;

1. I need a space or a break to think.

2. We are better off as friends.

3. I’m in love with someone else.

4. I can’t do this anymore I’m sorry

5. Let’s just be friends

6. Let’s call it quits.

7. I can’t fake to still love you while the love is no more there, I’m sorry

8. It’s over, please.

9. I’m sorry. But I can’t waste my time anymore.

—After the break up what next—-

Well, this is where individual differences come into play. There are people that you can’t even ask after a break up with next, all because you have already gotten your answer by what you are seeing. Etc.

1. some people break up because they want to flirt with someone else and when the breakup finally takes place, they move on immediately with a new relationship.

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2. Life continues; you may not go into another relationship with someone else immediately but that doesn’t mean that you will stop living and makes life so bitter for yourself

After all, being said, now let’s look at

why break up doesn’t equal failure-

1. You were never in a competition with anyone.

2. You hold the key to your happiness, not people.

3. It’s your life

4. It’s not a game it is a matter of the heart.

5. It is not a do-or-die affair.

6. It’s a relationship, not marriage.

7. It is not a must that every relationship must result in marriage.

8. It was just a moment.

9. It is a mission to find the right partner for the future, not the other way round. This means that you can always turn right or left anytime until you reach the final destination.

10. Break up doesn’t equal failure because it is better to have a broken relationship than to have a broken marriage.

11. You know who you are and what you want, and it takes a lot to make that decision of breaking loose from the relationship especially if you truly loved the person. But in one way or the other, it didn’t work out as you planned and expected.

A relationship that was not meant to work out will not stand no matter how much enough you put into it.

Once you understand that having a relationship with someone does not mean complete ownership then whatever people think about you, will not be a problem anymore.

Do you think that break up equals failure? Let’s hear from you.

Is it normal to feel unhappy with a partner?

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Is it normal to feel unhappy with a partner?

Are you in a relationship yet unhappy and you are wondering “Is it normal to feel unhappy with a partner”? Are you unsure about what you are feeling for your partner? Then you have to worry no more after we have this discussion.

Feeling unhappy most times with your partner is normal and that’s what makes us imperfect. As a normal human, you are entitled to always have mode strings which change sometimes.

For you to feel unhappy with your partner sometimes doesn’t mean that you don’t love them it can simply cause by an incident that occurred on the day or by what you recall and then everything your partner does that season or moment makes you unhappy, doubtful.

For example, if you read about how a girl loved his boyfriend but at the end of it all, the guy now ends up breaking the girl’s heart after everything including promises he has been making to the girl, it is possible for you to feel it and also rethink of yourself if yours is perfect.

If your partner has been making promises too but sometimes does things that make you doubt him, you will not be that happy at that season but you may end up faking to be okay while your heart is troubled.

So feeling unhappy with your partner is normal you just have to adjust and compromise to be happy and to have a happy home. You just have to let go of some things and enjoy your life.

#When should you quit a relationship?

Quitting your relationship without even fighting for it is not the right option sometimes. But if you have done all you could and still it doesn’t work out then it is time to quit.

2 When you are fighting alone: In a relationship, there are two parties involved and that is you and your partner and with this, it means that you both are supposed to work as a team and make the relationship to be worth staying.

3 When you can’t compromise again: you are to enjoy your relationship and not to endure and even if you want to endure, it is not every day nor every time. If you keep compromising and your partner is reluctant to make amend or contribute to the growth of the relationship then it is time to quit. Perhaps it is not every relationship that is a program to end in marriage. So don’t be so addicted to a guy or girl that you can’t let go of such needs that arises.

Love with your heart but apply wisdom.

#Can depression make you unhappy in a relationship?

Being depressed and being unhappy in your relationship are two different things. Many people who are depressed today are not depressed because they are unhappy in their relationship but some are because their expectations didn’t come out as they have expected.

Depression can make you feel down, develop low self-esteem, unworthy, etc. But this brings down your spirit but it still doesn’t prove the fact that you are unhappy in your relationship.

So No, depression can not make you unhappy in your relationship because it will disappear anytime soon when new things take place.

#How do know your relationship is over?

Most times you don’t know if it is not from your angle, but it is possible for you to see signs all you have to do is to get yourself and heart trained for that day it will finally happen.

But if you decide to make then there are a lot of signs that it is over.

1 Cheating: if your partner has been cheating on you and then apologize but after everything, he or she keeps repeating it now become his lifestyle then it is a sign that the relationship is not for you.

2 Emotionally disconnected: You don’t force yourself to love someone else will end up regretting tomorrow. when you start feeling that you are emotionally unavailable anymore no matter what you do or your partner does.

3 Lack of trust: In the condition where you used to trust your partner no matter what happens and along the line, you can’t even trust anything he says anymore then that’s it.
4 Different dreams: Did your future plans together change in the long run? have you discovered that the dream you are having with your partner is not yours but his but he doesn’t care about whatever dream you have for yourself? then it is time to quit.

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5 Lack of unity: Did your use to ask for your idea or suggestion whenever he wants to do somethings but now he doesn’t care about what you think or feel? then have you tried voicing out and he ignored you as if you don’t exist? then it is time to work out.

Every partner needs to have one mind if they want their relationship to work out.
In a relationship that as a future, you will know from the start all you have to do is to watch and pray, work for it if your partner is doing the same.

A relationship is a teamwork mission and not an individual just as a tree cannot make a forest. If you love your partner, sit him or her down, have a heart-to-heart talk. communication can help revive an ending relationship.

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“I Said Yes to The Love of My Life”: Pregnant Lady with Big Baby Bump Shares Sweet Proposal Video.

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

“I Said Yes to The Love of My Life”: Pregnant Lady with Big Baby Bump Shares Sweet Proposal Video.

One of the happy news that triggers a love of congratulatory messages is marriage proposal.

A video seen via tiktok has been generating a lot congratulatory messages as lady shows off her proposal clip.

According to the video shared, the lady looks like a pregnant woman who has been wanting her husband to do ting the right way.

watch video:

@swtlovely_

I said yes to the love of my life ❤️#stainlessgoody #swtlovely #fyp

♬ original sound – 𝙂𝙚𝙚_𝙡𝙮𝙧𝙞𝙘𝙨

Looking at her, she is supper excited..

Congratulations to her!!!

1 of Christopher’s love story

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

LOVE STORY WRITING

This is my love story

Hello, my name is Christopher from Aguata of Anambra state but my mother is from Delta from which she was married from.

Delta state, have good women just like my mother, Therefore with that insight, the relationship between me and Delta state people became so tight.

So with that, I always told myself that I was going to marry from there due to my mother’s life style towards my father. They both loved and respected their union.

One day, it was weekend, I woke up from sleep and it was like a special day for me, I was so happy and having a beautiful lyrics “IF” by Davido, a Nigeria singer in my mind and if one should ask me why that smiling face.

Seriously I couldn’t have said reasonable answer till when I stepped out as usual to meet my friends whom I don’t normally have chance to visit or see because of the nature of work.

As I was on my way my eyes turned as if its turned on its own to the left side, behold what my eye saw, a beautiful damsel standing by waiting for her friends to come as well before they take off and by her actions and statements you can tell.

Wow!!! I couldn’t stand it anymore, I had to approach her with immediate action and as a young looking responsible and handsome guy (smiles) I gained her attention and from there we became friends.

One blissful day, I called her on phone and we planned on a date. As we later met at Genesis restaurant, we had Lunch together and summarized it with a gist.

As days went by, my feelings for her started growing and the love, falling like a river and I began to think over these sudden feelings for her.

It is true that she is beautiful and every man’s desire but I think I don’t have to rush this,

but this thing kept ringing in my mind and each time she come across my mind, I will find myself smiling and happiness was unmeasurable just like the faithful day I saw her.

So I decided to reveal this to my very good friend called Seun, a Yoruba guy. Seun is a psychologist by profession.

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He told me that if I was very excited without knowing why I was excited one morning as I said, and that same day I met her and accepted becoming my friend that means she was not only the source of my happiness but whom nature has designed for me as my woman to be.

He over convinced me with this saying or adage that

“when your own comes you will know”,

he told me that my eye saw my own and decided to show me.

He ended with words of encouragement but I was still asking myself several questions meaning I was not too sure

For the fact I assured myself that I will marry from Delta state and I became excess confused as the friendship continues.

This lady started showing more care day by day but was afraid to tell her how I felt for her as well.

A faithful day, I decided to give a trial and called her out for a Lunch and there, I asked her to be my woman and promised to love her without condition.

And behold she was confused seeing me as an Igbo man proposing to her an Akwa Ibom lady and she asked being in state of dilemma “why do you prefer me amongst other beautiful ladies in Your own land?

I laughed and told her that nature should answer that one! and she smiled and accepted.

The relationship was moving smoothly and enjoyable and truly she was a good woman that every good man would love to and because she grew up in a family that has fear of God and discipline.

She became so different from every other lady have ever met. There was something in her that kept drawing me to her even in this stage of confusion I just can’t help myself than to keep thinking about us what we shared was special.

This courtship was a year plus (+) when I decided to perform her rites and take her to the alter when my mother insisted that nothing will make me marry from that state and if I should, then I have to kill her first.

Behold the whole members of the family was in support of this. but what will I do. My mother may kill herself.

One day my mother whom I so much love and always obey her commands and try to fulfill her wished called me for a private conversation.

To my greatest surprise she tried to convinced me and trust mothers, they can even cry to make you pity them and have their wishes fulfilled.

I became so confused and more daily. I don’t know how to meet my girlfriend and tell her we can’t marry anymore.

I so much love her and I can’t withstand her cries because it touches me so badly.

She is the woman of my choice and for months I have been with her, we never had nor even a frown face for each other except we are playing.

My mother from the other side has gotten a beautiful woman from Delta, a place I always wish to marry from before I met my girl from Akwa Ibom.

The truth is that, I have never disobeyed my mother because she sacrifices a lot for me to be who I am today but now my happiness and fulfillment is found in a particular family in Akwa Ibom.

this is my love story, but currently, I am in state of dilemma, does this still make me a baby at my age? please I need your advice now like mad!

If you were in this situation that I am right now, what will you do? help a brother with advice that can change his love story please. thanks for reading.

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6 HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP TIPS

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP TIPS YOU SHOULD CONSIDER

Healthy relationships are not a relationship absence of disagreement, conflict, etc it is a relationship that stands a test of time. It is a relationship where two imperfect persons come together to form a perfect union. [bctt tweet=”A healthy relationship is not a relationship absence of disagreement, conflict, it is a relationship that stand a test of time.” via=”no”]

It is a relationship that does not dance to the tone of third parties.
Below are some healthy relationship tips that will help your relationship to stand the test of time.

Submission

Submission does not mean stupidity know the right thing to do at the right time, don’t try being mate with your spouse no matter the age difference.

Speak when you know that it is right to speak and when you know that it is your right. (I guess women understand my point here better).

Communication

There says communication is key in life including your relationship. Someone will ask me, “how is communication a key in life instead of just a relationship”

Let me clear the atmosphere, communication is the key to everything we do include our stand with God. You go to God in prayer that is called Communication with God. You make a deal with a customer, you sign a contract with a company, you read this article, that’s communication.

The ways and how you handle your communication with people determine where you are going.

Likewise, in your relationship, communication goes a long way in making a relationship stable. Communicate with your partner no matter how awkward the conversation is. (Tips to a successful relationship)

Respect

It is not until you carry a person’s leg to sweep that signifies a sign of respect. Respecting your partner comes in many different forms.

Maintaining a healthy relationship means respecting, valuing the heart, time, sacrifice of the one that loves and cherishes you.

However, there are many things that you can do in your relationship to break up the bond created like negative talking, discrimination, malice, name-calling, threat, etc.

You can show respect starting by respecting your spouse’s time, sacrifice, and effort. (Use these healthy relationship tips It will set you on the right part.)

Time

Spending a good time with your spouse doing what you two love most or having dinner or watching a movie, is quality time. It helps in building the connection between you two.

Stay Apart

Spending quality time with your partner is great likewise being apart.

Being apart at times will help you build yourself and being able to do your own thing is important.

At times most partners are fade up because they don’t have their spaces anymore, they feel like they are in a cage.

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Love language

This is one of the most important things to look out for before even thinking of taking your relationship forward.

People have unique ways of feeling loved. And if the two of you don’t understand each other love language, there will be a connection lost. Some of the love languages are physical touch, cheerful giving, quality time, word of affirmation, etc.

Therefore, it is important to know which love language works for you, your partner, and your relationship.

With insight into your partner’s love language, you will be able to act and perform your duty so as to stay connected.

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THINGS THAT DESTROYS A RELATIONSHIP

Never allow ignorance to be the reason why you destroy your relationship. if you love and value your relationship then it is your duty to ensure that you secure it with all you got because once you give room to anything that does not look like you, then that’s the end of it.

Therefore, these are a few things that easily destroys a relationship

Comparison

When humans are angry, it turns most of us into tigers, lion, elephant, snake, etc.

No one wants to be compared with another person that’s why it is said, life is turned by turn.

Never compare your spouse with your neighbor, a friend, or relative negatively. Don’t do it by mistake or otherwise, be guided especially when you are angry, control words that proceed from your mouth toward your partner, because you might not have the chance to take it back.

Unresolved Conflict

Malice is an assistant to conflict. When conflict rises up, the first thing that comes up as a solution is malice.

Disagreement must always arise but how you manage and handle it determine the stand of that relationship.

If you really value your relationship, never allow any conflict to go unresolved, if you can’t handle it, seek counseling from people with insight.

Deliberate Wickedness

You had a disagreement with your spouse last night, then early morning you rushed into the bathroom and spent more than your usual time there, and your spouse keeps begging you to step out that he is late for work, interview, etc but you ignored because you want to hurt his feelings also for last night, he keeps begging before you know it, his voice changes to violent, he starts calling you “woman”.

Now you have succeeded in making him angry but of what benefit? You just ended up planting the seed of hatred in your partner’s heart towards you.

Attraction for outsiders

Some couples can be so funny. Don’t call someone your partner if you are not ready to be committed.

Admiring someone is not taboo but fantasies about it sexually are wrong. The attraction for our partners can wear off a bit at times especially when you are sexually attracted to another person.

This act ends up killing our relationship even without us knowing how it got to that stage.

Lack of communication gives room to this act of sexual attraction to occur, so work on your communications.

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Dressing

Dress sexy but not half-naked. Keep your spouse BP high by dressing in a way that your partner can not take his eyes off you.

People with a different sense of dressing like things differently, know your partner’s taste before being emotionally involved.

If your sense of dressing is far different from your partner’s taste and you think that changes can not occur because you like it the way you appear, then don’t go deep into the relationship because one day, his/her taste will finally approach and when that happened, you might not be able to stand because you will be shaken.

You can’t ever force a person to change. So go for someone that will appreciate you not someone that will want to change you to who you are not before being with you. You have values. HOW TO KEEP YOUR MAN

Third-party

Loving your family is good and your mummy, daddy, sis, brother, etc rising up to fight for you is great. But not in our relationship. Once you keep running to your family for every small conflict or difficulties you encounter in your relationship the more you are keeping your door wide open for someone else to come in and run your home for you. And men hate that because you will end up making your family look down on him for not being man enough. That’s a big turn off. Avoid.

HOW TO BUILD A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

It’s your relationship right? and no matter what you do, it is your relationship but I will say this again “if you want to build a healthy relationship, then do this;

Stay away from unfriendly friends.
Don’t involve third-party in all your relationship affairs,
Don’t walk out of a conversation that is related to your relationship issues.
Never compare your relationship to that of your parents, friend, neighbor, siblings, etc instead write your own love story.

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12 Small ways on how to be a better husband now

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

how to be a better husband

Wedding is sweet and beautiful, especially on your imported suit, and a beautiful lady that you have been eyeing for a long time finally stands beside you in a white gown on the alter smiling at you and you do the same. But have you ever check on or pray about how to be a better husband when you marry.

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It will be an error if after the wedding night, in a few weeks, months, a year, etc you two start fighting over some unnecessary things that as a couple, it suppose not to be an issue.

So before getting married, one of your prayer points should be Lord show me how to be a better husband and father that every child or woman will be proud to have in their lives, not the one that will always remind them that it is better to be single or fatherless than having you in their lives.
Make your woman proud of having you not as a perfect husband but as the best husband she could ever ask for.

—Best husband qualities—-

For you to be a better husband, there are some qualities you must possess in other to make this marriage work and some of these best husband qualities are stated below;

1 Be a friend, a big brother, a son: You can’t stay long with someone if you don’t establish a good friendship with them. Yeah, you might be saying what does friendship has to do with marriage? But I will tell you this, friendship has everything to do with your marriage.

Friendship helps you in creating a good atmosphere for communication.
It also helps in building trust. Without trust, no marriage can work.
It will help you be accommodative.
It also generates peace in the home. Etc.

So be a friendly big brother and a son to her that she can lean on or open up to when she feels like talking to someone about something that is bothering her within.

so the first step on how to be a better husband is be her best friend

2 Believe in yourself: if you don’t believe in yourself, no matter what your wife tries doing will look like a waste of time to you.

So first discover who you are, what God has in store for you, and work hard for it.

The best thing that can happen to you is when you are using yourself as a good example when your kids come to you for advice. It makes them proud of you and also a motivation to them.
“If my father can make it, it means I can make it even better.”

You can only strike to be better in life or in anything you do, only if you believe in yourself.

3 Drop the mentality of I am the man: Well, yeah you are the man and no one is struggling with you over that, but there is some level you will reach in life or in your home that you will say let me do it, or let me help.

You may not know how to cook, but you know how to boil water, you may not know how to do that but you know how to chat with someone, etc.

Drop man mentality in the sitting room, go to the kitchen while your wife is trying to fix a meal, keep her company, by chatting with her, looking for her trouble, claiming to do it better than her, offer an assisted hands even if you don’t know how to do that thing.

Why all these?? It will help trigger the feelings.
ii. Most ladies use the kitchen as their quiet place to think both about positive and negative things, but you as the husband being there with her, can help not just her but you in bringing your wife’s thought back to you.
Instead of thinking about something else, she will start thinking about you, and how lucky she is to have you.Be supportive: being supportive does not only have to be about money but believing in her, her dreams, her plans will be a big thing for her.

4 Be an Inspiration: most times discouragement comes and then end up generating depression in us, as a man, understanding your woman’s mode will help you to know when she needs someone to talk to, a shoulder to lean on, and a word of wisdom from you.

5 Distance your friends from your marriage: once you are married, that’s another level in your life, that you won’t want anything to bring you down. There will always be people with a different understanding of what marriage is and what it takes to have a peaceful home.
Keeping your friends out of your marriage will help you to run your home with your wife and not your friends running your home for you.

6 Be passionate: The way you behave and treat your wife determine how your home will be.

being passionate when dealing with your family will be a great way of showing them that you love and care about them.

7 Be Dependable: Allowing your wife to go outside to depend on someone is one mistake you wouldn’t want to do.
Being accountable to your wife in whatever thing that you do will determine if she can depend on you or not.

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8 Availability: A real man is always there for his wife and children no matter the situation at hand.

which means there are always there to play their role as a father no matter what.

9 Not a quieter: when you are not quieter, you will be an independent man, which many women like.

10 Compromise: Before you even think of getting married, you got to know that you are no longer going to be a man alone.

which means whatever you do or act, you have to think about others which include your wife and children.

11 Don’t judge her: Yeah, don’t judge her. she is not perfect neither is she trying to be, instead, she is trying to be the best for you and the children.

In the process of doing that, if she makes a mistake, don’t judge her, cause you will only make her feel less than herself. and I don’t think you want to do that.

12 Communication: Communication is one of the important qualities of a good husband every man should have.
Learn how to communicate with someone without having to fight with the person.
Learn how to talk and sort things out together as a couple.

—–How to be a better husband and father–

Being a better husband: It is very important to try being a better husband because there is no how you can be a better father if you don’t first try being a better father.
For you to be a better husband and father, you must ensure that you possess those best husband qualities in you. And if you discover that you don’t have them, then I will advise you work on yourself first to acquire those qualities before thinking of getting married anytime soon.

So now that you know how to be a better husband.

If a woman cheats will she always

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

If a woman cheats will she always

If you want to know if a woman cheats will she always or will she change later I will say this, it depends on the man she is choosing to be with. Most times women don’t cheat because they want to cheat or because it sweets them to do it but most times it is done because of how their partners treated them.

Women are not polygamous naturally, they enjoy it when a man gives them attention and time. If you can give your woman these two things, then you have her forever.

If a woman finds what she is looking for on the inside, she won’t go outside to look for shelter out there.

A woman who once or twice cheated on you will not cheat on you again as long as you show her love, attention, and time which she deserves then she will cut all her links with the other men or men even before you know it.

Why do women cheat?

1 Most women cheat on their men when they are too busy for them: No matter how busy you are at work or in anything, ensure that you use at least 5minutes of your time to check on your woman.

Send her some short text messages like “You know I love you”, “I miss you dearly”, “I feel like seeing you”, “I love you” “my beauty” “my fine wine”, etc. People can see these as short messages but the important is not the length of the message but what the message convert.

You can join our relationship space to chat with people on this.

Make her feel special, make her feel that you are thinking about her or that you are missing her.

With this, she will not have space to cheat on you. No, when she is smiling all time she looks at her phone inbox.

2 Low self-esteem: A lady who is having low self-esteem will have it difficult to believe that any guy who is rich or handsome can love her to the extend of what she wants.

with this kind of mindset, she will not believe in true love even if the person she is with tells her.
As a man, all you have to do is to help her regain her confidence that you love her just the way she is. and you don’t care about what other ladies are doing outside.
Although sometimes, when men do this, the ladies will still think that it is just for the short period that once you find another lady that you will be tired of her.

In this, you cannot try to convince her by still telling her that she is okay as she is. but you can help her get back herself by telling her for example ” If by tomorrow I like what many ladies are using, I will buy them for you to be wearing them for me, etc”.

This of words makes her understand that no matter what changes tomorrow that you will still stand by her.
Help her fix her low self-esteem and she will never cheat on you again.

3 Lack of communication: A lady will not be able to open up to you if you people don’t have time to sit down and talk about yourself, your relationship, and the future.

Lack of communication generates a lack of time and attention and when this happens, the love that was instilled in the relationship replenishes.
Of course, she will find someone who can worry about her and her future, etc.

how to make sure she never cheats on you

If you truly love her even after she cheated on you and you don’t want her to cheat on you again, then there are a lot of things you can do but these are just a few of them;

1 Show her you care: It is one thing for you to say that you love a woman and care about her and it is another thing for you to show her that you love and care about her.
So you just have to adjust a little of just saying it and start choosing her how much you care about her.

2 Give her your time: This is one gift that women don’t joke with because they know that it is a very important part of the man but in the end, he still divides it and gives her some.

When you give her your time, she will know that she has your attention and when that happens, it means there is an open room for communication.

3 Be real with her: If she does something that you don’t like, open up to her that you don’t like that, this will help her to adjust but when you don’t even when she is tempting you to see if you will react or if you care.

She wants to know the real you. when hurt let her know it hurts and when not, still let her know. This will set her straight and she will be afraid of losing you if she hurts you again.

“I married my best friend don dey vex” see hilarious reactions of New couple frowning on their wedding day

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

A video which is currently going viral online has trailed mixed reactions among Netizens as new couple were captured looking visibly upset during their wedding reception.

The couple who had just landed at their wedding reception from church appeared not to be in a celebratory mood, as they were both seen looking upset.

Although it is yet to be known what had caused them to be sad, but they could be seen sitting and looking sedate on a day that should have been their most happy day.

As the video got online, Netizens took to their comments section to share their reaction to the video as a funny Instagram user wrote

aktmeketino wrote: “Food never reach venue… That kind thing fit make celebrant craze”

In Reaction, someone wrote;

stayc33_ wrote: “I married my best friend don Dey vex”

Fashion_magicblog wrote: “But they must have the part that they laughed but people decided to pick this part and post”

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