11 Tools that can spice up intimacy in your relationship

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Why intimacy dies in marriages

Intimacy matters in a relationship building…

It is obvious that most times, you will see a two- three years marriages scattering every year because of one thing or the other and in this kind of situation no one knows who is at fault and with that it results in wife pointing a finger at the husband and the husband pointing at the wife and they end up blaming one another as if blames can settle a case in a home.

You will also see another home being together for fourth plus something years, some fifty etc still as fresh as when they newly got married.

Now what’s the difference between that, does it mean that the other home is not as rich as this one that’s why their marriage is scattering?

No, is not…

N/B First of all, you got to remember why you got married to the person in the first place, what attracted you to the person etc.

1) Most marriages scattered because of lack of intimacy:

Showering Together: when you and your spouse were in courtship, you were not ashamed to

take your bath with him in fact, you enjoyed it because you felt like you and your man were

couples already.

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Cooking Together: anytime she is in the kitchen you enjoyed hanging around the kitchen even

when match was about to start, you still went there not as if you can cook but just to disturb

her and in the process, she will carry spoon and start chasing you around the kitchen, pursuing

you to leave the kitchen and you two will be laughing and having fun.

Laundry: you do laundry together most time if she is busy with other things or she is not w
ell,

you helped her with the laundry including washing her undies. You told her I love you and

don’t worry babe rest today I will do the chores. And she smiled at you and said you are the

best I love you more.

Dinner: Even when there was food in the house, you two still decides to eat your dinner outside

not because the food in the house was not well prepared but because you two just wanted to

spend the night together.

Dressing: Before you married him, you used to wear trousers, make your hair, dress decent and

look attractive. Many guys fell on your feet just to get your attention and some just to be your

friends.

Your social media was full with admirer and about 1000+ friend requests still piling up waiting for

respond and you felt like a celebrity. He became so jealous that he thinks that if he wastes time from

putting a ring on that finger, he will lose you and he couldn’t bear seeing you in the arms of another man

even without opening up to you.

But what later happen after marriage??

After marriage you started carrying the mind set of what am I looking for again? After all, am not looking

for a husband. with that mindset,

you changed, you no longer wear trousers, making your hair is a problem to you, dress smartly no way.

Instead you start becoming close friend with your wrapper, morning, afternoon and night.

When they see your wrapper, they can see you because one cannot leave the other because of the

bonding. Did he get married to his granny or a young lady?

You no longer shower together because you think that he will take an advantage of you in the shower.

But let me ask, during courtship didn’t he still take advantage of you?? Now you are marriage to the

same man you don’t think that there is a need to continue giving him the advantage.

while she is busy in the kitchen, you are either busy watching match or pressing your phone in

the living room, you no longer enter the kitchen to keep her company, you no longer play

around the house like kids anymore because of maturity

Note: there is no maturity in marriage.

As long as you want to maintain the intimacy you once

established through these tools, you have to pour even more fuel to it.

One thing about marriages is that during this period, is the time

you two have in straightening your marriage in terms of intimacy.

Stopping will only bring damages to your home making your home unhealthy.

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More tools that you need in keeping your home healthy

PRAYER

PATIENCE

UNDERSTANDING

COMMUNICATION

CHECKING ON EACH OTHER maybe through text, videos/voice calls.

AVOIDING BAD COMPANY

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4 Interesting Reason Why You Need to Build Friendship before Relationship

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

FRIENDSHIP AND RELATIONSHIP

Friendship and relationship are two different things. The things that are not working during mutual attachment can not work during a relationship. that is why it is necessary to start any relationship with anyone with friendship then taking it to the next level.

Most times when I tell friends and family that I value friendship most times more than intimate, there is a question I usually receive that is;

Does friendship matter before the relationship? Can’t I get into a relationship first before becoming the person’s friend?

Well, you can still start a relationship before friendship. the fact is that most of them do end in tears because you will go and see the kind of lifestyle you never expected and that occurs because you knew nothing about him and his ways of life.

But note this, a man or a lady who isn’t qualified to be your friend can’t be your wife or your husband. The enemy you know is better than the friend you don’t know.

Friendship has a lot and a huge role to play in your relationship.

Now let’s see the advantages

CLOSE FRIENDSHIP VS RELATIONSHIP

WHY YOU NEED TO BUILD FRIENDSHIP BEFORE RELATIONSHIP

• Friendship brings freedom: there are something’s you can’t do with your lover or in the presence of someone you call your lover, but you can say it or do it in front of your best friend.

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• Secrets Shared: You can’t hide everything from your friend, but you can hide almost if not everything from your lover.

• You will get to know the real person. The atmosphere for fakeness is less than in a relationship.

• You will know his likes. One of the things that are just necessary for a relationship is “compatibility” No matter what you do nor try if you and your partner are not compatible, then there is no forever hope for the relationship nor marriage.

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THEREFORE WHAT ARE THE THINGS YOU CAN BE COMPATIBLE WITH

Daily activities; If he is a 23hours working kind of man and one hour for you and the family, if you are the opposite, which means you don’t like such busy guys, but you prefer a man that spends most of his time doing things with his family then you are not compatible.

2. The way he/she treats family: it is very easy for one to fake to be very caring and loving during a relationship, but hard to fake during friendship and marriage. that’s why you will easily hear people saying “he was not like this when I married him”, “If I knew you were this wicked, I couldn’t have married you, woman” etc.

Now in things like this, if you want to find out, you will discover that most of them just started from a date to a relationship, then marriage.

More than half (1/2%) percent of women, that are in a relationship today, can do the undo just to keep their man, and no matter how you fake the relationship/marriage, it won’t last.

Note: “When you use fakeness to keep a relationship, you will use fakeness to maintain it”. Apst. Jordan Akada.

IS FROM FRIENDSHIP INTO RELATIONSHIP IMPORTANT

Yes, from friendship into relationship is very important as it is going to help you and your partner to grow together in love, understanding, and unity.

It will also help you both to understand that being a grown up does not mean that you are above fun in the home like example pillow fighting,playing of cards, games etc.

many of these can only occur if there is friendship between you two in the relationship.

DO THE BEST RELATIONSHIPS START AS FRIENDSHIPS

From my research, I will say yes to this, and what is your own view? Love is not always constant, it can always fate away, and if no understanding, the relationship dies. Now understanding Can only occur if friendship was already on the ground.

Friendship keeps your relationship/marriage lively. Lively in this aspect means fun and entertaining. So if you want to have a good and happy relationship, start with friends so that you can deal with and sort out what is necessary before you step into the relationship.

WHO IS MORE IMPORTANT FRIENDS OR LOVER

Lovers can always come and go but friendship stands a taste of time.

HOW TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP STRONGER

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Share things.
Share quality time doing what you two like best.
Go on a date at least once every month. It helps to bring back memories.
Cook together.
Be who you are.
Listen
Ask for a suggestion from your partner.
Give room for conversation.
Learn to forgive for no one is above mistakes.
Work as a team.
Be honest etc.
Have funs

friendship and relationship is very important in marriage.

Now i ask, friendship and relationship, which one do you prefer to exist first?

Signs your ex is over you

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Signs your ex is over you

Did you have a breakup with someone but you still love the person or you are just wondering if they are over you? Well, getting over someone you once truly loved is not always that simple like the way it sounds but then when there is no option left, moving on is the best thing to do. So what are the signs your ex is over you so that you can also move on?

There are a lot of signs to look out for so keep reading.

Signs your ex is over you

Before I start giving you the signs, there is one thing you need to know and also you need to understand and that is. Before checking for any signs or before giving meaning to signs, ensure that his or her body language is speaking the same as the signs.

But why do I need to do that?

The reason for doing this is because most times we pretend to be strong while we are crying and speaking something else in our hearts. So to know if they are over you, you have to read the signs alongside their body language.

Okay let’s look at the signs your ex is over you

1 He is not checking on you: Don’t expect that your ex is over you just because he doesn’t check on you for a month or two. You need to give it more than that unless you see him or her with another partner if not, be patient a little longer. This is where you also need to observe the body of your ex.

2 He ignores you completely: if you have been calling or texting or even chatting with your ex but he or she keeps ignoring you, then stop it because it will help you faster than that calling and texting.

When you keep calling or texting your ex, it shows that you still love them and you want them back, doing this makes them feel that they are not too late coming back to you.

But if you text or call for a while and your ex keeps ignoring and you then decided to stop doing those again once he observes that you have stopped pestering him if he still loves you, he will call you or text you

He will be scared that you are ready to move on now that is why you are no longer coming after him.

So if your ex is over you, he will ignore you completely whether you call him or you don’t. check this out 9 warning signs she doesn’t like you

3 He blocks you: yea this might sound like childish stuff but it helps most times if you want to move on from someone.

If you truly loved someone and at the end, the person decided to quit on you then after some months, years you still can’t move on, one of.

the way is to block the person to avoid you seeing the person’s daily activities.

So if he or she blocks you it means that he is getting over you.

4 No more interest: he is no longer interested in whatever you do with your life, he is busy trying to do whatever gives him or her joy not minding if it will hurt you or not.

When your ex is over you, you are no longer is responsible so the way he used to care for you will reduce.

5 He is more engaged with other ladies than before: when a man loves a woman, he reduces the way he chats or plays with ladies especially on social media, at work, at the bar, etc. They avoid anything that will make you feel jealous. But once he is over you, whatever he does is no longer your business so they don’t care anymore what matters now is his happiness and not yours.

6 They have someone else in mind: have you ever sat with your friend or your ex before and all he or she talks about is this guy she meant at work or school or on the street? Does she constantly repeat the guy’s story? Then she is drifting away from you… Her heart and eyes are now on the guy she meant and no longer on you. more updates on this join me on Facebook

7 Communication is awkward: it is not every ex that cuts communication when they break up some still keep in touch but then it will be less fun and awkward.

Learn his body language if he is not over you, he will always be trying to remind you of the memories you both shared and how happy you two were, etc.

But if he is over you, he will only chat like normal friends on social media or once a friend kind of chat which will be awkward.

There are a lot of signs but these are the top 7 signs.

—How to test if your ex still loves you

Do you want to know how to test if your ex still loves you so that you can decide if to hang around or give up if he or she has moved on? Then check below.

1 Get a friend to act alongside as your admirer: one of the ways to know if your ex is over you is by acting a little mind drama.

If you appear in a function or supermarket with a friend acting like a love bird, if your ex becomes jealous, or keep staring in your direction know that he is not over you just yet.

2 Update an emotional thing online: you can post something like “I’m down” or “I’m bored”, etc. And make sure that he or she sees it, if he is not over you, he will be at your inbox right that moment to find out what’s wrong with you that you are down.

He will try to know what is going on with you lately and like that he will keep talking just to keep you company. If you still love him, that’s your chance. you check 17 of what to say to a girl

3 Dress smart but attractive: Do you want to know if your ex still loves you? Be ready for a party, get a new dress or a nice dress that he hasn’t seen you on before making your hair or have it washed, if you are a makeup type, apply a little and then get a plus one or don’t. And off you go.

You want to know if he still loves you not you want to let him know that you still love him, so let him do the eye starring game.

If he keeps starring at you and be smiling, or flirting with you, know that he is still in love with you.

4 Tell him he loves good too: if you are working in the same company with your ex and he keeps complimenting you on how beautiful you are, tell him he is not looking bad too. But don’t hang around for long after saying that. Leave him with his heart right there for him to process what he just heard from you.

If he is not over you, he will come to you and ask you may be one of these questions “did you mean what you said to me this morning”? Act dump by asking him to remind you of what you said. Don’t worry, he will get the signal and process.

If your ex is over you, then it is time for you to move on. But if you think that maybe you made a mistake of letting go then you can check these 10 Sure signs that he loves you without saying it it will help you to know if you made the right choice or the wrong one.

Success in your relationship.

Relationship counseling Chicago

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Relationship counseling in Chicago is a valuable resource for couples facing challenges or seeking to strengthen their bond. Chicago, a vibrant and diverse city, offers a range of relationship counseling services to help couples navigate various issues and improve their overall connection.

In a bustling metropolis like Chicago, the demands of daily life, career pressures, and external stressors can sometimes strain relationships. Relationship counseling provides a safe and supportive space for couples to explore their feelings, communicate more effectively, and work through conflicts.

One of the key benefits of seeking relationship counseling in Chicago is the access to skilled and experienced therapists who understand the unique dynamics of urban life. These professionals often specialize in helping couples address issues such as communication breakdowns, trust issues, intimacy concerns, and life transitions.

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A Woman Talking at a Couple's Therapy Session

Chicago’s relationship counseling services are diverse, catering to couples at different stages of their relationships, from dating and pre-marital counseling to addressing challenges in long-term partnerships. Therapists in Chicago may use various therapeutic approaches, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, emotionally focused therapy, or solution-focused therapy, tailoring their methods to the specific needs of each couple.

The multicultural landscape of Chicago adds an extra layer of richness to relationship counseling. Therapists are often adept at working with couples from different cultural backgrounds, recognizing and respecting the nuances that can influence relationships.

Navigating the ups and downs of a relationship can be challenging, and seeking professional guidance in a city like Chicago can make a significant difference. Couples who invest time and effort into relationship counseling often find that it not only helps them resolve immediate issues but equips them with tools to strengthen their connection in the long run.

Whether couples are looking to revitalize their relationship, address specific concerns, or simply enhance their communication skills, relationship counseling in Chicago provides a supportive and constructive environment for couples to thrive. The diverse array of services and skilled therapists make it a valuable resource for anyone committed to building and maintaining a healthy, fulfilling relationship in the dynamic city of Chicago.

List of relationship counseling Chicago

While I can’t provide real-time information or specific listings, I can offer guidance on where to find relationship counseling services in Chicago. Here are some general suggestions:

1. Psychology Today:
– The Psychology Today website has a directory of therapists, including relationship counselors in Chicago. You can search based on location, specialization, and insurance accepted.

2. TherapyRoute.com:
– This platform provides a directory of therapists, psychologists, and clinics. You can search specifically for relationship counselors in Chicago and find their contact information.

3. Chicago Therapy Collective:
– This organization connects individuals and couples with therapists in the Chicago area. They focus on inclusivity and offer a diverse range of therapists with various specialties.

4. Chicago Relationship Center:
– Specializing in relationship therapy, this center provides services for couples, families, and individuals. They have experienced therapists who can address a variety of relationship issues.

5. The Family Institute at Northwestern University:
– Located in Evanston, a suburb of Chicago, this institute offers counseling services for couples and families. They have a team of trained therapists who work with diverse populations.

6. Center for Contextual Change:
– This center in Chicago provides therapy services for individuals, couples, and families. They focus on relational and systemic approaches to counseling.

7. Chicago Counseling and Psychotherapy Center:
– This center offers a range of counseling services, including relationship counseling. They have licensed therapists who work with couples to address various issues.

8. Chicago Center for Relationship Counseling:
– Specializing in relationship and couples counseling, this center provides services for couples at different stages of their relationships.

9. Open Path Psychotherapy Collective:
– Open Path connects clients with affordable therapy services. You can search for therapists in Chicago and find those who offer relationship counseling.

10. University Counseling Centers:
– Many universities in Chicago have counseling centers that provide services to the community. Contact local universities to inquire about their counseling services.

Remember to check reviews, credentials, and specialties when choosing a relationship counselor. Additionally, it’s often beneficial to have an initial consultation to ensure a good fit between you, your partner, and the therapist.

Is it good to contact relationship counselor in Chicago?

Contacting a relationship counselor in Chicago can be a positive and proactive step if you and your partner are facing challenges or seeking to strengthen your relationship. Here are several reasons why reaching out to a relationship counselor in Chicago can be beneficial:

1. Professional Guidance: Relationship counselors are trained professionals with expertise in helping couples navigate challenges. They can provide valuable insights, offer effective communication strategies, and assist in developing healthy relationship skills.

2. Neutral Environment: Counseling sessions offer a neutral and non-judgmental space where both partners can express their thoughts and feelings. This environment can foster open communication and help address issues more effectively.

3. Communication Improvement: Relationship counselors can teach communication techniques that enhance understanding between partners. Improved communication is often a key factor in resolving conflicts and building a stronger connection.

4. Conflict Resolution: Couples often face conflicts, and a relationship counselor can guide you in developing constructive ways to resolve disagreements. Learning healthy conflict resolution skills is crucial for the long-term success of a relationship.

5. Identifying Patterns: A counselor can help identify negative patterns or dynamics within the relationship and work with you to develop healthier ways of interacting. Understanding and changing these patterns can lead to positive changes in the relationship.

6. Preventive Measure: Relationship counseling is not only for couples in crisis. It can also be a preventive measure to address minor issues before they escalate into more significant problems. Regular check-ins with a counselor can help keep the relationship on a healthy track.

7. Personal Growth: Counseling provides an opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery. It can help individuals understand themselves better, identify personal goals, and contribute positively to the relationship.

8. Cultural Competence: In a diverse city like Chicago, relationship counselors often have experience working with couples from various cultural backgrounds. This cultural competence can be especially valuable in understanding and addressing unique challenges.

9. Resource for Life Transitions: Whether you’re facing major life changes, such as moving in together, getting married, or dealing with parenting issues, a relationship counselor can provide guidance and support during these transitions.

10. Confidentiality: Relationship counseling sessions are confidential, providing a safe space for discussing sensitive issues. This confidentiality allows for more open and honest communication between partners.

It’s important to note that the decision to contact a relationship counselor is a personal one, and both partners should be willing to engage in the process. If you and your partner are open to the idea, a relationship counselor in Chicago can offer valuable support on your journey toward a healthier and more fulfilling relationship.

6 life partner qualities everyone should have

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

6 most essential Life partner qualities you need

Your choice of life partner qualities matters a lot..

It is obvious that women were born with four sight and that’s a

good start but apart from this four sight, what have you done to

improve yourself? What is it you want in life and what are your

plans towards that?

What we do and how we do it determines were we are and where we are going.

A friend once posted her boyfriend photo almost everywhere on

social media but few weeks later, she

took down those photos and updated a status saying;

“To hell with those who think I cannot do without them”

When I inbox her to know what brought about such status, she

told me that she had a fight with her

boyfriend which result in breaking up. That is not the kind of man

that she wants in her life.

I now asked her what is your kind of life partner qualities you are looking?

She said; Do you want to marry or date a Filipino? then start here

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After she told me all this, I now discover that if we expect this

from men, it means they even expect more than this from us.

You know why?

It is because we were the ones born with four sight.

Which means we have responsibilities too, apart from raising children.

A man need a woman who respects him. No man will like to

marry a woman who doesn’t know what it means to respect someone.

And mind you, you can never respect a man if you don’t respect your parent.

The character of a child can be trace to his/her root.

A child who is the same age with her parents will also carry that

life style outside no matter how long she pretends, she will one day unveil.

Even a man needs a woman who will love him not because of what he is capable of during

for her at the particular moment but a woman who will love him unconditional without

second thought which is doubt.

Love has the power to twist someone’s mind even without him knowing.

Which means that even a womanizer has a soft spot which just needs that right lady to get to it.

Even men deserve gifts from their ladies. The same way we expect from them. that’s why having a life partner qualities is important.

Example: you asked him for some cash to go shopping and he gave it to you without

complaints you now went to the mail, you end up spending to the last dime of the cash he gave you. You return home smiling because you got the latest stuff in town, you start show cases it to him and he sits looking at you.

Telling you am glad you are happy and you smile and say thank God I have you. I love you.

And you think that’s it?

Do you think of what he could have said if only you got maybe a tie, key holder, a shirt,

stockings etc from the same money he gave you as a gift to him while you were busy shopping for yourself? It looks simple but it has its own rewards.

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Men like women who make use of their four sight. You told him about your dreams, what and where you want to be in the next three years. But have you ever care to know about his own dreams if he has any at all or not?

What is his stand and his plans towards this dream of his?

Have you tried being a source of encouragement to him or do you look down on his own dreams while your own is the only important one.

If you have not, then that is self-centered. Men don’t like self-centered women

Learn to show him that you care a lot about where he is going.

A man who loves his family will never accept a woman who doesn’t respect especially his Mother because if you don’t respect and love even your own family, you can never be a good mother no matter how hard you try.

A woman who can save: is it not a bad thing to spend but it is good when you know that there is time for everything.

you can’t expect your man to have a saving when you are busy spending.

He has friends which he can likewise sit out with for drinks but instead, he is busy trying to put things together while you, in the other hand you are not helping, my dear, he will soon get tired of you. You know why? It is because you are feeding him with the impression that if he gets poor, you will break up with him.

Most ladies love to put down on their diary the quality of men they want and most times they stay like forever without getting such men they wanted.

Is it because such men don’t exist? No, it is because they don’t have the qualities they are looking for in a man. You can’t give what you don’t have.

Let the you, speak for you, work on yourself and not your diary, let the life partner qualities you are looking for be first of all be seen in you.

N/B you can only attract what and who looks like you. 30 Relationship advice for men and 20 relationship advice for women

6 REASONS YOU SHOULD MARRY YOUR BEST FRIEND

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

MARRY YOUR BEST FRIEND

Having a peaceful and understanding marriage Is what everyone ever prays for but most times it likes those wishes are far from what they later got in their marriage. Does that mean that marriage is not a good thing? No, marriage is a good thing, the certainty is that it was originally ordained by God to mankind.

Many people encounter bad marriage with that they end up in divorce as if divorcing is the final solution or option they got.
You can still save your marriage by making your spouse your best friend.
What do I mean here, what I mean is that all it takes to save your marriage is for you to marry your best friend.

WHO IS YOUR BEST FRIEND:

1. IS YOUR SCHOOL MATE: Being your school mate in this aspect doesn’t mean you both must attend the same Nursery, high school, or college together.
In this aspect, it simply means someone you can learn things with, someone who knows that no one is perfect that life itself is a learning process, whereby he/she is ready to learn alongside you.
In the process of doing that, you two keep on growing together in knowledge.

2. YOUR BEST FRIEND IS YOUR PLAYMATE: There is no happy home without fun. I don’t mean fun only when you need something from your spouse, I mean leisure even when you are not demanding sex or money.

Ladies in the site, how will you feel if while cooking or making some cookies in the kitchen and your husband steps in pretending to be kissing you but end up running away from the kitchen with one of your cookies???
Men in the site, how will you feel if your wife steps into the living room while sitting with the guys and leave you with an unexpected kiss? Is lovely,, right?

Now, watch out for such marriages because that’s a happy home and that only occurs because they understand each other, they know what each other are capable of, the likes and dislikes. They know their limit. This occurs when you marry your best friend.

3. IS YOUR TWINS: Did I say marry your sister or your brother?? No ooooo lol twin here means to marry someone who looks like you, thinks like you, someone you are compatible with.
It may be in your way of life, character-wise, etc. Someone who wants what you want, someone who is not the opposite of your very self but instead he/she is your carbon copy.

4. IS YOUR SECRET KEEPER: Having someone you can share your secrets with and not getting scared that you will hear it from a third party aside from the two of you, is a good thing and you can only share that with your best friend, not your lover.

5. IS ALWAYS HONEST WITH YOU: If you do things and everyone claps hands for you always and no one questions you or rebuke you when you are wrong then it means you are with the wrong people, which will not help you to grow.

Your best friend is someone who will treat your fuck up and still take you back no matter what crazy thing you did.

6. YOUR OUTING MATE: If you have someone around you yet you don’t feel comfortable or energetic, it simply means that you are with the wrong person, so you need to figure it out before it’s too late.

Whosoever you are with should be like a duplicate of you. This means you both needs to think alike sometimes.

7. HE IS YOUR PRAYER PARTNER: That’s nothing that interest one in marriage when it comes to spiritual matters like marrying a man or woman who prays the same prayer point with you instead of praying the opposite.

I can go on and on telling you who your best friend is or who your best friends are but I will not do that, I will stop here for now and therefore walk you through more things about best friend.

Qualities Of A Best Friend

1. Honesty
2. Understanding
3. Supportive
4. Accommodating

After listing a few of these, now the question is why should you marry your best friend?
1. Your best friend will always be honest with you
2. He/she will not be learning how to understand you because it was already established.
3. Communication will not be hard to establish either.

4. After communication and understanding, you need a fun and lively home, that’s where accommodation comes into play.
If you are a fun kind of person, you will also have a best friend that is living like you, and that will help in making your marriage fun.

5. He or she knows your likes and dislikes.
6. He/she knows your flaws but still hangs around like a best friend to support you even when there is reason to give up but no, I can’t leave my best friend because he needs me now more than ever.

Note this, that’s the best quality of a good best friend. So don’t joke with this kind of people.

WHY FRIENDSHIP SHOULD COME BEFORE RELATIONSHIP

6 positive signs she is into you

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Understanding the Signs she is into you

signs she is into you: It is true that most men do not understand nor notice when a lady is indirectly making a move on them.

No matter how the hand writing is written boldly on the wall, they still don’t get it. with a question mark without understanding the signs she is into you

N/B It is not only men that always develop a chemistry for a lady first.

Most times, ladies do. For a lady not to ask you out, ask for your contact, your name etc first doesn’t

mean that ladies don’t have feelings except a man woo them before the chemistry starts developing.

At times it is because she doesn’t want to be seen as a slut, because in some part of the world, if a lady

ask a guy out or let me say initiate the love affair’s discussion, she will be seen as a cheap prostitute and

with that kind of mentality from most guys, ladies in that part of the world can not initiate nor open up

directly to a man she loves. But instead, she will be sitting and waiting for the day he will make a move

on her and most times, such waiting is in vain.

In this aspect, you can’t blame any of the party because is not their fault because the two parties are in

Love.

But when the man has no knowledge of how the other party feels too, he feels reluctant and without

courage, he can’t initiate the move in which the other party is waiting patiently for.

In this article, you will get to know some common signs you should look out for.. signs she is into you,

ATTENTION: It is not easy to have a lady’s full attention. When I say full attention, I mean

undivided attention if she is not into you especially when you two are sitting out.

Note: a lady who is just your friend will always react either by smiling, arranging herself etc

when another man from the other table is admiring her from his seat. At times without you

noticing, she will look for a little act to perform just to send a signal to the other man that there

is no attachment between you two than just friends.

CHEERFUL: she is always happy being around you, she laughs at every silly jokes that proceed

from your mouth be it entertaining or not as long as it is from you. At work, if you are sad or

dull, she will be available trying all she could just to make you smile she doesn’t mind doing silly

things just for a smile on your face.

STARRING: this is the most common part of being into someone that you must always observe

but that doesn’t mean that everyone that stares at you is into you lols.

Let me explain this. There is how someone stares at you and by you starring back at him/her the

reaction on the person’s face changes. It may be a smiling reaction, an angry reaction, a shy reaction,

eyeing reaction etc.

Now this is my point.

“look out for those reactions” and know how and when to arrange your game and step up.

N/B but if is an angry reaction, my brother that’s not love whispering oh that is danger which means

disappear. Take my advice and thank me later. lols

most times, the heart and the eye speaks the same language especially when it comes to reactions.

So learn how to read someone’s face to help you identified a fake smile and the real smile because

both have something attached to it.

PHONE CALLS: most ladies prefer texting to calling. But if she starts calling you like every day

morning, afternoon and night not for anything important or business but just to check on you,

my brother, you don’t still need a physician or a counselor to examine you then finding out that

those are signs she is into you full time.

And if you call her, she picks it up immediately. Don’t blame her nor call such desperation.

It is the power of love and she can’t help it because all she needs is those three words from you.

I LOVE YOU. Which if you don’t look out, it may be too late when you now decide to say it.

DOMESTIC: She comes around just to help you with some chores around the house, cook for

You, your laundries and at times sits to have some fun, jokes with you.

Note: she doesn’t come around to help you because she is jobless nor is she a chef but she

comes around so that you could see her and notice her.

All she needs Is your attention.

DISCUSSION: Once a lady uses a man as the sub heading of their discussion, know that it is

either she is in love with you which you are safe OR she dislikes you which is unsafe.

She discusses about you with her friends anytime the winds of love blow and for you to know if

you are safe, check the reaction of her friends around you. If it is positive know that she speaks

good about you to them more often but if their reactions are annoying, know that she speaks

nothing good about you anymore. And no reaction at all means that the love is dying. And if you

don’t safe it on time by showing her that you are into her too then am afraid if you will be able

to get her full attention any more.

And if after all these signs she is into you that she is showing, and you still don’t realize in and on time that she is in

love with you, my brother before you will later realize it, it may be too late. And that maybe

when she is already in the arms of another man.

There is a saying that goes this way:

“You may never know what you have until you lose it” but I will say:

“you may never know how much you love and needs a person until you see her in the arms of another man” delay is dangerous.

Do you still have the question mark, “Are these signs she is into you” make a move today.

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10 SIGNS HE LOVES YOU MORE DEEPLY THAN YOU EVER KNOW

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

SIGNS HE LOVES YOU SO DEEPLY

He loves me so much, he checks up on me at all times, he is a nice guy, etc the question is, does he believe in you? How does he behave when you are with a male colleague? What about his friends?? When he believes in you, that’s a sign he loves you. What do I mean?

Love generates trust and trust generates belief and therefore belief brings forth understanding.

The best gift a man can give to you as his woman is to love you from his heart. Because when he does, insecurity and negativity give way for faithfulness and understanding to set in.

Quote me anywhere, “No home can stand a test of time if there is no belief and understanding.

One of the signs he loves you is that he believes in you and that does not only have to do with romance kind of belief only but also

1. Your dreams. A man who loves you and also wants you in his future will always have an interest in your dreams too and not just that, he will also try to generate a positive vibe to motivate you never to give up.

2. He believes in your abilities: A man who loves you will not try to use your weak point against you knowingly to him. Because he knows what you can do, what you can’t do, and what you will never do no matter what pressure it comes with. And that generates trust.

3. He believes in the future: there are only a few men that can ask you about your plans for the future therefore if you happen to have such a man as a friend or fiance then hold him tight enough because it is also one of the many signs he loves you and cares not only about you of now, but then, you of tomorrow.

4. He will be excited about your achievements: it is only a few men that feel this way when their women achieve something big.

Men always feel like since they are the head of the family, that they suppose to earn more than the wife nor anyone in the family, not the other way round.

But when it happens in the opposite direction of what they expected, then inferiority complex steps in and plays with their heads, and if care is not taken, they give in, then start using their own hands and jealousy to spoil their homes.

But a man who believes in you even when he’s jealous of you will comfortably invest his time to assist you on your project or profession Because He will always see your success as his success too.

When your wife succeeds, that’s you succeeding. Don’t let the mindset of ” If she earns more than me she won’t respect me again this and that. Because it will spoil your home for you.

They are still many ladies out there who still love and respect their husbands even when she knows very well that she contributes 60-70% of whatever the family needs.

Don’t use what Mr. Paul told you about his woman success behavior turn around and ruin your home. It is your home, your family, not Mr. Paul’s family.

So never compare your woman and you as a woman never compare your man to your friend’s husband or your EX. He is your ex because he wasn’t good enough to be in your present life so let him/her remain in the ex-world.

All home/women can’t be the same. Celebrate your woman’s accomplishment as well as she celebrates yours. You can’t harvest what you never investing no matter how she pretends one day she will be tired of it. So appreciate what you have don’t wait until you lose it.

5. A man who believes in you will not doubt your faithfulness: yea things happen which makes it hard for people to easily trust, but I want to ask ” why did you even marry her or him when you knew that you have a trust issue”?

Nothing hurts, like you trying all your possible best to be faithful to your partner yet he or she is still not helping matters due to trust issues.

A home without trust, do not function well, not because you don’t want it to work but because every effort you or your partner makes or puts seems like a waste of time, and effort and time are precious.

So value what you have and try not to scatter your home because you can’t trust someone.

It isn’t a must that you should trust your partner completely, but at least try because apart from saving your home, it will also help you in many ways like;

1. No high blood pressure

2. Peaceful siesta (a peaceful siesta is a nag that you take in the afternoon without thinking of how many ladies your man has touched or collected contacts from today.

3. Your kid’s health. one thing we ladies need to know is that the more you doubt your man and be fighting every day, hurts your kid’s health, emotion, spiritual life, Academy, social life, etc.

Your kids should be one of your priorities when dealing with issues.

6. He Gives You Attention: nothing interests us ladies like our men giving us attention even without asking. Attention doesn’t mean him not doing anything in a day except sitting down at home to give a chat with you.

But attention in the area of him asking about your day, health, work, plans, your worries, your stupid jokes, your gossip even when he is not interested in your girls to talk.

7. He Gives You a breathing space: there is a difference between insecurity and showing that you want someone.

You can still show that you want your partner without giving them the impression that you are feeling insecure.

If your man still lets you have some moment to yourself to sit with friends, communicate with other people even with the opposite sex without checking on you every minute to know if you are laughing with other guys.

It simply means that he believes you thereby trusting you that no matter who you chat with or sit with, you only belong to him and that he is not sharing you with any other man.

And that’s a sign he loves you.

8. He Speaks For You: anything or anyone that you believe in is worth protecting. So don’t be so blind that you don’t decode that he loves you even if he receives a slap or gets bullied because of you.

9. He smiles at you: so smile can be fake but when someone frequently smiles at you, you can always detect when he is showing affection.

There are so many other signs he loves you. But for now, know these first signs he loves you before the intimacy aspect which is coming very soon.

6 DIRECT DANGEROUS SIGNS YOU’RE ABOUT TO GET DUMPED

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Hurt Signs you’re about to get dumped

Dumping someone for someone else has become so rampant that most youth use it as fun without knowing the implication of it nor the effect it carries especially if you were not aware of the signs you’re about to get dumped

But it is obvious that breakups do not just happen or come out of nowhere but it’s from that small changes that occur in the relationship or marriage.

So in this article, I have gather some flags you should look out for in your relationship or marriage.

Signs you’re about to get dumped are as follows:

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LESS COMMUNICATION

YOU DISGUST HIM/HER

LOST OF INTEREST

LESS ATTENTION

SPACE AND TIME

PHONE CALLS BECOMES BORING: Phone calls start becoming less frequent, he/she can stay a

day or two without calling you and still feel well okay without you.

He doesn’t even mind if you call him or not. “For example, if you normally talk twice a day, and

all of a sudden, it’s just a text or nothing at all… well, look out, that could be a sign of danger.”

LESS COMMUNICATION: Perhaps we all know that communication act the highest role in every

healthy relationship. You want to know why?

It is because is the key factor in any relationship. It is during communication that tables get

shaken.

You cannot stop what needs to be stopped nor silent what needs to be silent without having a communication.

that’s why during prayers, we are actually communicating with God.

So without communication in a relationship, that relationship is doom.

N/B nothing good can come out of a relationship that does not involved communication.

YOU DISGUST HIM OR HER: He speaks, criticizes you on every small issues that occur.

It is true that is not everything your partner nor you do that is that great to your standards and with that, there will always be a debate from time to time.

But when everything you do annoys your partner, everything you do is wrong in his eyes, like

the way you laugh, the way you speak, the way you associate yourself with his family or maybe

your friends or his own friends, just know that it is heading nowhere.

Don’t let anyone change you from your positive nature because one day, he will still leave you

for a partner who knows how to associate with his family and friends.

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LOST OF INTEREST: You feel your partner start to pull away little by little from whatever you two used to have interest on.

Maybe you two used to visit the park together every Church evening, going out with friends, same hobbies etc.

But all of a sudden, your partner stopped, he started giving excuses every now and there even

when the excuse is not valid, he frequently tries avoiding any discussion that has to do with the

way forward of the relationship. And if you’re no longer hanging out, you no longer share the

same hobby as before, maybe your partner is too busy with his phone more than what you two

shared then the writing “DANGER” is on the wall.

YOUR PARTNER IS LESS INVOLVED IN YOUR LIFE: “Once your partner starts becoming less

concerned about your day at work, how you are faring, how you are holding up etc just know

that you don’t exist in his life anymore”

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LESS ATTENTION: If your presence means nothing to your partner it means you are no longer

his priority, and with that, the attention will start to reduce your body language means nothing,

even while sharing the same bed, he minds his Conner by facing a different direction from u or

pretends to have kept before you just to avoid you showing you red light to mind your business.

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SPACE AND TIME: If your partner asks for space, don’t stop her nor him because the romance, the fragrance of that relationship is dying.

so looking out for signs you’re about to get dumped is very important because it helps you to be stronger and able to move on when it finally happens.

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How To Spice Up Your Marriage In 20 Outstanding Ways

February 22, 2024 by Joy Ekpouko

Tips To Spice Up Your Marriage

It is one thing to fall in love it is another to fall out of love not because you want that to happen but because the species in the marriage is long gone thereby leaving you and your spouse the chard which cannot and does not have what it takes to help in keeping your home.

Having a wonderful wedding, with VIP’s friends is not the conclusion that your marriage will be wonderful but doing a few things to spice up your marriage after the wedding night can help to sustain your home even when you don’t know the effect of it.

There are so many ways to spice up your marriage but we will go with a few of them for now.

Therefore, How to Do You Spice Up Your Marriage/relationship
Let’s start first with the lady’s aspect but go into the men’s aspect.

1. Learn How To S*duce Your Husband: being shy in this aspect won’t help you therefore, the earlier you suppressed that shyness, the better for you and your home.

He is your husband so wanting him is not a sin, is a kind of ingredient which is necessary for you to build your marriage.
Make your husband know that you want him just as he wants you. Don’t make him always be the one to make the first move at all times.

Things that can help you s*duce your husband

1. Wear a s*ductive nightgown that he can’t resist

2. Fresh up by taking your evening bath so has to smell well.

3. Get yourself a nice body perfume.

4. If you are at home with just him, dress in a way that is calling and not using a wrapper around your chest, and be walking around the house like someone without a destination.

5. Use nice and clean under clothing, it is a turn-on. Don’t go and use one kind of outdated undies that will only remind your partner of your financial status.

2. Check upon him: he went to work from 7 a.m till 8:30 pm, no call, no text nothing… No that’s not it, if he is busy, then drop him a short love or a short missing you text message to remind him that someone special is missing him and is waiting patiently to meet him at home after work.

This magic works, try it and see. It is a sign that you love and also want him also.

3. Learn how to cook: a woman who controls a man’s stomach has the power to control his heart. Learning how to cook just because your husband is a nice move. It will be taboo if you are not good in the kitchen and also not good in the bedroom.

4. Surprise him with his favorite: knowing your spouse’s likes and dislikes is a big plus to helping the love to grow. But how??

For example, if your husband’s favorite food is a salad, find a day, prepare a salad for him when returning from work, put enough in his plate, serve him if you can even feed him with the first spoon, then do it but ensure that he knows that the night or that period was special and the meal was for him.

Am telling you, the way he will be smiling both in and out can be the same you saw on your wedding night.

5. Dressing: dress nice that your man can not take his eyes off you even in public. Dress to remind your man that you still have the package and you are still very active. With that, he won’t look outside even if he had the intention to.

As a man:

1. Be R*mantic: Ladies don’t dress because they just feel like Dressing, they dress because they want to look good for themselves and also for you as their spouse.

Therefore how can you be r*mantic??

There are many ways to be r*mantic but then I will just go with a few.

1. Your dress sense: don’t make her be the only one trying to look good for you every time try and also reciprocate.
You may not have many clothes but learn how to combine the few you have. Is an additional mark on your physical appearance. If you dress and your partner doesn’t look at you twice, then change that dress because it doesn’t carry the charm of captivation.

2. Phone calls: there is a way you can check on your woman and it doesn’t sound or look like you are feeling insecure.
Call her, text her with little messages reminding her how much you love her. how you value her, how special she is, how lucky you are to have her in your life, and lastly, for now, let her know her worth and position in your life.

Don’t only call her when you are looking for something at home and you want to confirm from her where to find it.

And also don’t only call her when you want her to get something for you or for the house when she is coming back to the house. Try and be r*mantic at least once and see the charm working in your home.

3. Call Her Sweet names: If you love your woman, a name shouldn’t be a problem because you will not be looking for a name to call her since she means everything to you.

Don’t call your woman a name and attach your child’s name to her example, Mummy Samuel, mummy Junior, Mummy P, etc… Call her sweet names that will always make her smile anytime she hears them from you.

Example: My precious, treasure, my queen, baby, Imaima(my love), Akemmi (My own), Darling, sweetheart, my lady, etc.

2. Complement Her: appreciating what you have is a way of showing that you admire her, make her smile in a way that no matter what other men say to her as a compliment will not sound new to her ear why??? Because her darling husband compliments her at all times not only in the b*droom.

3. Dinner Date: yes you are already married. And so what? Take her out frequently, to bring back memories, have fun, chat r*mantically, drop office work for this period and concentrate with her only.

4. Spend Time Together: Spending time together helps in building the bond between you and your partner making it easy for you both to connect both intimately or otherwise.

5. Do Something New Together: spending time with your spouse is one thing and knowing what to do while spending time with him/her is another, therefore make some plans before that faithful day since you are the master planner of the day so create a nice event for the day, if you can’t recall, Jot them down to help you remember every plan you had for the day.

You can cook her favorite if you know it and also know how to cook Which is necessary to know your woman’s favorite.

But if you don’t know how to cook, well I guess you just found yourself one of the new things you can do together at this time, creating first-time cooking memories in that kitchen is something you can’t forget in a lifetime, etc.

Spice up your marriage so that divorce can be far from your dwelling.

Also, note that the steps given here on how to spice up your marriage can also be used to spice up your relationship.

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